Serious q: negative impact on relationships

[ford pefect]

I have talked to my wife about out sex life as the "experts" advise , and although she agrees with nothing changes, she has no interests at all So I see escorts to satisfy me.
Am I wrong ? Or is she wrong ?

[dave028]

I've never seen an escort while I've been in a relationship but the sex with escorts is way better like purely form a technique and knowing what they are doing standpoint. I've only ever seen TS escorts so maybe that has something to do with it.

[Stephanie]

Poor guy my fuckin heart bleeds for you. Why don't you ask this. Imagine how damaging to the partners self esteem this would be if she found out? Do you guys have any idea how damaging this is to the partner? Its worse than cheating and that came from a woman mind you.

Tough shit if your sad,
Westside

It would be extremely damaging to the partner in a committed relationship to find out that their other half is seeking needs elsewhere .

( : been there , done that , have the T-shirt -- been cheated on , it's soul crushing )

That is why this should not be taken lightly , and before someone ventures into these waters they'd need to do some

v serious soul searching and valuations on their own moral values and the value they place on their relationship .

That said ,

I do believe it is still preferable that the one with the unmet sex drive / intimacy needs -- so long that person intents to and

desires to continue in their established r/ship (and reasonable and extensive discussions have led to No mutually agreeable solution !!!)

-- seek relief for their needs as opposed to becoming resentful , needy , demanding , nagging , bitter , abusive , etc . , etc . , etc . ,

thereby poisoning and destroying an otherwise happy and possibly futuresome relationship .




: of course this be only my opinion :-) xx

[Stephanie]

I have talked to my wife about out sex life as the "experts" advise , and although she agrees with nothing changes, she has no interests at all So I see escorts to satisfy me.
Am I wrong ? Or is she wrong ?

A Fable :

A happy handsome little Bee flew and landed next to the most scrumptious delectable peach Blossom on a twig .

They fluff and measure and admire and appreciate one another for a good spell .

Fall in Love .

And the Bee says : come , fly away with me !

And the Blossom says : oh , why won't you just settle beside me , life is wonderful just here ...


Moral of the Story : they be different ; their Nature different ; their Needs different .

Can they not still Love and Respect one another ??


lol : continuation of the Story -- Bee goes flying off , collects some nectar dusts his tail elsewhere ,

returns to Blossom for the night and for all eternity that Blossom lives x

THE END

Happy Ending X

[Sexy Sandy 69]

If a couple have been together years, sometimes they drift apart, their lives take them in separate directions & with both parties becoming distant, resentment can set in. When there's problems in the relationship, the intimacy stops but the needs & sexual wants of one or both, don't wain, but for whatever reason they very rarely seek the intimacy with each other. Also, a lot of women once they have children, they spend their time looking after the children, house etc & spend significantly less time with their partner, resulting in the lack of a sex life.

Is seeing escorts detrimental to a relationship? It can be, but not addressing the issues in a relationship can also be just as detrimental.

My personal opinion is that having an affair is more detrimental to a relationship as there tends to be more emotional attachment, plus one half of the affair, usually the woman, wants more from the affair as time progresses.

If guys seek pleasure from escorts when they're in a relationship, that's up to them, it's their life.

Sandy x

[Stephanie]

I've never seen an escort while I've been in a relationship but the sex with escorts is way better like purely form a technique and knowing what they are doing standpoint.

I've only ever seen TS escorts so maybe that has something to do with it.

Hi x

Question : in your private life when in a committed relationship , would it be a r/ship w a man or a woman ? xx

[dave028]

Hi x

Question : in your private life when in a committed relationship , would it be a r/ship w a man or a woman ? xx

I've only had relationships with women I don't think I could be in a relationship with a man.

[Westsidex]

There may be Oedipus complex guys about.


Best not to encourage them.

Yeah, you should log out.

Westside.

[Westsidex]

If a couple have been together years, sometimes they drift apart, their lives take them in separate directions & with both parties becoming distant, resentment can set in. When there's problems in the relationship, the intimacy stops but the needs & sexual wants of one or both, don't wain, but for whatever reason they very rarely seek the intimacy with each other. Also, a lot of women once they have children, they spend their time looking after the children, house etc & spend significantly less time with their partner, resulting in the lack of a sex life.

Is seeing escorts detrimental to a relationship? It can be, but not addressing the issues in a relationship can also be just as detrimental.

My personal opinion is that having an affair is more detrimental to a relationship as there tends to be more emotional attachment, plus one half of the affair, usually the woman, wants more from the affair as time progresses.

If guys seek pleasure from escorts when they're in a relationship, that's up to them, it's their life.

Sandy x

Yes it is their life but they run around trying to fish up some way of thinking it's OK to do it. .

Westside.

[alcatel]

Yes it is their life but they run around trying to fish up some way of thinking it's OK to do it. .

Westside.

Let he who is without sin cast the first stone.
As a committed, evangelizing Christian, only present here to proselytise Floki( and redeem him from Scandinavian heathenism), I accept the doctrine of Original Sin.
Ergo we are all sinners and stones and glasshouses make poor bedfellows.