Notch on the beadpost

[Rocker123]

Perhaps it depends on what you hold to be of value in your life, particularly how you use/spend your time...


If you choose to spend your time pursuing non-escorts at the pubs and night clubs night after night, spending weekend after weekend in the endless (and mostly fruitless) chase of randomers, then you are free to do so to your hearts (and cocks) content. Even the best of operators out there can't possibly pull night in and night out; chances are, for as much time and effort as you put in, as many ladies as you (try) to chat-up, buy drinks for, maybe get a few phone numbers, get a shift on the dance floor, a true master at the game will be lucky to end up shagging even 15% of the ladies he puts time into. Not a particularly efficient way to spend your time, and definitely not how I like to spend the majority of my own free time. There's plenty of things I'd rather be doing with my time than getting my hopes up, only to be let-down 90% of the time or more...

On the other side of things, it could be argued that since you obviously have to put in the time at work at a job to earn the money you have to pay escorts for their 'time and companionship', that how you then use/spend that money, based on the time you put it at your job, that you've 'earned' what you pay for, even if it is paying for a 'notch' on the proverbial bedpost. If I spend my time to 'earn' the money, then what I choose to do with it shouldn't make that 'notch' count for any less than a 'notch' which was 'earned' any other way; it still costs me my time, which is something I value a great deal more than money.


And besides, can any of you honestly say that years from now, on your deathbeds, thinking back over all the things you did in your life, all the experiences that you had, that you would NOT look back fondly over the gorgeous women you got to spend time with? Wouldn't you fondly glance over from your bed to the bedpost, and happily remember every single one of those 'notches'? Life is too short to worry about what you 'earned' and what you want to convince yourself that you didn't. I hope I'll be able to close my eyes that one last time and remember ALL the ladies I was lucky enough to spend time with, no matter the circumstances which brought us together...

Nicely put Mr. Cable. Very nicely indeed.

[SmallHorn]

Perhaps it depends on what you hold to be of value in your life, particularly how you use/spend your time...


If you choose to spend your time pursuing non-escorts at the pubs and night clubs night after night, spending weekend after weekend in the endless (and mostly fruitless) chase of randomers, then you are free to do so to your hearts (and cocks) content. Even the best of operators out there can't possibly pull night in and night out; chances are, for as much time and effort as you put in, as many ladies as you (try) to chat-up, buy drinks for, maybe get a few phone numbers, get a shift on the dance floor, a true master at the game will be lucky to end up shagging even 15% of the ladies he puts time into. Not a particularly efficient way to spend your time, and definitely not how I like to spend the majority of my own free time. There's plenty of things I'd rather be doing with my time than getting my hopes up, only to be let-down 90% of the time or more...

On the other side of things, it could be argued that since you obviously have to put in the time at work at a job to earn the money you have to pay escorts for their 'time and companionship', that how you then use/spend that money, based on the time you put it at your job, that you've 'earned' what you pay for, even if it is paying for a 'notch' on the proverbial bedpost. If I spend my time to 'earn' the money, then what I choose to do with it shouldn't make that 'notch' count for any less than a 'notch' which was 'earned' any other way; it still costs me my time, which is something I value a great deal more than money.


And besides, can any of you honestly say that years from now, on your deathbeds, thinking back over all the things you did in your life, all the experiences that you had, that you would NOT look back fondly over the gorgeous women you got to spend time with? Wouldn't you fondly glance over from your bed to the bedpost, and happily remember every single one of those 'notches'? Life is too short to worry about what you 'earned' and what you want to convince yourself that you didn't. I hope I'll be able to close my eyes that one last time and remember ALL the ladies I was lucky enough to spend time with, no matter the circumstances which brought us together...

Ah yeah obviously its grand to be looking back and thinking that.




But it aint a notch

[alcatel]

In a perfect world, we would all have the charisma of George Clooney and the English language skills of Tom Rambo, not to mention the bank balance and charitable world view of Donald Trump, or the pulling power of that sex god, Hugh Hefner.
However we must look the cold, glassy stare of reality in the eye and admit our frailties.
In a world devoid of escorts and in time to come, when I pop my clogs, my heirs would have the (un) enviable task of placing an ad on ebay,

Bed for sale.
One, careful owner.
Well maintained.
Bedposts in immaculate condition.

[alcatel]

Nope its still not a notch when you pay for it.

When you hunt , conquer and feel that sense of achievement (although nowadays some young ones are waaaay too easy and the chase is kinda gone) then that's a notch.

