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    Maybe that's just a case of me reaping what i had sown, as I admit, I am far from being a social butterfly type of person.

    However, I can't stop thinking that in my time of troubles, most people are not anywhere to be seen around me. Very, very few exceptions.

    So, before I start giving out here it's an oportunity of saying thank you to the few people that still stayed in touch, came and see how I am doing or sometimes even helped. Some of them may think it's not a big deal, but for me, going trough a tough time, working with an injured knee to be able to pay my bills but still going to college, even that lift offer to college or that big case of cat food helped a lot. Or booking in for a massage, also quite nice, since even some of my regulars avoided seeing me in that time, under the assumptions maybe I can't really do a proper massage with a bad knee

    Don't get me wrong, I am not expecting anybody to treat me like I'm a charity case, but going to the total opposite directions and make it obvious I'm someone they avoid until (I assume) I'm all better does not show too much consideration at all. Even posting here, I feel mostly left alone and while this doesn't bother me, I am thinking what the heck have those people heard about me that they seem to take distance. My PMs lately, seem to be from people who either ask when I'm coming back to escorting, either have no clue I am not doing escorting at the moment. I had Part Time Student at some stage on my massage profile, I got so far 0 PMs from people I know and used to talk regularly asking me what kind of course I am doing.

    I get it, I kept people at arm lenght and this is coming back to me. I can't even say that makes, me sad, in fact I enjoy having more time for myself. But still, the logic behind it's rather interesting and - excuse the long intro - brings me back to the point of this thread.

    Have you ever felt that in times of need there are less people around you ? If so, what do you think it's the reason ? People avoiding seeing someone upset as they can't handle it ? Or do you think the reason is a lot more egotistic, like being afraid of being asked for a favour? Or maybe you are the exception to the rule and in times of trouble you got even more support from people you know ? I'd love to hear your experiences. Answers on a post card please :)

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    Hi i never met you so im not a friend as such but i can empsthise with what you have gone through ...

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    Quote Originally Posted by Clueless View Post
    Hi i never met you so im not a friend as such but i can empsthise with what you have gone through ...
    Thanks, I appreciate it.

    Any thoughts on the main idea of the thread tho? Can you remember a bad time in your life and how you felt others react to you being there ?
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    Everyone can be guilty of being fair weather friends or just self consumed at times I guess.
    I certainly wouldn't take it extremely personal ,as you always seem to be friendly /non confrontational on here.

    I like to think I help others out when I can...and I regularly do...but on the flip side some people have said im selfish

    I definitely notice that any time a friend has a problem they always look to me for advice,yet ive also noticed that on the rare occasion where I could have done with a bit more advice/help myself they don't appear to be very forthcoming....................In my case I realise its because they assume I am the rock of sense (believe that if you will!) and I think they actually don't believe they would be of help / think I would have no need
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    Quote Originally Posted by Amy Alison View Post
    Thanks, I appreciate it.

    Any thoughts on the main idea of the thread tho? Can you remember a bad time in your life and how you felt others react to you being there ?
    Very much so - but people dont want to interfere when one has troubles- either they dont need the agravation or dont want to impose on one..

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    I have found that people - or 'friends' - are more than willing to accept help and sympathy when in need, but are nowhere to be found when the table's turned. I wouldn't even bother asking for help anymore. A true friend is very hard to find. And in a situation where your reputation has been tarnished friends will turn on you very quickly.

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    Real friends will be there, they may not be many y'all may never even speak of what ails you but they're there. A lack of vultures ain't no things they say, it was my experience that when things got tough folks gathered round for miles to witness -all to feel better off themselves then titter in their private parlours.

    I prefer to look at situations such as yours and the one's above as cleansing. The universe taking you temporarily out of the game so you can learn what counts, who's needed, and what and whom are better let slide to the side. Both personally and professionally.

    These situations are nothing more than a 20 minute break for a gal as the universe/God/Etc resets the stage that is our life allowing new (and better) characters to enter. Brand and grand plots ensue.
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    Could not of put it better, thankfully when the things go tits up, I'm so lucky my friends and family are there for me. And always are honest with their advice and friendships.
    There is always people who get satisfaction of someone else's misfortune or will try to point the finger to hide their own discrepancy.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Amy Alison View Post
    Maybe that's just a case of me reaping what i had sown, as I admit, I am far from being a social butterfly type of person.

    However, I can't stop thinking that in my time of troubles, most people are not anywhere to be seen around me. Very, very few exceptions.

    So, before I start giving out here it's an oportunity of saying thank you to the few people that still stayed in touch, came and see how I am doing or sometimes even helped. Some of them may think it's not a big deal, but for me, going trough a tough time, working with an injured knee to be able to pay my bills but still going to college, even that lift offer to college or that big case of cat food helped a lot. Or booking in for a massage, also quite nice, since even some of my regulars avoided seeing me in that time, under the assumptions maybe I can't really do a proper massage with a bad knee

    Don't get me wrong, I am not expecting anybody to treat me like I'm a charity case, but going to the total opposite directions and make it obvious I'm someone they avoid until (I assume) I'm all better does not show too much consideration at all. Even posting here, I feel mostly left alone and while this doesn't bother me, I am thinking what the heck have those people heard about me that they seem to take distance. My PMs lately, seem to be from people who either ask when I'm coming back to escorting, either have no clue I am not doing escorting at the moment. I had Part Time Student at some stage on my massage profile, I got so far 0 PMs from people I know and used to talk regularly asking me what kind of course I am doing.

    I get it, I kept people at arm lenght and this is coming back to me. I can't even say that makes, me sad, in fact I enjoy having more time for myself. But still, the logic behind it's rather interesting and - excuse the long intro - brings me back to the point of this thread.

    Have you ever felt that in times of need there are less people around you ? If so, what do you think it's the reason ? People avoiding seeing someone upset as they can't handle it ? Or do you think the reason is a lot more egotistic, like being afraid of being asked for a favour? Or maybe you are the exception to the rule and in times of trouble you got even more support from people you know ? I'd love to hear your experiences. Answers on a post card please :)

    P.S.I'm a lot better at the moment, both financially and health wise. Can't wait to hear from my friens

    Sorry to hear that Amy. You've always seemed like a very genuine and considerate person from the posts I've read. Unfortunately it's too often the nice people that receive that kind of treatment.


    As far as the escort client thing goes I've noticed that personally I get very fidgety after a few visits to the same lady and then it's time to move on. I'm a naturally suspicious type and not naturally comfortable.


    In my civvy life I'm the same. I've a small group of friends but they are all dependable and I like to think they know they can count on me when needed. It took me a while to get to that stage, I was left high and dry often enough when I was younger.


    None of that really helps but there ya go.

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    Don't believe there are any friends here .
    I have good friends in my real life and they are the best buds any one could have and believe me that's not bulshite .
    They know I punt and are happy I'm doing it because they don't judge me.
    We can talk about anything. Sex with their wives the whole story.
    That's what real friends are for!!!
    So if anyone here thinks they have friends here they are delusional ❤️❤️����
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