Kind of a serious question abut skills.

[Westsidex]

The uncanny ability to lie, most are great liars,

why would to go to see most people who in your own words are liars? If I were an escort id lie as well tbh. Youll get judged the same anyway so why play it clean?

Westside.

[Westsidex]

Ladies here that are highly skilled at GFE and it comes Natural to them,

just as well by the looks of things.

Westside.

[collinsp]

If it's work, workers must have skills. Does anyone know of any research done to identify and define the skills (or skills set) of an escort(s).

What could they be?

Eg. High focus, high E.Q., complete disassociation from physical attractiveness at either end of the spectrum.

ok, so coming back to this original post.

Following some troubled years that necessitated a lot of introspection and soul-searching, I became somewhat of an amateur psychologist and anthropologist. I figured that, to get to know yourself, you have to understand a bit about how the world works, your place in it, how you relate to it, etc. And the solution to resolving massive self-confidence issues came down to understanding other people, realising that, in many cases, what goes on in their minds is a far cry from the outward persona they give off.

As a result of my, not too detailed or indepth studies, I figured the 2 most useful skills anyone can possess in this world are;

1: The ability to *deal* with people.
2: The ability to make people think you know what you're talking about

('deal' is a loaded term here. I'll get back to it).

Pretty much everything we do in life, our achievements, etc, are dependent on other people. Others who have paved the way, and are in a position to open doors for you. Convince them to open that door for you, and you're on your way.

If you're not successful at point 2 above, you'll come across as a bullsh*tter. You'll be found out, and the only place you'll ever go is sideways.

I know a couple of 'high-powered' women. Women who run companies, who have many male subordinates, who will not f*ck with them (who are basically scared sh*tless of them). But I know these women socially, and know there is absolutely nothing fearful about them. The people who work for them don't know that though.

Back to the original question then. Someone said that a good escort is a good liar. I think that was unfair. I'd say a good escort is a good actor. In the same way those successful women I know, are. I read somewhere else on this forum lately that you know you've had a great GFE with an escort if you leave with a smile on your face, thinking that you must be the only man in the world who gets treated like this, by that lady, only then to read a review someone who saw her an hour later, wrote, saying the exact same thing.

From reading the forum, and from reading reviews (particularly some of the responses by escorts to negative reviews), it's quite apparent that there's a range of 'character' that visit escorts. From the 20-year old who fancies a bit of 'danger', to the '40-something' who's relationship just broke up (ie: me), to the 70-something who probably sees no other way to get laid at this stage of their lives. Add to that the different personalities, from the suave James-Bond-type-gentleman, to the bag-of-nerves-hasn't-been-with-a-woman-in-ages, to the aggressive sort who thinks his every demand should be met.

Now look at society, at business, at life in general. Does that not mirror reality? And for the escort who can deliver the exact same service, regardless of the demographic, personality, attitude, etc, of the client, that's a hell of a thing to be able to do. And, to do so requires the 2 skills above, in abundance.

My experience with escorts is limited (have only seen a couple), but even in that limited experience I took different things away from the appointment. I could see various traits in the girls which may have been genuine, or which may not have been. But, the fact that I don't know for sure, says a lot. Certainly, one of the girls I've seen, I would expect will be very successful in life. Brains to burn, amazing people skills, the ability to convince. Once you have those, I think you can turn your hand to anything in life and make a success of it.

tl:dr, I know!

Of course, without knowing the specifics of the comment that was made to you, Sarah, I have no clue if I'm answering some other question rather than the one you ask.

Curvaceous Kate (I think it was) started a thread a couple of months ago asking people what they thought of when they thought of an escort. What kind of person or character we associate with escorts. Might be worth a read of that thread. The answers might surprise you.

Anyway, I'm wasting internet here!

[skollywally]

Well from my, ahem, research there are just two basic traits required, a genuinely high sex drive and bit of charm. Although I do take pride in my figure and my appearance Id imagine that these are further down the line in qualities of a good courtesan from my experience it's a friendly persona and oral skills so good they'd bring the devil himself to his knees which keep them coming back!

Interesting

[Stephanie]

Empathy. The best ladies I've met had the innate ability to read your style and desires instinctively within minutes of meeting you.

"...had the innate ability to read your style and desires instinctively within minutes of meeting you..." >> empathy and Intuition , I'd say ... xx

[collinsp]

"...had the innate ability to read your style and desires instinctively within minutes of meeting you..." >> empathy and Intuition , I'd say ... xx

bingo, and those 2 combined = world domination!

[IrishSarahBarra]

Thanks and, for the time they took I'm still digesting yours Collinsp.

[collinsp]

Thanks and, for the time they took I'm still digesting yours Collinsp.

that would make 2 of us!

but in summary, you're great, and everyone is great

[philipkntz]

If an escort is comfortable cuddling up to me, I'm happy to see where things go from there, but there are a few escorts that I'm genuinely afraid to revisit because I don't think I have the willpower to leave them again, yet if I win the euromillions they will be the ones I'll be calling.
Half an hour or even an hour is just not enough with the right lady.

[Empirical]

"...had the innate ability to read your style and desires instinctively within minutes of meeting you..." >> empathy and Intuition , I'd say ... xx

I think you're right. It's a woman skill, to know what a man desires instinctively, and to act upon it as if it was the most natural thing in the world. I guess it's about reading the person, assessing them immediately upon meeting, and taking it from there. I do'nt know how you do it; I'm not sure that's its transferable, but when you 'connect' it's so obvious by being, well, 'not obvious, but 'natural'. And this ability to read the other makes me very jealous, cos i just can't do it.