No more TS's for me :(

[justaguy123]

I don't think all of society is there yet. Most people wouldn't understand. I think as time goes on, views on sexuality and relationships will probably become more liberal. But from your wife's perspective, opening up to her about this particular sexual desire could leave her thinking that she couldn't ever fulfil you herself. I agree that suppressing emotions isn't necessarily the healthiest course of action. But people do this all the time and simply learn to cope with it. Being in a relationship is largely about sacrifice and compromise. I'm sure what you have with your wife and child is much more important to you and easily worth the sacrifice.

[Forceuser]

I guess quoting Freud might be too complicated and elusive for some ...especially here

But here I go lol according to his theory of id,ego and super-ego your dilemma is shared by many men , in particular those attracted to beautiful women with XL and juicy clit

There is a part of u (your id) that wants to explore and enjoy part of life , your unconcuous drives , sexual desires and fantasies . Which btw , happens to everybody and there is nothing wrong in exploring and indulging yourself now and then with some bit of caution obviously .

However there is another part of you (super-ego) that thinks it is wrong ,as it goes against what have been taught to you by great figures of power such as religion , parents our culture etc ..wether we want it or are concious about it, all of us have internalized these rules and aim for perfection or the closest we can get of it .

In the middle of all of these , there is a human being(ego) trying to make sense of it all , and looking for the best decisions, trying to suppress your intimate desires and definately dealing with the guilty that comes along with it . I think a guy who wants what some may consider to go against the ''social norms'' has to be stronger than the avarage .

This incongruence of ego,super-ego and id can be very detrimental to someone .It is no coincidence that some of these guys end up looking for ways to anaesthetize their feelings of guilty and as a result of it falling into self desctrutive patterns and unfortunately wasting great part of their lives .

About relationships .. it may come as a surprise but despite of all the cons of being a transsexual for me and most of us it's not a big problem . I've been lucky enough to have met some extraordinary guys and shared awesome moments with them. IMO the best relationships would allow you to be oppen in all aspects of u and your life and would never require you to be a mediocre human being . That's the reason why I wouldnt work while in a relationship , but then again that's just me .

I guess... i've been writing way too much , long story short yolo :P
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Im a jungien man myself

[Anitafan]

I guess quoting Freud might be too complicated and elusive for some ...especially here

But here I go lol according to his theory of id,ego and super-ego your dilemma is shared by many men , in particular those attracted to beautiful women with XL and juicy clit

There is a part of u (your id) that wants to explore and enjoy part of life , your unconcuous drives , sexual desires and fantasies . Which btw , happens to everybody and there is nothing wrong in exploring and indulging yourself now and then with some bit of caution obviously .

However there is another part of you (super-ego) that thinks it is wrong ,as it goes against what have been taught to you by great figures of power such as religion , parents our culture etc ..wether we want it or are concious about it, all of us have internalized these rules and aim for perfection or the closest we can get of it .

In the middle of all of these , there is a human being(ego) trying to make sense of it all , and looking for the best decisions, trying to suppress your intimate desires and definately dealing with the guilty that comes along with it . I think a guy who wants what some may consider to go against the ''social norms'' has to be stronger than the avarage .

This incongruence of ego,super-ego and id can be very detrimental to someone .It is no coincidence that some of these guys end up looking for ways to anaesthetize their feelings of guilty and as a result of it falling into self desctrutive patterns and unfortunately wasting great part of their lives .

About relationships .. it may come as a surprise but despite of all the cons of being a transsexual for me and most of us it's not a big problem . I've been lucky enough to have met some extraordinary guys and shared awesome moments with them. IMO the best relationships would allow you to be oppen in all aspects of u and your life and would never require you to be a mediocre human being . That's the reason why I wouldnt work while in a relationship , but then again that's just me .

I guess... i've been writing way too much , long story short yolo :P
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Laura,
thanks for this. One of the more serious and better posts that I have seen on here. I need to take some time to reflect on this, and see whether I buy into Freud's theories or not. And I would still love to meet you sometime to discuss further.

[laura boldrini]

If u were being serious there, that would have been a great example of ego defence mechanism where unconscious mind try manipulate, deny, or distort reality in order to defend against feelings of anxiety and unacceptable impulses and to maintain one's self-schema.

I think we are going off topic tho

take it easy IDF

Is cross dressing a mental illness?

When I indulged no, odd yes (according to society.)

I was a preteen and had this overwhelming urge.

Are you mentally ill?

I don't think so but according to psychologists now (but not at the time I indulged no) you are.

Can you trust psychologists?

Make up your own mind.

Great post, compelling argument but Freud is mostly discredited now.

We now have the Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders which is being added to every day by popular vote.

And according to that we are all insane.

Not insane today? Be careful when the next edition comes out you will be!

All good business insanity these days.

[JustinBeaver]

No more for me either, I have saw few top TS from here and service good but they are never as good looking as their pictures. Never and not worth what they charge and i'm a rich c*nt.

[irishjp]

The juice is definitely worth the squeeze.
Never waisted a penny on any of these fine lady's all money well spent.
Not really cheating if you don't get caught lol

[tony516]

One thing I've learned from this thread is how thoughtful, interesting and intelligent Laura Boldrini and Ms Rammer are. And I find that really attractive

[Forceuser]

I guess quoting Freud might be too complicated and elusive for some ...especially here

But here I go lol according to his theory of id,ego and super-ego your dilemma is shared by many men , in particular those attracted to beautiful women with XL and juicy clit

There is a part of u (your id) that wants to explore and enjoy part of life , your unconcuous drives , sexual desires and fantasies . Which btw , happens to everybody and there is nothing wrong in exploring and indulging yourself now and then with some bit of caution obviously .

However there is another part of you (super-ego) that thinks it is wrong ,as it goes against what have been taught to you by great figures of power such as religion , parents our culture etc ..wether we want it or are concious about it, all of us have internalized these rules and aim for perfection or the closest we can get of it .

In the middle of all of these , there is a human being(ego) trying to make sense of it all , and looking for the best decisions, trying to suppress your intimate desires and definately dealing with the guilty that comes along with it . I think a guy who wants what some may consider to go against the ''social norms'' has to be stronger than the avarage .

This incongruence of ego,super-ego and id can be very detrimental to someone .It is no coincidence that some of these guys end up looking for ways to anaesthetize their feelings of guilty and as a result of it falling into self desctrutive patterns and unfortunately wasting great part of their lives .

About relationships .. it may come as a surprise but despite of all the cons of being a transsexual for me and most of us it's not a big problem . I've been lucky enough to have met some extraordinary guys and shared awesome moments with them. IMO the best relationships would allow you to be oppen in all aspects of u and your life and would never require you to be a mediocre human being . That's the reason why I wouldnt work while in a relationship , but then again that's just me .

I guess... i've been writing way too much , long story short yolo :P
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If u were being serious there, that would have been a great example of ego defence mechanism where unconscious mind try manipulate, deny, or distort reality in order to defend against feelings of anxiety and unacceptable impulses and to maintain one's self-schema.

I think we are going off topic tho

take it easy IDF

I have never been tempted by a ts girl until now
I guess the mind is the biggest erogenous zone

[laura boldrini]

I think It would be quite an experience

I have never been tempted by a ts girl until now
I guess the mind is the biggest erogenous zone

[Forceuser]

I think It would be quite an experience

Im all for expanding my horizons