Rumbled

[Cortez]

Let's just try focus on giving this lad a solution. Even leaving the married lads out of it for a minute... Many the single guys here who have parents, brothers , sisters, work colleagues , friends would be mortified if their family of friends found out. Imagine a dodgy workmate finding out and trying to blackmail you.

This is not about the right and wrong of it.. its about a lad in trouble and any one of us could be in a similar situation.

So lets offer him practical solutions

ok ideas please......

On the assumption that she knows it has to be the addiction story for me. I presume from his thread that she has found an awful lot as opposed to a few little bits of information. I mean, if he found out that his mrs had a drink or a drugs or a gambling problem that she had been hiding from him for years would he love her any less, I doubt it very much. Sins of the flesh can be viewed differently of course, but he would have to commit to counselling and all that goes with it if he stands any chance.

[Cortez]

I'm sympathetic!

I'll remember that the next time I need a shoulder to cry on!

[mr gear]

I have been visiting escorts from 2009 but on Sunday last I was rumbled or so I think.
I left my punting phone in my coat in the 7 seater and had a meeting in Scotland the following morning, the wife got it as When I come home it was sitting on the table, I never cleared some of the sexy texts from some of the girls I saw regularly. She has said nothing but a bit distant so I assume she has read them.

Someone has it in for me up there as intended to quit punting when the new law was in and concentrate more on the relationship, this is the worse thing that could have happened and i'm both gutted and embarrassed

Your lucky it was only your phone on the table and not your clothes in the garden ...

[Curvaceous Kate]

Not bothered now as she knows anyway. I did believe in God too before this but not now, he can go to hell

Why are you blaming God for this? Like seriously? I don't even understand why you would join this site after being caught out to talk about it on the public forum? Would you blame God if she found that too? You never even had a profile here before.

I hate to sound harsh, but if this is true you have no one to blame but yourself and if your relationship mattered so much to you. Why were you seeing sex workers for several years? Just because you were 'thinking' of stopping when the law changes, doesn't mean you did nothing wrong. You'll be blaming the government next for not putting the law through sooner.

[Clueless]

Why are you blaming God for this? Like seriously? I don't even understand why you would join this site after being caught out to talk about it on the public forum? Would you blame God if she found that too? You never even had a profile here before.

I hate to sound harsh, but if this is true you have no one to blame but yourself and if your relationship mattered so much to you. Why were you seeing sex workers for several years? Just because you were 'thinking' of stopping when the law changes, doesn't mean you did nothing wrong. You'll be blaming the government next for not putting the law through sooner.

Yes of course dear!!

However a man in such a predicament can't think straight ..

[alcatel]

Yes of course dear!!

However a man in such a predicament can't think straight ..

He might indeed act in a clueless fashion.

[Curvaceous Kate]

Jamsey boy I was punting when you were still in nappys

No ones that old!!!! (joke)

[Curvaceous Kate]

Yes of course dear!!

However a man in such a predicament can't think straight ..

Did he ever think straight? Keeping photo's of a himself and a sex worker back from 2012 on his punting phone? I thought the idea of a punting phone was to make bookings and then delete the evidence? I didn't realise guys were using them to flirt and build friendships and relationships on them? I mean, why even bother having a punting phone if you're going to use it in that way? This isn't just a case of a guy slipping up once, it's a case of someone behaving like he is single and not just enjoying the booking, but the build up before and after and keeping a diary of it on his phone. 2012 for fuck sake!!!

Can anyone put their hand up on this thread and honestly say they have messages they have kept for 4+ years on their punting phone? If you have, it might be an idea to delete them.

That's my word of advice. That's not even a case of 'slipping' and 'getting' careless. That's taking no precaution at all.

I just can't help feel a bit angry that he let his wife go through not just finding the phone, but the content. Her life must have been ripped apart seeing all that. At least if he had kept the phone cleared after each booking she would have only seen one or two messages and could have said he did it as a one off.

I'd like to think that the rest of you are more careful than this, but I'm guessing not by the reactions and sympathy being given.

[alcatel]

Her life might be even more torn apart if as he suggested he drove into the lake(deep end of course), I neither believe nor disbelieve nor overly care too much about stuff written here, but occasionally a modicum of circumspection is judicious, if responding to certain types of posts.

[Curvaceous Kate]

Her life might be even more torn apart if as he suggested he drove into the lake(deep end of course), I neither believe nor disbelieve nor overly care too much about stuff written here, but occasionally a modicum of circumspection is judicious, if responding to certain types of posts.

I've thought about it myself before now. When I was about to lose my home, while my son was studying for his GCSES and needed stability in his life. Just for a split second or two I thought he would be better off without me. We have these thoughts when we feel cornered, but when you have kids you don't do stuff like that, because we're responsible for them and dying is not going to make life easier for them, it's going to make it worse. I don't think because he thought about it he would likely do it for hearing a few home truths. He's got to step up and own it and do the right thing by his family.

What doesn't break you makes you stronger. I'm living testimony to that.