When its handed to you on a plate it just ain't the same , unless its a freebie

In other words without the chase it means zilch?

[alcatel]

Well the way i see it. When you pay for it then yes it means zilch........so yeah same difference

If it means zilch when you pay for it, why bother going?

[Petros]

Perhaps it depends on what you hold to be of value in your life, particularly how you use/spend your time...


If you choose to spend your time pursuing non-escorts at the pubs and night clubs night after night, spending weekend after weekend in the endless (and mostly fruitless) chase of randomers, then you are free to do so to your hearts (and cocks) content. Even the best of operators out there can't possibly pull night in and night out; chances are, for as much time and effort as you put in, as many ladies as you (try) to chat-up, buy drinks for, maybe get a few phone numbers, get a shift on the dance floor, a true master at the game will be lucky to end up shagging even 15% of the ladies he puts time into. Not a particularly efficient way to spend your time, and definitely not how I like to spend the majority of my own free time. There's plenty of things I'd rather be doing with my time than getting my hopes up, only to be let-down 90% of the time or more...

On the other side of things, it could be argued that since you obviously have to put in the time at work at a job to earn the money you have to pay escorts for their 'time and companionship', that how you then use/spend that money, based on the time you put it at your job, that you've 'earned' what you pay for, even if it is paying for a 'notch' on the proverbial bedpost. If I spend my time to 'earn' the money, then what I choose to do with it shouldn't make that 'notch' count for any less than a 'notch' which was 'earned' any other way; it still costs me my time, which is something I value a great deal more than money.


And besides, can any of you honestly say that years from now, on your deathbeds, thinking back over all the things you did in your life, all the experiences that you had, that you would NOT look back fondly over the gorgeous women you got to spend time with? Wouldn't you fondly glance over from your bed to the bedpost, and happily remember every single one of those 'notches'? Life is too short to worry about what you 'earned' and what you want to convince yourself that you didn't. I hope I'll be able to close my eyes that one last time and remember ALL the ladies I was lucky enough to spend time with, no matter the circumstances which brought us together...

Ah yeah obviously its grand to be looking back and thinking that.


But it aint a notch

Nope its still not a notch when you pay for it.

When you hunt , conquer and feel that sense of achievement (although nowadays some young ones are waaaay too easy and the chase is kinda gone) then that's a notch.

When its handed to you on a plate it just ain't the same , unless its a freebie

I have to say what Cable87 says has it merits and in many parts I could agree.

However, I do not believe anyone can compare handing over cash to a total stranger in order to spend time with and have sex to that of spending time and having sex with someone purely because they want to be with you!

There is nothing on this earth better than knowing that someone else likes you enough that they want to be with you and have sex with you purely because they like you!

I'm sorry, but if someone begins to see paying an escort to have sex with in a similar light as gaining a notch in their bedpost — just like where a lady wants to be with you for who you are then I think that person has developed a problem, a problem which some could describe as delusional. Either way — I can only see it ending in tears!

[alcatel]

Big boys don't cry.
Tom Rambo has dry eye.
(not qualified to comment on the delusional part).

[Cable87]

I have to say what Cable87 says has it merits and in many parts I could agree.

However, I do not believe anyone can compare handing over cash to a total stranger in order to spend time with and have sex to that of spending time and having sex with someone purely because they want to be with you!

There is nothing on this earth better than knowing that someone else likes you enough that they want to be with you and have sex with you purely because they like you!

I'm sorry, but if someone begins to see paying an escort to have sex with in a similar light as gaining a notch in their bedpost — just like where a lady wants to be with you for who you are then I think that person has developed a problem, a problem which some could describe as delusional. Either way — I can only see it ending in tears!

You make fair points there Petros. But I have to ask, what are we talking about when we're discussing 'notches on the bedpost'?

Are all those shags that some argue are only worthy of being counted all deep, meaningful encounters, or within the context of relationships? I believe and agree that many of them are, and I agree with your point in this regard. Indeed, there is a type of satisfaction to be derived from a courtship, a relationship, an establishment of a bond based on mutual attraction, which cannot be duplicated in an encounter with an escort.


But when we're discussing 'notches on the bedpost', is that what-- or all-- we're talking about?

