The Ethics Of Escorting.

[dave028]

Odds are they probably see escorts too!!

You might be right, I see sex as a fun thing to do but they seem to be more relationshipy about it if that makes sense.

[EIFII]

Isn't it crazy that the worlds oldest profession is still so stigmatised and morally unacceptable, yet the reality is that in this country it is a thriving industry ticking away discreetly in the background?!

The feminist argument that no one would freely chose to be an escort and that all people are coerced into doing so is rubbish. Lots of people do things they don't feel like doing in 'normal' jobs all day long, but no one questions that! Heaven forbid that the truth be told that many escorts enjoy their work, how immoral and repugnant is that?!!!!

In my humble opinion booking an escort is the same as hiring any other professional who provides a service, a doctor, a therapist, a mechanic- you pay them money and they provide you their service.
Sex work is a service for which there is huge demand, yes in good old catholic "down with that sort of thing" Ireland too. And yes the main incentive for us "happy hookers" is getting paid - like most people engaged in a profession! Many people enjoy their job and it's no different for an escort. The old cliche is true, most enjoy meeting new people. And many of us even do it because we enjoy sex!!

This post says nothing new, but merely rehashing the same old point that escorting should be considered the same as any other profession. Of course I agree with such a proposition

However I was hoping for something rather more thought provoking. What is it like to sell intimacy? How does that affect a lady's self worth? How do they cope with doing something for fun, giving the gift of intimacy to a lover or partner, when that is exactly what they are selling.

And from the client's side, does it diminish a man's self respect, as some would claim? How do we decide how much to spend, how often to visit? Are we only limited by financial constraints, or are there other more subtle contraints? Is visiting escorts truly addictive, to the extent that clients make financial sacrifices, possibly affecting partners or families, in order to satisfy their cravings? How does visiting escorts affect relationships and friendships outside of the escorting community? There is a well know hypothesis that watching porn leads people - men in particular - to have unreasonable expectations when it comes to their sexual encounters. Is this true?

These are clearly not easy questions to answer, and of course there will be many different answers. They would at least form the basis for a far more interesting discussion.

Anyone?

[dave028]

This post says nothing new, but merely rehashing the same old point that escorting should be considered the same as any other profession. Of course I agree with such a proposition

However I was hoping for something rather more thought provoking. What is it like to sell intimacy? How does that affect a lady's self worth? How do they cope with doing something for fun, giving the gift of intimacy to a lover or partner, when that is exactly what they are selling.

And from the client's side, does it diminish a man's self respect, as some would claim? How do we decide how much to spend, how often to visit? Are we only limited by financial constraints, or are there other more subtle contraints? Is visiting escorts truly addictive, to the extent that clients make financial sacrifices, possibly affecting partners or families, in order to satisfy their cravings? How does visiting escorts affect relationships and friendships outside of the escorting community? There is a well know hypothesis that watching porn leads people - men in particular - to have unreasonable expectations when it comes to their sexual encounters. Is this true?

These are clearly not easy questions to answer, and of course there will be many different answers. They would at least form the basis for a far more interesting discussion.

Anyone?

Good questions I think seeing escorts has done me a world of good and let me try things that I might not have gotten the chance to do. Any escort that I've seen has treated me great being very warm, welcoming and willing to please if I ever settle down I want someone who will treat me like that. I don't think porn causes men to have unreasonable expectations maybe some people are just a bit more open to different things than others.

[Irish Siobhan]

This post says nothing new, but merely rehashing the same old point that escorting should be considered the same as any other profession. Of course I agree with such a proposition

However I was hoping for something rather more thought provoking. What is it like to sell intimacy? How does that affect a lady's self worth? How do they cope with doing something for fun, giving the gift of intimacy to a lover or partner, when that is exactly what they are selling.

And from the client's side, does it diminish a man's self respect, as some would claim? How do we decide how much to spend, how often to visit? Are we only limited by financial constraints, or are there other more subtle contraints? Is visiting escorts truly addictive, to the extent that clients make financial sacrifices, possibly affecting partners or families, in order to satisfy their cravings? How does visiting escorts affect relationships and friendships outside of the escorting community? There is a well know hypothesis that watching porn leads people - men in particular - to have unreasonable expectations when it comes to their sexual encounters. Is this true?

These are clearly not easy questions to answer, and of course there will be many different answers. They would at least form the basis for a far more interesting discussion.

Anyone?

