Serious q: negative impact on relationships

[Mr Sweet Guy]

Life isnt that simple mate. There are plenty of people in relationships with their partners whom they love, BUT they have other needs or fantasies that cant be met in that relationship. Those urges dont negate that love. But refusing to acknowledge them could lead to frustration.

And I agree as you need to work on it and if other half won't cooperate then it hard to find a solution and no one want to live in sexless relationship but your right as your needs have to dealt with as does lead to frustration for all and I guess meeting these Ladies does take strain of pressure at home and for yourself included......

[Mr Sweet Guy]

As if ever do that mate !!

Like as I say seriously mate as forever mate like , as you just never know

Then I APOLOGISE to you Stephanie as to me you be loyal to your partner unless they cheat on you.......

Nice to see Ladies like you Stephanie and that lucky Gent who grab you will have a loyal Lady in hand.....

[Stephanie]

I'd say many many people (men+women) are ... hence We can ease the burden , lighten the load , put a smile on the face and a spring in their step ...

: then these lovelies get to go home to a perfectly wonderful home with a loving family and a long future lovingly bonded to their wives ,

but not have to bear the weight of unrequited need for intimacy , not have to bear the weight of sexual frustration and unfulfillment ..

Not needing to pressure their partners for 'things' not forthcoming .

No longer needing to bear the feelings of rejection and building resentment towards their partners ,

whose needs (sexual / intimacy) are diff to their own .



Takes the pressure off , tension gone , Love for the Other can triumph over carnal necessity and need xx



What was the question XX

You can have deep love romantic love , and respect for another , have a life-long commitment to a partner

where the ONLY thing you may be incompatible on is the level or frequency or intensity of intimacy .

Why on Earth would anyone throw away a cherished person , a valued and priceless harmonioius futuresome relationship

just because he (or SHE !!) needs to 'get it on' more often than the other !??

What foolishness of social sanctimonious squandery to toss aside the possibly most compatible person you'll ever meet ,

you'll ever have , whose thoughts you know and trust , whose love and committment you'd never doubt ,

what foolhardy man or woman would toss aside a 'love for life' just because of a silly thing as

needing / wanting a bj every so often but not getting it at home !??

Madness .


But discretion above all else ! Respect yourself , and respect your partner to the utmost !

: Play safe ; play away from home ; Respect Your Partner ; and love her Deeply without reservation or resentment x

Ask yourself Stephanie would you live in dour sexless relationship and be happy.......

As my guess your other side might not be happy and could be cheating on you as it pointless statement you made as that why married or clients with partner see Escorts or cheat on love ones as they not happy in relationship and would you stay with your partner if you found out if they where cheating with some one as would you still cherish and love them then........

Life isnt that simple mate. There are plenty of people in relationships with their partners whom they love, BUT they have other needs or fantasies that cant be met in that relationship. Those urges dont negate that love. But refusing to acknowledge them could lead to frustration.

And I agree as you need to work on it and if other half won't cooperate then it hard to find a solution and no one want to live in sexless relationship but your right as your needs have to dealt with as does lead to frustration for all and I guess meeting these Ladies does take strain of pressure at home and for yourself included......

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[gonzo76]

So instead of opposing my statement , why not post your Own Opinion on the matter ??

Refer to OP >>>

Well Stephanie I don't know where you got that from, I didn't oppose your statement at all, I was just saying that I think there is a difference between genders and their attitudes to infidelity. And that is my opinion.

As for the op, if I had intended to post about that, I would have responded to it. I cannot because it hasn't happened to me.

[Stephanie]

You can have deep love romantic love , and respect for another , have a life-long commitment to a partner

where the ONLY thing you may be incompatible on is the level or frequency or intensity of intimacy .

Why on Earth would anyone throw away a cherished person , a valued and priceless harmonioius futuresome relationship

just because he (or SHE !!) needs to 'get it on' more often than the other !??

What foolishness of social sanctimonious squandery to toss aside the possibly most compatible person you'll ever meet ,

you'll ever have , whose thoughts you know and trust , whose love and committment you'd never doubt ,

what foolhardy man or woman would toss aside a 'love for life' just because of a silly thing as

needing / wanting a bj every so often but not getting it at home !??

Madness .


But discretion above all else ! Respect yourself , and respect your partner to the utmost !

: Play safe ; play away from home ; Respect Your Partner ; and love her Deeply without reservation or resentment x

But I wonder how many men would be so understanding if their wife or girlfriend was visiting male escorts?

I know you are accounting for both, but I think guys would not be so understanding as women!

I do wonder ..

I also wonder how many wives or GFs or SOs would be happy and accepting of their partner stepping out ...

Hence my emphasis on Discretion and Respect !!

So instead of opposing my statement , why not post your Own Opinion on the matter ??

Refer to OP >>>

Well Stephanie I don't know where you got that from, I didn't oppose your statement at all,

I was just saying that I think there is a difference between genders and their attitudes to infidelity. And that is my opinion.

As for the op, if I had intended to post about that, I would have responded to it. I cannot because it hasn't happened to me.

Perhaps from you focusing on a nook to post a 'yes but' statement instead of feeling the whole meaning of my post lol x

I wasn't trying to be Gender Specific Or Gender Neutral .

Was just a General Observation and opinion from my heart

Well Stephanie I don't know where you got that from, I didn't oppose your statement at all,

I was just saying that I think there is a difference between genders and their attitudes to infidelity. And that is my opinion.

As for the op, if I had intended to post about that, I would have responded to it. I cannot because it hasn't happened to me.

^^^ That's a totally valid observation , and my apologies if I had misinterpreted your post .


Won't you elaborate on that issue so ? xxx

[Westsidex]

Have many/any of you who have/had partners (wife/gf) experienced a negative impact on your personal relationship with your them (wife/gf) due to you punting?

This could be in minor way (less turned on by partner) or more significant (sex addiction, caught std, break-up).

It sadden me to say I have. Sex with my partner seems, at times, boring compared to that with an escort. I feel shitty admitting that, but its the truth. Just wondering if Im alone. Are any of you in largely good relationships with someone your not quite sexually compatible with?

Poor guy my fuckin heart bleeds for you. Why don't you ask this. Imagine how damaging to the partners self esteem this would be if she found out? Do you guys have any idea how damaging this is to the partner? Its worse than cheating and that came from a woman mind you.

Tough shit if your sad,
Westside

[Westsidex]

I lol at the excuses that some come up with. Ffs go talk to mammy about your needs or grow the fuck up. Selfish couldn't give a shit about anyone but yourself is what it is.

Simple,
Westside.

[Stephanie]

I lol at the excuses that some come up with. Ffs go talk to mammy about your needs or grow the fuck up. Selfish couldn't give a shit about anyone but yourself is what it is.

Simple,
Westside.

God darn them fools being only frail fallible humans like grrr :spank-'em: !!

[Bratsimpson1]

Poor guy my fuckin heart bleeds for you. Why don't you ask this. Imagine how damaging to the partners self esteem this would be if she found out? Do you guys have any idea how damaging this is to the partner? Its worse than cheating and that came from a woman mind you.

Tough shit if your sad,
Westside

I am sad




That you don't post more often




You always lighten the mood

[Bratsimpson1]

I lol at the excuses that some come up with. Ffs go talk to mammy about your needs or grow the fuck up. Selfish couldn't give a shit about anyone but yourself is what it is.

Simple,
Westside.

There may be Oedipus complex guys about.


Best not to encourage them.