should I tell her?

[luther]

EP this is a very complex matter that delves deep into the subconscious of many people who have repressed and unresolved emotional issues, that often revolve around guilt and they manifest themselves in the conscious mind as stress....

There's a few very simple questions to ask yourself that will make your decision easier but the most important is "is there anything to be gained by telling her?"

Ok so you feel guilty about things you've done in your past, but you must accept the fact that they are now in you past.........

Your right, feelings of guilt can be released by talking to someone and telling them what you feel guilty about, but you're new lady is not the one to tell......

If you don't tell her then you again feel guilty of lying to her...... Tough choice........

Really neither of you will gain anything by telling her about your punting, you may feel better for being honest, but the benefits of being economical with the truth far outweigh the damage that may be done.....

If you think the guilt that you feel from things you've done in your past in hindering your progression, either in your own life, in moving forward in a relationship, or both, then talk to someone......... but not her........

IMO, you won't gain enough by being honest with her to risk the damage you may do, I say you may do, because you could be lucky enough to have found a wonderful and understanding woman who may not judge you for things you've done in you past, after all you weren’t going out then, but if she really didn't care about your past she probably wouldn't have asked about it, or, she may just be asking because she may be feeling insecure about the lack of, or amount of experience she has......

In conclusion............ I wouldn't.....................

Sorry, I went on a bit there.................And good luck................

[experienced punter]

EP this is a very complex matter that delves deep into the subconscious of many people who have repressed and unresolved emotional issues, that often revolve around guilt and they manifest themselves in the conscious mind as stress....

There's a few very simple questions to ask yourself that will make your decision easier but the most important is "is there anything to be gained by telling her?"

Ok so you feel guilty about things you've done in your past, but you must accept the fact that they are now in you past.........

Your right, feelings of guilt can be released by talking to someone and telling them what you feel guilty about, but you're new lady is not the one to tell......

If you don't tell her then you again feel guilty of lying to her...... Tough choice........

Really neither of you will gain anything by telling her about your punting, you may feel better for being honest, but the benefits of being economical with the truth far outweigh the damage that may be done.....

If you think the guilt that you feel from things you've done in your past in hindering your progression, either in your own life, in moving forward in a relationship, or both, then talk to someone......... but not her........

IMO, you won't gain enough by being honest with her to risk the damage you may do, I say you may do, because you could be lucky enough to have found a wonderful and understanding woman who may not judge you for things you've done in you past, after all you weren’t going out then, but if she really didn't care about your past she probably wouldn't have asked about it, or, she may just be asking because she may be feeling insecure about the lack of, or amount of experience she has......

In conclusion............ I wouldn't.....................

Sorry, I went on a bit there.................And good luck................

Thats fine Luther thanks I've changed my mind about going for a walk on the bridge instead I'll go to the Clarion hotel here its the tallest hotel in Ireland....

[Tommy Singh]

Thats fine Luther thanks I've changed my mind about going for a walk on the bridge instead I'll go to the Clarion hotel here its the tallest hotel in Ireland....

if you get it across right to her ,it could show you up in a very good light.Honesty.This is one thing that very very few guys would say to a girl.I dont know you or how you express yourself but if you get it across right and also have valid reasons for doing it (if she asks) then you could look even better in her eyes because your being honest and its takes guts to be honest on such a topic.

Its up to you but i repeat what i said.She isnt in your life long enough to cause you such emotional distress.While this may sound uncaring its the truth.In fact its a rather premature q on her part considering you two arent together long.

Remember its not like your cheating on her and the fact that you fell bad about keeping this in means that you have genuine feelings for her and also have substance to you as a character.

If i were you ,knowing what i know of the situation from reading this ,i would hold off until you know her and how she reacts better.If you do tell her later then you can always state that you didnt want to hyrt her or cayse her upset.You can even refer her to this thread.Im serious.Any guy can talk but it takes a real man to walk regardless of the consequences.

There is a river by the Clarion in case your wondering,
Westside.

[luther]

I'll go to the Clarion hotel here its the tallest hotel in Ireland....

Good idea, book a suite as a surprise for her, top floor for the great view, order room service and champers...

Wine dine and her...... ....... forget all the other stuff and enjoy new love......love1

[Stewie]

I think you said this girl is a foreign national in which case she may not have the same morality issues as good Irish catholic girls.

However to be on the safe side at his stage I would not mention it as if you are that worried about it you don't seem confident that she will take it well.

Or you try sugar coating it like a story about lads weekend in Amsterdam everyone was doing it so you gave it a try if she doesn't freak out you can tell her about the other 476 escorts you seen since then.

[Anna23]

By the way, do you even know the exact number? You can say u dont remember exactly and thats it. Problem solved. She didn't ask about escorts so there won't be any lying involved.

[annasavicha]

Thats fine Luther thanks I've changed my mind about going for a walk on the bridge instead I'll go to the Clarion hotel here its the tallest hotel in Ireland....

If she rejects you,i m just behind the clarion by the way.....

[annasavicha]

There is a river by the Clarion in case your wondering,
Westside.

And Anna is just behind the Clarion with the river beside it..........and anyone can tell me anything they want....i ll never judge........

[luther]

If she rejects you,i m just behind the clarion by the way.....

I think that's his plan Anna.....

He's on the roof in disguise looking at you now.......

[annasavicha]

Ummm.....i think i can kinda see him.....wait i ll run back in to put on my underpants it s raining and windy.........