Let's be honest here-- how 'deep and meaningful' is picking-up a randomer from the pub/night club and going home to hers or yours for a drunken, one-off shag? How much of her decision to go off with you is because she 'likes you', and not because she's probably as drunk and/or horny as you are? She might enjoy a bit of your charm, perhaps good looks; but how much of getting to know you and 'liking you' for who you really are inside is going to happen in such an encounter? How much truly separates an encounter with an escort and a randomer pulled from the pub/night club? Is an escort really going to be any more or less of a 'stranger' to you in the long-run? I'd bet that practically all of you have pulled at least ONE one-night stand-- if not more-- and CAN'T EVEN REMEMBER HER NAME. How much more of a stranger was that girl to you than an escort you rang-up, booked an appointment with, and then never saw ever again?

Don't fool yourselves gentleman, nor let yourselves be fooled, by your own approach and behaviour, nor those of the random ladies you all (might) pull on a night out: You are totally replaceable and interchangeable to them, and so are they to you. If SHE is looking to pull, and you miss your opportunity or blow your chance while putting in the work, she'll be going off with someone else. Just like escorts will give away your appointment if you no-show, or double-book to hedge their bets that at least one client will show.

And if YOU are putting in work at the pub/night club and get your attempts shut down, or a better looking or more promising 'prospect' comes along, you redirect your attention to what you estimate will likely be a more fruitful, successful endeavour. Not unlike when you ring your first-choice escort and she's unavailable or you get no answer; you simply ring the next lady on your list and go in for an appointment to get your dick pleasured by another, 'replacement' object of your sexual desires.


Love and relationships are one thing which ought to be held in higher regard and esteem than those random encounters from a night out; I certainly would never reduce the women I've been in a loving relationship with to nothing more than another pussy I stuck my cock in, to be crudely represented by nothing more than a metaphorical 'notch' on a piece of wood.


But if we're honest here-- honest as MEN-- we must admit that the reason we see escorts, and the reason we (or most of you) spend/waste so much time in the pubs and night clubs is to accumulate more 'notches' for our bedposts; it's in our nature to want to shag every good looking woman we see. We don't need or want a relationship with every single one of them, we just want our 'notch', our sexual desires fulfilled until the next time we're ready to 'pop' again... And I submit to you gentleman the proposition that pulling randomers on a night out and going to see escorts are EQUAL in their purpose of allowing you to put another 'notch' on the old bedpost.

[alcatel]

Oul Tom, in the place he can post at the moment, has expressed pride in having inspired 47 pages of now deleted tripe and seems to believe he upset people in the process(which mistaken belief appears to delight him).
He has seemingly received a week ban, and '' mite''(sic--yeah right) not be back.
He also expresses his affection and regard for SmallHorn.
Such are the vicissitudes of life, but fear not(courage mon brave), in his darkest hour, in his time of need, he has LVT, to offer him succour and solace.

[tom rambo]

Perhaps it depends on what you hold to be of value in your life, particularly how you use/spend your time...


If you choose to spend your time pursuing non-escorts at the pubs and night clubs night after night, spending weekend after weekend in the endless (and mostly fruitless) chase of randomers, then you are free to do so to your hearts (and cocks) content. Even the best of operators out there can't possibly pull night in and night out; chances are, for as much time and effort as you put in, as many ladies as you (try) to chat-up, buy drinks for, maybe get a few phone numbers, get a shift on the dance floor, a true master at the game will be lucky to end up shagging even 15% of the ladies he puts time into. Not a particularly efficient way to spend your time, and definitely not how I like to spend the majority of my own free time. There's plenty of things I'd rather be doing with my time than getting my hopes up, only to be let-down 90% of the time or more...

On the other side of things, it could be argued that since you obviously have to put in the time at work at a job to earn the money you have to pay escorts for their 'time and companionship', that how you then use/spend that money, based on the time you put it at your job, that you've 'earned' what you pay for, even if it is paying for a 'notch' on the proverbial bedpost. If I spend my time to 'earn' the money, then what I choose to do with it shouldn't make that 'notch' count for any less than a 'notch' which was 'earned' any other way; it still costs me my time, which is something I value a great deal more than money.


And besides, can any of you honestly say that years from now, on your deathbeds, thinking back over all the things you did in your life, all the experiences that you had, that you would NOT look back fondly over the gorgeous women you got to spend time with? Wouldn't you fondly glance over from your bed to the bedpost, and happily remember every single one of those 'notches'? Life is too short to worry about what you 'earned' and what you want to convince yourself that you didn't. I hope I'll be able to close my eyes that one last time and remember ALL the ladies I was lucky enough to spend time with, no matter the circumstances which brought us together...

Thanks Cable87 you said it all there.