should I tell her?

[experienced punter]

Help me out with opinions please. I'm seeing a lovely woman a cracker for past 2 weeks I've known her for months as a 'friend', now it is more or less u could say a relationship etc A few nights ago she pressed me on my past sexual experiences 'how many women have u slept with in the past?' I kinda changed the subject but I'm being pressed & know I cant avoid the question any longer, I've slept with many escorts & non escorts over the past few years should I admit that I slept with many escorts I genuinely dont know what her reaction would be shes that kinda girl very open-minded herself, This is causing me sleepless nights Should I tell her?

[anon361]

Help me out with opinions please. I'm seeing a lovely woman a cracker for past 2 weeks I've known her for months as a 'friend', now it is more or less u could say a relationship etc A few nights ago she pressed me on my past sexual experiences 'how many women have u slept with in the past?' I kinda changed the subject but I'm being pressed & know I cant avoid the question any longer, I've slept with many escorts & non escorts over the past few years should I admit that I slept with many escorts I genuinely dont know what her reaction would be shes that kinda girl very open-minded herself, This is causing me sleepless nights Should I tell her?

Sorry EP but your taking the piss right?? Tell her, hell no, it doesn't matter how open minded she is you admit to sleeping with an escort and it's bye bye's. Just pick a reasonable number but no more than 5 and make shit up...

[Wildthang]

Sorry EP but your taking the piss right?? Tell her, hell no, it doesn't matter how open minded she is you admit to sleeping with an escort and it's bye bye's. Just pick a reasonable number but no more than 5 and make shit up...

Agree totally! Tell her about the escorts and its YouTube - Good Byeeeeeeeeeeeeeee

But then again dont they say all relationships are built on trust and honesty!

Maybe some of the women can help you out on this one ????

[Kerrybeagle]

[QUOTE=Wildthang;81375] But then again dont they say all relationships are built on trust and honesty! [QUOTE]

Anyone who tells you this is either lying or else doesn't have very long relationships.

All relationships are built on knowing what to tell and what to keep secret to avoid hurting the other person. I'm married 22 years and love my wife, but she's crap at sex. My relationship has only been happy since I started satisfying that part of my needs elsewhere. Don't do it, don't tell her. She does not even want to know the truth; her question is exactly like the "Does my bum look big in this?" question - she already knows the reply she wants and any other answer will piss her off big time.

PS - still and all, the sex-adict answer does appeal to my ego!

[experienced punter]

Sorry EP but your taking the piss right?? Tell her, hell no, it doesn't matter how open minded she is you admit to sleeping with an escort and it's bye bye's. Just pick a reasonable number but no more than 5 and make shit up...

I'm not messing u see I'm fuckin guilt ridden

[Wildthang]

I'm not messing u see I'm fuckin guilt ridden

Ahh see thts where your going wong You need to kill tht mother fuking Conscience right away. "killing it, will set you free"

[silo]

I'm not messing u see I'm fuckin guilt ridden

Guilt is in your conscious mind and infested your subconscious mind, as soon as guilt plays your head you have to distract yourself with other thoughts to break this guilt ridden thinking pattern.

[Last time]

Guilt is in your conscious mind and infested your subconscious mind, as soon as guilt plays your head you have to distract yourself with other thoughts to break this guilt ridden thinking pattern.

Using the above mind set...if you tell her, all she will remember from now on when you are having sex...or an argument....or anytime good or bad, is that you slept with escorts. She will think...you pay girls for sex! She will not see that these girls are lovely, good looking and sweet. She will see them as abused, manipulated poor little girls that you have exploited.
As Silo said...guilt is in your consious mind....tell her and it will be in her subconcious mind. Meaning that you can get rid of you guilt by not letting the thought go any further and dismiss it but it will go into her memory bank for ever and even if you do not last she will have to tell someone of your secert who will tell someone else and so it will continue....

[silo]

Do Not Tell Anyone! they can use it against you if you fall out, even your best friend can backstab you with this type of information if he fancied your wife in the future, trust no one!

[experienced punter]

Using the above mind set...if you tell her, all she will remember from now on when you are having sex...or an argument....or anytime good or bad, is that you slept with escorts. She will think...you pay girls for sex! She will not see that these girls are lovely, good looking and sweet. She will see them as abused, manipulated poor little girls that you have exploited.
As Silo said...guilt is in your consious mind....tell her and it will be in her subconcious mind. Meaning that you can get rid of you guilt by not letting the thought go any further and dismiss it but it will go into her memory bank for ever and even if you do not last she will have to tell someone of your secert who will tell someone else and so it will continue....

great answer

I've taken a day off work due to the stress of this situation