If we use escorts does that mean we do not love our wives or girlfriends?

[wiseone]

Men are attracted to shapely, pretty women, as it follows, they could produce healthy,
popular offsping.

Educated/smart women are attracted to socially percieved power and wealth, (look at Sarkozy's new missus).
They believe these men will be able to easily provide all resources for a happy family.

w

[rover]

Men are attracted to shapely, pretty women, as it follows, they could produce healthy,
popular offsping.

Educated/smart women are attracted to socially percieved power and wealth, (look at Sarkozy's new missus). They believe these men will be able to easily provide for all resources for a happy family.

w

What does an ugly gobshite like me come under.

[rover]

What does an ugly gobshite like me come under.

Somebodies arse I hope, preferably female.

[bored housewife]

sorry i just had to reply to this one, as a married housewife whose husband (unbeknown to his wife) is probably logged on here right now i know all about this. Any man out there who uses escorts and think they will either a) will get away with it b) thinks it is acceptable behaviour to cheat on his wife and possible mother of his kids is totally deluded. You will get found out and trust me the fall-out will be huge, my husband as i said is a regular punter, i yes, use escorts (male) on occasions but mainly that is partly because he is either on the net and has become totally fixated on the "fantasy" i.e. real-life fu**king no longer appeals to him. Also, i use escorts because he is no longer attractive to me, the whole whitey Irish, pot-belly is not a turn on.
But back to the point, how can you say you love your girlfriend or wife when the amount of inconsideration that goes into to actively tracking down and selecting an escort, it is not just a random act of cheating. It is planned and calculated, you know you are going to cheat, you are fully aware that you are risking your marriage. Anyhow, i am in the process of buying my own home and have been in contact with a solicitor to process divorce papers. He started with the whole escort thing, he has no clue that i know and that i have been unfaithful and he won't find out either because he is too preoccupied with his own fantasies. I will get all the money, the cars, and will sell the house that we own. He will have once weekly access to his kids and i will make sure everyone knows his other life, and i cannot wait to see th shock on his face! Some may say double-standards but for fucks sake this is a message site for escorts! How can any of us take any high moral ground
That is my two cents on the matter

[TheNads]

You sound like the sort of woman I'm glad I've never known.
How about confronting your husband ? Tell him everything you said here. See how he handles all that. It sounds to me like you have drawn a line through your marriage a long time ago & the escorting thing is a convenient reason to end it all, take it all & shame him.
You once must have loved him & now you obviously hate him. Do you hate him enough to really do all that to him ?
Maybe you should look at why you think he started seeing escorts ? In my experience no marriage ends with 100% of the blame on anyones shoulders.
Your black & white logic is scary. Have a good look inwardly & ask yourself how you have contributed to your marriage being where it is.

[bored housewife]

it is black and white though, you cheat, you brag about it you review your conquest. The question asked is whether or not one can love their wife if they do this and the simple answer to me is no. It is a marriage breaker, i know a few women whose husbands have cheated with escorts and trust me i am not the only one who has reacted like this. I know one man whose wife left him with nothing absolutely nothing. You see the problem is that the men here think they can have both: the loving wife and the "stunning" (ahem) escort, they underestimate the pain that this causes, they expect the wife to be docile and just accept it.
I have read Rovers posts with interest and to me there is a made with a internal struggle and someone who may be better off Googling SLAA. I began punting only when i knew my marriage was dead, my kids were small so i couldn't leave. I have needs too, most men here seem to see their wives in the Madonna/Whore image, but i want the lovely South American young boys with big c**ks who is tanned and knows little English. My husband is the polar opposite to that and i don't think i could get turned on if i wanted so i buy it. It is wrong, but that is because it is exploitative.
Would any man here like knowing that while he is at home wanking over porn that his wife is having the best sex of her life? I don't think so and ergo the double standards are huge.
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[Quarterpoundher]

sorry i just had to reply to this one, as a married housewife whose husband (unbeknown to his wife) is probably logged on here right now i know all about this. Any man out there who uses escorts and think they will either a) will get away with it b) thinks it is acceptable behaviour to cheat on his wife and possible mother of his kids is totally deluded. You will get found out and trust me the fall-out will be huge, my husband as i said is a regular punter, i yes, use escorts (male) on occasions but mainly that is partly because he is either on the net and has become totally fixated on the "fantasy" i.e. real-life fu**king no longer appeals to him. Also, i use escorts because he is no longer attractive to me, the whole whitey Irish, pot-belly is not a turn on.
But back to the point, how can you say you love your girlfriend or wife when the amount of inconsideration that goes into to actively tracking down and selecting an escort, it is not just a random act of cheating. It is planned and calculated, you know you are going to cheat, you are fully aware that you are risking your marriage. Anyhow, i am in the process of buying my own home and have been in contact with a solicitor to process divorce papers. He started with the whole escort thing, he has no clue that i know and that i have been unfaithful and he won't find out either because he is too preoccupied with his own fantasies. I will get all the money, the cars, and will sell the house that we own. He will have once weekly access to his kids and i will make sure everyone knows his other life, and i cannot wait to see th shock on his face! Some may say double-standards but for fucks sake this is a message site for escorts! How can any of us take any high moral ground
That is my two cents on the matter

Good for you.

