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Clueless (22-09-15)
Very brave post and admitting there is a problem is the first step. You need to also say these things to you family and friends, they are the ones that will give you continued support, just when your at your weakest and you feel like bingeing on crap and maybe booze, they will steer you in the right direction and give you the encouragement you need.
If you cut your portion size, that helps massively, without changing your diet. Cut down fatty and surgery foods, that just turns into fat if your life style is not active enough. Cut down on processed foods they are laced with salt, which stores unnecessary water in the body.
Everyone should do some sort of exercise weather you are 25 stone or 80 years old, even if it's only a bit of walking it all helps. The key to exercise is start of slowely and low intensity and building it up gradually over months, setting new targets every week. A lot apps for phones that will help you achieve these targets, Runkeeper, map my run etc.
But your first port of call should be your doctor for a full medical, just to make sure there is no underlying heath conditions. A good doctor will also give you some dietary advise, or refer you to a dietrican that will give you a healthy eating plan.
Once you start to feel a bit better about yourself, and your confidence improves, this will noticed by others and you will be pleasantly surprised by their reaction.
Good luck with it.
BTW: I would pay no attention to that Escort, as you said yourself she was only a kid!!
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Thanks guys and girls, some good advice there, I feel better already and will om a few ladies and see what the replies vare like
I see guys of all sizes, some of whom are very overweight, their size doesn't bother me, all of whom have been respectful, courteous & polite, that's what is more important to me. Unfortunately, it's clear that you picked the wrong girl, I cannot imagine anyone being so rude in that manner, I certainly haven't & never will comment on a guys size.
I can only repeat what others have said, eat less & move more. With exercise & your size, you will have to start off gently, so walking is your best option, take the stairs instead of the lift, when you go to the shops, park a little bit further. Small changes can make a huge difference.
Fill up on protein & complex carbohydrates, such as wholewheat pasta, brown bread, your body has to work harder breaking down complex carbohydrates so you will feel fuller for longer.
I've seen some very fit guys who have had an 'ugly conceited' personality, it's not always about how you look, I would rather see a larger guy with a pleasant personality,who I can get along with, than some young fit guy who's disrespectful & full of himself.
Sandy x
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You seem to be making real effort and all advice here is good a little exercise and up it every day always eat breakfast not fry though and another thing stop looking in the bloody mirror and stay off scales join a gym and you may meet someone and not have to go near escorts
Nobody here looks like Rob Kearney or has the lifestyle of a premier league player
And a lot of the girls on here are not so fit either as said pm or I find phone a few of the established ladies on site you can tell a lot from voice and tone explain your anxiety to them and if they do not want to meet most will tell you
But most are very nice you just got a bad one
I have met a few who were not as described and even in reviews were way off
But they were nice and friendly again most of the girls on here are very good and will not judge
Look after yourself and try to keep eating well and increase the exercise good luck
It took alot of courage and bravery to post that so well done. You seem to be lacking in self confidence and have a negative image of yourself. This needs to stop
straight away. You need to get out of the negative mindset which is dragging you down completely. I know this is easier said than done. Start by telling yourself you
have to change. Instead of thinking negative thoughts about yourself think of positive times/situations in your life, compliments you may have received from someone.
Thinking positive all the time. Getting to love yourself for who you are. Breaking the cycle of negativity. There will be bad days without doubt but don't let them fester
and develop. Say to yourself that was a tough period however I need to push on with the positivity. Why am I saying all this? Well because it works and I proof that it
does. There are 3 ladies here that have helped me so much I could never repay them in any way. It is an ongoing process. You don't wake up 1 day and go I am now
totally self confident and love my image.
FetishCherry (22-09-15)
That was a really heartbreaking post. I'm sure it was torture typing it, reliving the moment as well as identifying and confronting what you consider to be your weaknesses.
First of all, that was nasty of the escort in question. I'm sorry to hear that it happened to you. Young ones in this profession, I've found, tend to have a degree of arrogance about them. Hence why I generally don't bother with them.
As the others have said, stick to well reviewed escorts. They're professionals and, if you do have some concerns, drop them a pm.
In terms of self esteem, from my own personal experience it's a constant battle. There have been days where I've found it difficult to leave the house in the morning for a variety of reasons. If you have a hobby or interest that will focus your energy (be it movies, games for example), you'll have something that'll offer you an alternate world.
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