Unsolicited texts after leaving review

[SteveB]

I agree somewhat with what you say but does it warrant getting unsolicited messages of complaint from as escort? If the lady feels it is unfair then she can always reply to the review.

Suspect the use of texts is because what was said would not be acceptable in a review reply.

[James f]

I agree somewhat with what you say but does it warrant getting unsolicited messages of complaint from as escort? If the lady feels it is unfair then she can always reply to the review.

Just down to inexperience. As this was the first time it happened she probably feared losing clients. I think she just wasnt aware of what impact it could have.

[anon361]

I agree somewhat with what you say but does it warrant getting unsolicited messages of complaint from as escort? If the lady feels it is unfair then she can always reply to the review.

I didn't comment on the unsolicited texts purely because not only has it been made clear on this thread but on countless threads before this, use a separate sim, if you don't then you have only yourself to blame.
It's not the first time and definitely won't be the last a lady contacts a client after they have met hence the need to use a separate one, wait till you start getting the hey I'm back in town messages

[Kinky69]

Hi All

Not much of a poster on these forums but wanted to gauge opinion. After leaving what I considered a fair review of my experience with an escort, I was sent some unsolicited texts. The message was along the lines of 'you are going to cost me money', 'I'm so upset I canceled my appointments for the rest of the evening. and 'I cannot read your mind and I thought you had a good time'. I thought the purpose of the review system was to be honest. I did not appreciate the messages and there is an option to reply available to the girls.

Does this happen a lot?

Thanks

Wolfie

I read your latest review with great surprise as I’ve met the lady in question on a number of occasions and have never felt disappointed. I’ve always found her to be most welcoming, willing to please and happy to do whatever she can, within reason of course, to make the appointment a mutually special and enjoyable occasion. She is very friendly and chatty and nothing is ever too much trouble. She also has a generous and caring spirit and the most wonderful personality you could imagine. She sets very high standards for herself, which is reflected in her achieving 100% 5 Star review ratings up to now – with one exception. So, I’d just like to offer my thoughts on your recent review and subsequent postings under the heading “Unsolicited texts after review” which presumably are connected.

Firstly, in your review you say you were ‘a little disappointed’ even though you also say ‘I did enjoy myself’. Why then I wonder did you let such a “little disappointment” colour your overall review rating so disproportionately. It’s very confusing and even more so when you say “had I booked a 30 min appointment I would be giving 5 stars all round’. I think it’s so important for us all to be balanced and fair in our overall review ratings and to be mindful of the impacts they can have on the livelihoods of people, who often work in challenging circumstances to provide this kind of service.

Secondly, your review suggests you weren’t actually refused anything at any stage during the appointment and certainly not a “second round” as you describe it. Your 16 previous reviews would indicate you’re relatively experienced at this kind of thing which makes it all the more puzzling why you didn’t react more assertively at the time and initiate the “second round” yourself. I’m sure that wouldn’t have been a problem.

Finally, as in lots of things in life, good communication is so important to avoid disappointment, misunderstanding, embarrassment, conflict etc. at a later stage. Communication difficulties have caused much greater and more serious problems than this in the past. I think it’s always best to communicate clearly with the lady at the outset and to discuss needs / expectations both before and during the appointment. That way there should be no disappointments or misunderstandings, and importantly, no surprise review ratings later either because a presumption was made that something might happen, but then didn’t happen, because it was never requested or initiated in the first place!

Every situation is different, every lady is different and every client is different too. For example, some ladies only allow ‘one round’, even for one hour appointments; other ladies have no such restrictions; some clients only want ‘one round’ and to engage in conversation as much as anything else. These ladies are not mind readers but the majority of them in my opinion are fair and reasonable once you treat them likewise and most importantly with respect. Therefore, it’s so important to communicate clearly to avoid any potential misunderstandings or disappointments later.

As regards ‘unsolicited texts’, I can only imagine that the lady in question was so disappointed and upset to read your review and more especially to see your overall rating which, it would appear must have come as a total surprise to her. The rating also appears to conflict with your commentary as on the one hand you say you enjoyed yourself yet give a low overall rating. The cause of your disappointment would appear to relate to a lack of communication and a presumption about what might have been “initiated” for a second time rather than any lack of service offered or received. As for receiving an unsolicited text, you appear to indicate an unsolicited PM would have been more acceptable. I’m not sure there’s any great difference between the two, however, for some reason you appear to take issue with the ‘text’ version. As mentioned in other postings, some people tend to make alternative phone arrangements for this kind of activity, which is something you might like to consider in the future.

