Rumbled

[curryman]

Good for her. Now she can dump you and go around with someone who doesnt fuck about behind her back. FFS why do you guys even do this to a girl. Marry her, tie her down and then fuck off cheating? You can do all of this and more being single.Instead you tie someone down when that someone could be with someone who doesnt cheat.

Westside.

I deserve that and you cant make me feel any worse than i do already, my relationship was good but the sex was not great, poor excuse i know, my fault, i'm blaming no one else, I have moved out so unsure what will happen

[The Libertarian]

A few quick things -
1 we can never be to careful
2 is it some kind of an unwritten rule that a partner can read your texts without your permission, surely this is like opening your personal male without your permission!
3 I would say Irish women are far better at shielding such things and credit card bills from their male partners than the other way around!

[Westsidex]

Why are you blaming God for this? Like seriously? I don't even understand why you would join this site after being caught out to talk about it on the public forum? Would you blame God if she found that too? You never even had a profile here before.

I hate to sound harsh, but if this is true you have no one to blame but yourself and if your relationship mattered so much to you. Why were you seeing sex workers for several years? Just because you were 'thinking' of stopping when the law changes, doesn't mean you did nothing wrong. You'll be blaming the government next for not putting the law through sooner.

Its lovely to find something to blame. If I could only blame something for all the bad that happened in my life then id forget about thanking them for the good that came along with it.

Westside.

[The Libertarian]

I'm sorry that this has happened to you. Don't do anything silly Hun, this will pass, we all go through testing times in life, this is one of yours. Rather than have this hanging over you and tormenting you perhaps try to get it sorted? You don't know how much she knows or what conclusions she might have reached, so I think don't approach her about it, let her come to you. Stop avoiding her, go and chat about everyday stuff, suss her out, surely she'll have to break and say something? If worst comes to worst and she knows everything then come clean. A friend suggested it to you, it started as a one off, it got a bit out of control . . . It was just easy sex there was never any feelings involved, you were always safe, the guilt was killing you and now you realise the gravity of it all and what you stand to loose you're devastated and so sorry etc etc, don't assume your marriage is over show her that you'll do whatever it takes to save it, counselling whatever. Yours isn't the only marriage to go through something like this and others have gotten through it, you just might do the same.

Fort the guys saying a married punter does not love his wife I do not believe this at all. Most of my clients are married and I have no doubt that they love their wives. Sex is just sex, perhaps they like to indulge in a little kinky uninhibited fun that they would never seek from the mother of their children . . . With an affair there's feelings involved but regardless of the stigma attached to escorts it's just a release. . . Just sex!

Essentially Sarah, he is now in the position of being a defender in football - the basic rule is let the forward (his wife) commit first, before he takes it further!

[Westsidex]

I deserve that and you cant make me feel any worse than i do already, my relationship was good but the sex was not great, poor excuse i know, my fault, i'm blaming no one else, I have moved out so unsure what will happen

You have ZERO sympathy from me. Sorry its your own fault and its goes with the territory. Just try and look at this from your wifes end. As bad as you feel this is devastating for her. The only thing I will say is its never too late to fix things but will you go back punting again if it is fixed?

thats the issue,
Westside.

[curryman]

A few quick things -
1 we can never be to careful
2 is it some kind of an unwritten rule that a partner can read your texts without your permission, surely this is like opening your personal male without your permission!
3 I would say Irish women are far better at shielding such things and credit card bills from their male partners than the other way around!

I think she was destined to find out, I was giving punting up shortly and after so many years this happens, one day at a time now suppose

[alcatel]

How fickle is the life of a punter..

Fucked by the fickle, finger of fate.

[curryman]

You have ZERO sympathy from me. Sorry its your own fault and its goes with the territory. Just try and look at this from your wifes end. As bad as you feel this is devastating for her. The only thing I will say is its never too late to fix things but will you go back punting again if it is fixed?

thats the issue,
Westside.

I never posted to get sympathy, i posted really to find out if others had been in a similar situation to me and maybe could offer some advice.
Yes i'm devastated and she more devastated but my own doing.

[curryman]

I'm sorry that this has happened to you. Don't do anything silly Hun, this will pass, we all go through testing times in life, this is one of yours. Rather than have this hanging over you and tormenting you perhaps try to get it sorted? You don't know how much she knows or what conclusions she might have reached, so I think don't approach her about it, let her come to you. Stop avoiding her, go and chat about everyday stuff, suss her out, surely she'll have to break and say something? If worst comes to worst and she knows everything then come clean. A friend suggested it to you, it started as a one off, it got a bit out of control . . . It was just easy sex there was never any feelings involved, you were always safe, the guilt was killing you and now you realise the gravity of it all and what you stand to loose you're devastated and so sorry etc etc, don't assume your marriage is over show her that you'll do whatever it takes to save it, counselling whatever. Yours isn't the only marriage to go through something like this and others have gotten through it, you just might do the same.

Fort the guys saying a married punter does not love his wife I do not believe this at all. Most of my clients are married and I have no doubt that they love their wives. Sex is just sex, perhaps they like to indulge in a little kinky uninhibited fun that they would never seek from the mother of their children . . . With an affair there's feelings involved but regardless of the stigma attached to escorts it's just a release. . . Just sex!

thank you for that

[Westsidex]

I never posted to get sympathy, i posted really to find out if others had been in a similar situation to me and maybe could offer some advice.
Yes i'm devastated and she more devastated but my own doing.

You are looking to make yourself feel better ,hoping someone will come along and say x y z and youll feel a bit justified. How about making your wife feel a bit better? Talking to us wont achieve anything.

Westside.