Absolutely, the advice everyone has had for us has been incredibly useful! I think we are both lot more prepared for when we decide to make any future appointments. I try to pay as much attention as I can to profiles, but will definitely keep an even closer eye on the details regarding the best way to contact someone.
And thank you for your input as far as who should make the initial appointment call, it was something I had wondered about as well. I know that with threesomes in general, the etiquette rule is if the third party involved is a woman, then the female half of the couple should be the first to make contact (and vice-versa.) But I also understand why unexpectedly hearing a woman's voice over the phone could be a bit of a surprise and initially make someone nervous. I was the one to call and make our first appointment, and while I was quick to mention that I was calling to make an appointment and we ended up having a lovely chat, I could tell there was a split-second of surprise over hearing a woman's voice. The last thing I would want is for someone to think I am an angry partner! So I do really appreciate your view on this, I think we may try going about things that way for when we try to contact someone new... Unless I can get a hold of someone via PM prior to calling, I think I will let the husband take the lead on making a call, and just be nearby when he does if anyone wants to chat with me too.
And as for your last point, absolutely, communication is key! As nervous as we are about exploring new experiences and being new to the community, the one thing we have covered extensively and are very comfortable with is each other and how we feel about things. I think it helps that I was the party to bring up the initial conversation too, and had been very certain of my choice before I brought up the subject with my husband. It also was not a rushed decision for us; while we had brought up the idea of including another party shortly after getting married, at the time we decided against it because we recognized the fact that we were still newlyweds and didn't want to jeopardize our relationship then. Now we are just about to celebrate our 5th anniversary, and are very certain about our decision having thought it out more over the years. I think one thing that definitely helped evaluate how we felt was visiting strip clubs together; it is not the same of course, but a good way to see if you may have any potential for jealousy. For us we discovered it to be a great time, and were happy to find out that neither of us had any concerns... the only way I would have been jealous would be if he went without me, not because of getting dances, but because I wouldn't want to miss out on the fun myself! Because we felt comfortable discussing those experiences with each other, it certainly helped us when we wanted to talk about having another woman join us. I may be in a bit of a weird boat seeing that I am rather young to have be married and for so long, but I think having a happy and stable relationship is a must for when you decide to have a threesome