What’s good for the goose is good for the gander. You are entitled to the Matrimonial home as from what you say he cheated on you first and people can dress it up any way they want and say seeing an escort is not cheating if emotion is not involved but they are codding themselves. I have sympathy for someone who is in a loveless marriage or who love’s their partner but the spark is gone etc a marriage should not be a life sentence with no hope of parole as things can change and go wrong and I can see how someone could get drawn into this and take the easy option and say nothing as in reality who would say to a partner they are off out to see an escort for the first time? It would be the best thing to do that and let the cards fall where they may but its easier said then done to just say they should end things first or come to some understanding especially if children are involved but at the end of the day they are betraying a commitment made and at some point the consequences will have to faced up to and be paid for if a partner finds out.

I have no sympathy however for people who are as far as a partner is aware are in a happy marriage and brag about their “conquests” and worry more about their punter number being compromised or getting a discount rather then give a seconds thought to the hell that a partner who knows or suspects they are being cheated on might be going through deciding should they put up with being treated like a mug and a skive for the sake of maintaining the pretence of a normal family life for the children's sake while he gets his oats or take the courageous step that BH is taking and securing her home and future rather then stand meekly by and let her husband piss their life savings away.

I admire your guts and take him to the cleaners…

[Tommy Singh]

You sound like the sort of woman I'm glad I've never known.
How about confronting your husband ? Tell him everything you said here. See how he handles all that. It sounds to me like you have drawn a line through your marriage a long time ago & the escorting thing is a convenient reason to end it all, take it all & shame him.
You once must have loved him & now you obviously hate him. Do you hate him enough to really do all that to him ?
Maybe you should look at why you think he started seeing escorts ? In my experience no marriage ends with 100% of the blame on anyones shoulders.
Your black & white logic is scary. Have a good look inwardly & ask yourself how you have contributed to your marriage being where it is.

Why because she stands up for herself?Funny thing.If a guy cheats on a woman he is apparently some sort of hero but if a women cheats on a guy she is apparently some sort of slut.

Sorry but if i were a woman and the mother of kids i would mangle the head off my partner if he saw escorts.The cost alone ,which could have being used on the kids would justify it.

True a marraige doesnt end with 100% blame on an any party but so does reconciliation take both parties.If you have a problem with a marraige you talk to the partner not go and see an escort.?I think far too much blame is put on women for being ,a bitch or nasty or restricitve or in case i forget she doesnt do anal.Seriously if all that troubled me was whetehr a partner did or didnt do something like anal then i would end my life right now.

I think these reasons or so called issues that guys mention as being the reason to see escorts are just excuses to make the guys own mind feel better and justified.

I am single and i have lost touch with quite a few guys i know ,not through anyones fault but they got married and had kids etc.I am not married nor have i kids and i wont do either until im 100% certain that i can be the best husband ,father i can be.Its difficult at times but its also good at times.What i dont do is fuck up another persons life to suit my wants and needs and certainly not cause children the trauma of seing their parents splitting ,just because she doesnt do anal or some other sort of bs.

If you have a partner and have children then you have responsablities to those kids and that partner and fuckin up the family is defo not on that line of responsability.

Westside.

[TheNads]

I largely agree with Bored Housewife, QPH & Westie but as I know a bit about conflict resolution etc. I was just seeing what she had to say for herself.
I must insist though that there is never 100% blame attributable anywhere. The dynamics in every single marriage are different & can be influenced by so many factors that there is no 1 size fits all solution.
This scenario doesn't effect me but I often wonder at the motives of our married brethern & at their domestic situations. To Bored Housewife I'd only advise that you be very careful to limit the impact on your children. Your feelings come 2nd to theirs.

[silo]

Yes no and I swear honeyI was loking for Ford Escorts in Ireland.
I dont know how this came up.
must of doozed off and click on a link in my sleep

In the early days when I couldnt figure out how to clear the yahoo search list I did type in all sorts of ford escorts to blend it in haha , i hate ford escorts "oh, I was searching for escorts for a friend!"