If I felt that my self worth was diminishing then I wouldn't continue. But for me it's not the case at all, quite the opposite. This profession has given be great independence, both financial and otherwise, I'm self employed, my own boss and work my own hours so I have great flexibility around personal commitments. Plus the typical stigma that gentlemen who use the services of escorts are seedy old men is not the case at all. Maybe it's becau
Se I'm quite selective in who I choose to see but thankfully I've never had a bad or uncomfortable experience. The majority of my clients are respectful, polite & well mannered. I definitely have clients who I find attractive and get on well with, having them pay me for my time dosnt knock my self worth at all, believe me!!

As for selling Intimacy, I think a lot of women cannot separate sex & emotions whereas men can. That is why I genuinely do not believe that married clients do not not love their wives - of course they do, but for them it's just sex, a naughty little escape for a while. I can definitely separate sex and intimacy think of a one night stand you're really only in it for your own gratification as opposite to the intimacy of being with someone you're emotionally connected with.

So there ya go hope that answers your questions!!!!

[thewren]

JFK

[Irish Siobhan]

JFK

The irony of using a meme to post that quote . . .

[alcatel]

This post says nothing new, but merely rehashing the same old point that escorting should be considered the same as any other profession. Of course I agree with such a proposition

However I was hoping for something rather more thought provoking. What is it like to sell intimacy? How does that affect a lady's self worth? How do they cope with doing something for fun, giving the gift of intimacy to a lover or partner, when that is exactly what they are selling.

And from the client's side, does it diminish a man's self respect, as some would claim? How do we decide how much to spend, how often to visit? Are we only limited by financial constraints, or are there other more subtle contraints? Is visiting escorts truly addictive, to the extent that clients make financial sacrifices, possibly affecting partners or families, in order to satisfy their cravings? How does visiting escorts affect relationships and friendships outside of the escorting community? There is a well know hypothesis that watching porn leads people - men in particular - to have unreasonable expectations when it comes to their sexual encounters. Is this true?

These are clearly not easy questions to answer, and of course there will be many different answers. They would at least form the basis for a far more interesting discussion.

Anyone?

Since I am not an emotional little chappie, these questions and potential answers are of small interest to me. Tbh, I find you to be a more interesting poster with the more obvious air of superciliousness, the use of ironic emojiis and repeated claptrap about dealing with fools.
Anyone?

[thewren]

The irony of using a meme to post that quote . . .

The quote was in relation to the mindless need for stigmatization of an individual or collective group, solely due to their chosen profession.

[randaddy2017]

If I felt that my self worth was diminishing then I wouldn't continue. But for me it's not the case at all, quite the opposite. This profession has given be great independence, both financial and otherwise, I'm self employed, my own boss and work my own hours so I have great flexibility around personal commitments. Plus the typical stigma that gentlemen who use the services of escorts are seedy old men is not the case at all. Maybe it's becau
Se I'm quite selective in who I choose to see but thankfully I've never had a bad or uncomfortable experience. The majority of my clients are respectful, polite & well mannered. I definitely have clients who I find attractive and get on well with, having them pay me for my time dosnt knock my self worth at all, believe me!!

As for selling Intimacy, I think a lot of women cannot separate sex & emotions whereas men can. That is why I genuinely do not believe that married clients do not not love their wives - of course they do, but for them it's just sex, a naughty little escape for a while. I can definitely separate sex and intimacy think of a one night stand you're really only in it for your own gratification as opposite to the intimacy of being with someone you're emotionally connected with.

So there ya go hope that answers your questions!!!!

I agree. One can have sex without love. (One night stand). And intimacy can happen with or without sex or love. I think all escorts offer sex, and a degree of intimacy...or perceived intimacy.

[FredLopez]

Isn't it crazy that the worlds oldest profession is still so stigmatised and morally unacceptable, yet the reality is that in this country it is a thriving industry ticking away discreetly in the background?!

The feminist argument that no one would freely chose to be an escort and that all people are coerced into doing so is rubbish. Lots of people do things they don't feel like doing in 'normal' jobs all day long, but no one questions that! Heaven forbid that the truth be told that many escorts enjoy their work, how immoral and repugnant is that?!!!!

In my humble opinion booking an escort is the same as hiring any other professional who provides a service, a doctor, a therapist, a mechanic- you pay them money and they provide you their service.
Sex work is a service for which there is huge demand, yes in good old catholic "down with that sort of thing" Ireland too. And yes the main incentive for us "happy hookers" is getting paid - like most people engaged in a profession! Many people enjoy their job and it's no different for an escort. The old cliche is true, most enjoy meeting new people. And many of us even do it because we enjoy sex!!

you are contradicting yourself here, most escorts don't really accept it as a legitimate business and dont pay income tax on their earnings and are afraid to tell others about what they so how can others move on and accept it when the escorts cant accept it themselves, all is hidden, kinda of underground, so in a way they stigmatise the whole thing themselves so its not the same as jobs like a a doctor, a therapist, a mechanic,