Next time if it were me, I think I’d be concentrating more closely on the communications side of things and would not be presuming anything beforehand, particularly if meeting someone for the first time. After all, the worst response you can get to a request is a ‘no’ and then you can decide whether or not you wish to go ahead with the appointment.

That’s my opinion for what it’s worth. Sorry for going on so long but I thought it worthwhile to make the points above which hopefully give another perspective on the matter. Hopefully it might also be helpful to others in the future. I also think the upset caused would have been avoided with a little more care and thoughtfulness and some simple communication.

[IrishSarahBarra]

I agree somewhat with what you say but does it warrant getting unsolicited messages of complaint from as escort? If the lady feels it is unfair then she can always reply to the review.

Was she just fretting?

Of course it was "unprofessional." But but but, you're still dealing with human emotion at the end of the day and she seems like a perfectly lovely girl. Probably didn't cross her mind to pm.

I'd say give her a break. It's her first negative review isn't it and the reviews can be freaky enough when you think there's this huge pressure on you to aspire to perfection. And then something knocks you and you'd do anything to take it back. That's gutting.

She's a 23yr. girl at the end of the day. By any other standards she'd be fresh out of college. And, what you need at that age is a bit of gentle guidence. A cuddle not a slap.

Don't forget that clients are a girls mentors most of the time. Not other escorts. Be gentle

Ahh... keep reviewing though!

[Johnchef42]

Was she just fretting?

Of course it was "unprofessional." But but but, you're still dealing with human emotion at the end of the day and she seems like a perfectly lovely girl. Probably didn't cross her mind to pm.

I'd say give her a break. It's her first negative review isn't it and the reviews can be freaky enough when you think there's this huge pressure on you to aspire to perfection. And then something knocks you and you'd do anything to take it back. That's gutting.

She's a 23yr. girl at the end of the day. By any other standards she'd be fresh out of college. And, what you need at that age is a bit of gentle guidence. A cuddle not a slap.

Don't forget that clients are a girls mentors most of the time. Not other escorts. Be gentle

Ahh... keep reviewing though!

Very well said Sarah. I'd say theres a Politician in you at some stage in your future. A change of career when this all ends for you lol

[alcatel]

Send me a few unsolicited texts.
(the more aggressive the better;-)
I'm bored.
Only some stupid horse race on today.

[anon361]

Well unless he has given out his EI username and password to all and sundry (which I doubt), yeah, there's quite a big difference actually!

The fact that he would be the only one with access to see a pm, unlike his personal phone which could be seen or looked through by anyone in his personal life, yep, quite a big difference

Unless of course the eejit has his work email registered on the site and has it setup to email him notification of a new PM

[Petros]

Was she just fretting?

Of course it was "unprofessional." But but but, you're still dealing with human emotion at the end of the day and she seems like a perfectly lovely girl. Probably didn't cross her mind to pm.

I'd say give her a break. It's her first negative review isn't it and the reviews can be freaky enough when you think there's this huge pressure on you to aspire to perfection. And then something knocks you and you'd do anything to take it back. That's gutting.

She's a 23yr. girl at the end of the day. By any other standards she'd be fresh out of college. And, what you need at that age is a bit of gentle guidence. A cuddle not a slap.

Don't forget that clients are a girls mentors most of the time. Not other escorts. Be gentle

Ahh... keep reviewing though!

While I agree with your main idea in your post I think to use the fact that she is 23 is a tad unfair, after all, she raised the bar when she raised her price to €260 for an hour — that's a lot higher than most of the really top class ladies who advertise on here ask for. It is totally up to the lady to charge what she feels is right and by charging what she does she has set herself a very high standard to maintain. I don't think age is an issue here — she clearly feels she has the experience behind her and rates herself very highly. Because of this, I can see why she would be so disappointed with only getting 2 stars for "Value For Money" as she may feel it will cause others who see this to possibly think she is over priced.

The real issue here I believe is a lack of communication, not necessarily on the ladies side but on the client's side. I think he was expecting her to keep going after his "first round" — some ladies who speak little English will do this during longer appointments as they can't hold a conversation very well so they offer to do massage often leading to a "second round". The lady in question here obviously has decent English skills but unfortunately, the OP didn't engage in utilising these skils properly which lead to the misunderstanding.

The OP said he probably would have given 5 stars across the board had it been a 30 minute appointment — obviously things fell a bit flat towards the end of the appointment — we can all speculate as to why but only the OP and the lady in question know the answer to that — either way better communication I'm sure would have brought a better outcome to the review.

[alcatel]