Rumbled

[Westsidex]

Fort the guys saying a married punter does not love his wife I do not believe this at all. Most of my clients are married and I have no doubt that they love their wives. Sex is just sex, perhaps they like to indulge in a little kinky uninhibited fun that they would never seek from the mother of their children . . . With an affair there's feelings involved but regardless of the stigma attached to escorts it's just a release. . . Just sex!

you honestly believe that this is always the case? If you believe that then your brain dead and or naive. They love their wives so much that they will place an hour of sex and sacrifice that love? Thats total bollox. If you love someone ,others dont even come into it.

Westside.

[lildick]

I never posted to get sympathy, i posted really to find out if others had been in a similar situation to me and maybe could offer some advice.
Yes i'm devastated and she more devastated but my own doing.

One would suggest that if you are accosted by herself, say you only visited for massage to relieve stress. That would be forgivable. Regards.

[curryman]

You are looking to make yourself feel better ,hoping someone will come along and say x y z and youll feel a bit justified. How about making your wife feel a bit better? Talking to us wont achieve anything.

Westside.

was looking to hear from others if it happened to them and how they dealt with it, massive blow to me and couldn't think straight. Talking does help.

[alcatel]

I've thought about it myself before now. When I was about to lose my home, while my son was studying for his GCSES and needed stability in his life. Just for a split second or two I thought he would be better off without me. We have these thoughts when we feel cornered, but when you have kids you don't do stuff like that, because we're responsible for them and dying is not going to make life easier for them, it's going to make it worse. I don't think because he thought about it he would likely do it for hearing a few home truths. He's got to step up and own it and do the right thing by his family.

What doesn't break you makes you stronger. I'm living testimony to that.

Unfortunately those in the deep, dark, depths of depression don't always think straight. Sometimes their reasoning becomes, everyone will be better off without them.
And rare though it may be, there are cases where a parent takes the children with them.
And the oft touted opinion that suicidal people are selfish is most likely given by people with no experience of chronic intractable depression. I haven't personally experienced it but have had had close relatives who did (for years, recurring severe bouts, despite treatment), a couple of whom went all the way. Long term, severe depression that has responded poorly to treatment can be as crippling as a broken back.
Lack of insulin in the pancreas, Type1 diabetes, sympathy.
Lack or too many neurotransmitters in certain parts of the brain--no sympathy, just pull your self together.
In both cases above, a body organ has malfunctioned, a personal choice to be that way was not involved.

[curryman]

One would suggest that if you are accosted by herself, say you only visited for massage to relieve stress. That would be forgivable. Regards.

thanks but I have come clean, I owe her that much at least,

[alcatel]

was looking to hear from others if it happened to them and how they dealt with it, massive blow to me and couldn't think straight. Talking does help.

Westsidex is a marriage counsellor.

He has an impressive record.

0 per cent success rate.

[Zander]

I've thought about it myself before now. When I was about to lose my home, while my son was studying for his GCSES and needed stability in his life. Just for a split second or two I thought he would be better off without me. We have these thoughts when we feel cornered, but when you have kids you don't do stuff like that, because we're responsible for them and dying is not going to make life easier for them, it's going to make it worse. I don't think because he thought about it he would likely do it for hearing a few home truths. He's got to step up and own it and do the right thing by his family.

What doesn't break you makes you stronger. I'm living testimony to that.

ok may i ask you a question and i'm putting you in a similar position to me.
I assume your son do not know you escort but say you accidentally left a video of yourself laying around( you wouldnt but lets say you did) and he found it, how would you feel and what effect would it have on your relationship now, you dont have to answer if it makes you feel uncomfortable

[Curvaceous Kate]

come on guys, talk to me here, for a start what would the ladies think if they saw this material of a family member, not exactly the same as being caught watching porn
I want to hear opinions whether good or bad but honest and truthful ones only.

my relationship not been the same since, in order to distance myself from it all too i actually moved out few weeks after it happened and got a job further away and dont see her much or my family, yes in a way i'm trying to avoid her if possible as its tough

If it were my Brother it wouldn't really bother me, although I might feel a bit ill having seen him naked as he's not very pretty and out of condition (in my eyes). In all fairness it's his life, but I would have had a go at him for leaving the tablet where my child could have found it, as it is inappropriate.

I'm quite open minded though, so having a sex life to me is pretty normal and to be expected. I find it odd that some people expect people to not have a sex life.

I do get puzzled with the guys that say they have a normal sex life with their partners and still come see sex workers, but that is their call. I'm not going to tell them what do to do. I guess I just don't understand why they take the risk? Or why they got married if they couldn't commit to it?

The fact is we only get one shot at life and you have to live it the way that works for you. No point dying with regrets, so you either live life to the full and regret those you hurt on the way or you don't live the life you want and regret the life you missed. Most of us live somewhere in the middle of that. No one is blameless. Just try and live with the decisions you've made the best you can.

[knibbs]

I don't find it strange, i love my woman and the sex is great but if you see a younger sexy girl or you are away from home and the gf/wife aint there its very hard for a man to say no, then once you pop you cant stop and us men are only human and simple creatures with many sexual needs after all so dont beat us up

[Curvaceous Kate]

Fucked by the fickle, finger of fate.

Lol I'm not fickle, I'm just indecisive