Rumbled

[curryman]

Did he ever think straight? Keeping photo's of a himself and a sex worker back from 2012 on his punting phone? I thought the idea of a punting phone was to make bookings and then delete the evidence? I didn't realise guys were using them to flirt and build friendships and relationships on them? I mean, why even bother having a punting phone if you're going to use it in that way? This isn't just a case of a guy slipping up once, it's a case of someone behaving like he is single and not just enjoying the booking, but the build up before and after and keeping a diary of it on his phone. 2012 for fuck sake!!!

Can anyone put their hand up on this thread and honestly say they have messages they have kept for 4+ years on their punting phone? If you have, it might be an idea to delete them.

That's my word of advice. That's not even a case of 'slipping' and 'getting' careless. That's taking no precaution at all.

I just can't help feel a bit angry that he let his wife go through not just finding the phone, but the content. Her life must have been ripped apart seeing all that. At least if he had kept the phone cleared after each booking she would have only seen one or two messages and could have said he did it as a one off.

I'd like to think that the rest of you are more careful than this, but I'm guessing not by the reactions and sympathy being given.

Firstly I would like to say I never came on here for sympathy, I wanted to sort know what to do or if others had similar experiences, no one knew I was seeing escorts and when things get bad you have no one to turn to on the outside as not really a subject you like to discuss with anyone.
I had two nice ladies who I saw and although I saw others I did delete those and kept the ones that meant most to me, there was no diary and as for the photo, that was taken by the lady in Scotland when we met up for the night.
We had a row, she did the all the talking, I did come clean.
I am 100% responsible for this, no one else. MY FAULT
The thing I cant get my head around is I was honestly going to give it up shortly and concentrate on my relationship more, can't believe this has happened and absolutely gutted.

[curryman]

Her life might be even more torn apart if as he suggested he drove into the lake(deep end of course), I neither believe nor disbelieve nor overly care too much about stuff written here, but occasionally a modicum of circumspection is judicious, if responding to certain types of posts.

I came so close to doing it, My head was all over the place and was not thinking straight and just wanted it all over.

[Curvaceous Kate]

Firstly I would like to say I never came on here for sympathy, I wanted to sort know what to do or if others had similar experiences, no one knew I was seeing escorts and when things get bad you have no one to turn to on the outside as not really a subject you like to discuss with anyone.
I had two nice ladies who I saw and although I saw others I did delete those and kept the ones that meant most to me, there was no diary and as for the photo, that was taken by the lady in Scotland when we met up for the night.
We had a row, she did the all the talking, I did come clean.
I am 100% responsible for this, no one else. MY FAULT
The thing I cant get my head around is I was honestly going to give it up shortly and concentrate on my relationship more, can't believe this has happened and absolutely gutted.

Curryman that is the problem. You kept the ones that meant something to you, so that is what is going to hurt your wife most. That is the problem you are faced with that most on here won't be able to help you with, because most would have the sense to realise it's worse for a woman to be emotionally cheated on that physically. The main reason why most women can forgive a man who plays away with a sex worker is because they believe there is nothing to it other than physical desire and if that is no longer within the relationship it's understandable (to a point). I'm afraid you might as well have been cheating in the affair way with what she has found.

I doubt it will help, but if you do have that conversation with her, apart from possibly saying you were addicted (which I don't think will work in this circumstance) you might be able to get away with saying you were living a fantasy and it wasn't real. The fact is you left it behind, because the fantasy was over and you know it was stupid to do it in the first place, but it had ran its course and you had already come to realise that what you wanted was at home.

I guess it's worth a try, but saying nothing may also work, if she can live with the knowledge. If you do start seeing sex workers again, please don't make the same mistakes again. Delete everything!

Sounds like it is out in the open now, so the rest is up to you. When I said keeping a diary, I meant keeping the texts. It's as good as a diary.

[Zander]

did anyone read my post, I posted looking for advice here too as it still haunts me to this day, i tried to take my own life back then as well so understand how it can all get on top of you and you see it as the only way out. I never thought of what damage it would do as in that frame of mind you cant help it

[Curvaceous Kate]

did anyone read my post, I posted looking for advice here too as it still haunts me to this day, i tried to take my own life back then as well so understand how it can all get on top of you and you see it as the only way out. I never thought of what damage it would do as in that frame of mind you cant help it

What made you change your mind?

[Zander]

what made you change your mind?

seriously dont know, for two weeks i kept thinking of how to end it, i done some reckless things, took the motorbike out and drove at 120mph, often thought of driving into a wall or articulated lorry as wouldnt kill that person but i would be killed (never cars as more chance of killing them too, strange that) but then i would scar the lorry driver for life, as i said i had purchased the rope and had it around my neck but i cant honestly say what stopped me from doing it, it was a close call, maybe on another day i would have done it. For me i didnt just flip, i was planning it, when things get bad still i think about doing these things, maybe it a combination of bad things that gather up in your mind and reach a point where theres no going back, maybe I get another major setback and thats it, I don't know...
I told in my post where i was rumbled and had a great relationship with my sister, she really looked up to me, i keep saying to myself maybe she didnt switch it on and see it, even though i know she did and now i think does she think i'm just a sad pervert, seeing me naked, what kills me too is my niece seeing it maybe too at that age, writing this now is so tough and brings it all back so bad but its always on my mind, these thoughts never leave

[Clueless]

How fickle is the life of a punter..

[Zander]

come on guys, talk to me here, for a start what would the ladies think if they saw this material of a family member, not exactly the same as being caught watching porn
I want to hear opinions whether good or bad but honest and truthful ones only.

my relationship not been the same since, in order to distance myself from it all too i actually moved out few weeks after it happened and got a job further away and dont see her much or my family, yes in a way i'm trying to avoid her if possible as its tough

[Westsidex]

I have been visiting escorts from 2009 but on Sunday last I was rumbled or so I think.
I left my punting phone in my coat in the 7 seater and had a meeting in Scotland the following morning, the wife got it as When I come home it was sitting on the table, I never cleared some of the sexy texts from some of the girls I saw regularly. She has said nothing but a bit distant so I assume she has read them.

Someone has it in for me up there as intended to quit punting when the new law was in and concentrate more on the relationship, this is the worse thing that could have happened and i'm both gutted and embarrassed

Good for her. Now she can dump you and go around with someone who doesnt fuck about behind her back. FFS why do you guys even do this to a girl. Marry her, tie her down and then fuck off cheating? You can do all of this and more being single.Instead you tie someone down when that someone could be with someone who doesnt cheat.

Westside.

[Westsidex]

Did he ever think straight? Keeping photo's of a himself and a sex worker back from 2012 on his punting phone?

lol youd be surprised how deluded some guys are.

Westside.