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    Dick Why men cheat?

    Only about 3 percent of mammals are socially monogamous which includes swans, beavers , wolves and owls to name but a few.

    But what about humans? Are we really monogamous.
    We are very unusual among mammals in our proclivity for a wide range of non reproductive sexual practices. We have sex hundreds of times for every baby conceived, whereas most mammals have a ratio closer to a dozen to one. We have sex when the female isn't even ovulating or with no female even involved!
    That's not typical of mammals. Our bodies, our fantasies, and the fact that we have so many strict regulations around sexual behavior all indicate the depth of our passion for novelty. And why shouldn't we be attracted to novelty in our sexual lives, when we consider the same appetites to be indicative of intelligence when applied to music, travel, food, languages, art, etc.?

    All of this begs the question, is finding a "soulmate" or "true love" still a thing? Are humans actually designed to pair up for life? If not, then why are we still so compelled toward it? Is it biology and genetics, or culture and society?

    I don't think we are monogamous. When we can get away with it, vanishingly few of us restrict ourselves to a single sexual partner over a lifetime. Having only one lover at a time isn't monogamy it's closer to serial polygyny.

    Statistically speaking, men have a higher rate of cheating than women and as an evolutionist I look at these things primarily from an evolutionary perspective, cultural factors come into it as well.

    So what are the selection pressures that determine the optimal number of partners for each sex? The most important is captured in what's called the Bateman principle. This refers to the fact that the maximum number of babies a man can have is much higher than the maximum a woman can have.
    Consider this,If a man has sex with ten women in a year he could potentially get all ten pregnant. In contrast, if a woman has sex with ten men in a year she'll still only have one pregnancy at the most, same as if she'd had sex with just one man.
    This sex difference pushes the optimal number of partners up for males but not for females, and it largely accounts for the fact that, on average, men are keener on casual sex and sexual novelty than women, more interested in having multiple partners than women and more likely to cheat than women.
    Men in the past who were this way inclined had more offspring than those who weren't, and as a result these inclinations became more common among men. In other words, they were selected.

    Let's face it, many men that see escorts are in relationships and it's quite possible that as animals its just part of your evolution after all.
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    More discreetly placed cameras are showing many animals that we thought bonded for life actually don't. Wolves are one of the most recent species to get caught out.
    So next time someone says "its only human" they are being too hard on us.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Wolverine View Post
    More discreetly placed cameras are showing many animals that we thought bonded for life actually don't. Wolves are one of the most recent species to get caught out.
    So next time someone says "its only human" they are being too hard on us.
    Socially wolves are supposed to be monogamous like humans but the fact not all humans are would make sense not all wolves would be either. We're all animals except humans have more intelligence ( well not exactly all lol ) and probably should have more understanding not to cheat (from the social aspect) but I find it a fascinating subject why people do and the factors that are involved.
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    There's the theory that the male should plant his seed in as many places as possible. As for humans being intelligent......well we do have drink and drugs. They make us promiscuous (and stupid).
    Good thread.
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    fed up with the same thing day in day out

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    Quote Originally Posted by Kinkydub5 View Post
    I don't think we are monogamous. When we can get away with it, vanishingly few of us restrict ourselves to a single sexual partner over a lifetime. Having only one lover at a time isn't monogamy it's closer to serial polygyny.
    I think it all depends on who we end up with! I see so many couples who end up together and to be honest it seems more like a relationship of convenience than anything else.

    Some people get married at a young age before they have really found themselves. As they mature they may change, it only takes one in a relationship to change slightly and you have a serious situation on your hands!

    Lets face it there are so many people out there in the world how are we supposed to be able to find the most compatible person for us let alone know when we actually have met them? We meet someone at some point by accident but how do we know they are the best choice for us? We don't but we take a chance for fear it we don't we may be left on the shelf and never meet anyone better! Sometimes it works out sometimes it docent! It's the luck of the draw!

    In the meantime I don't believe it is only the men who cheat women can cheat just as easily!



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    Quote Originally Posted by Petros View Post
    In the meantime I don't believe it is only the men who cheat — women can cheat just as easily!
    Totally agree with everything you said and your right women do cheat just I focused on men especially as its on an escort site and there would be a high numer of men in relationships using this service.
    Through evolution there are different theory's to why women cheat which are a little different to men's and I didn't want to over confuse the topic.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Wolverine View Post
    They make us promiscuous (and stupid).
    Good thread.
    Haha very true!! Probably explains why women say" men think with their dicks"!
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    Animals are gene delivery and propagation vehicles.
    Females have to invest a lot of time and resources to produce one child.
    They tend to be attracted to what they perceive as a high genetic merit individual.
    Males can produce numerous children if they can convince enough females to do so. Males therefore can tend to have sex with a wider range of individuals than females as the burden of producing children does not weigh as heavily on them. There are of course pair bond tendencies evolved in humans.
    Back in the '' caveman days or through much of human history, it was better to have two parents stick together(within the wider tribe). It led to greater success in raising children to child bearing age than if the female was left on her own.
    These pair bonds can of course weaken over time.
    The strength of humans is their weakness.
    They found greater survivability by having some degree of pair bonding and by uniting into small tribal and family groupings.
    Long ago, if a man was an island, he likely ended up starving or being killed by predators.
    Of course men and women may break the pair bond either covertly or overtly in some instances to mate with other high worth genetic individuals(in their eyes). There can be a possible genetic benefit conveyed to any subsequent offspring.
    To induce people to procreate, sex is pleasurable for most people, so it can be the be all and end all for some, but in evolutionary terms sex evolved as a means of reproduction and as a way to shuffle different combinations of genes into the next generation.
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    because we can and I love lots of pussy, even as as kid I always had a pussy

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