Originally Posted by
carlos marvado
Gemma, if you are serious about packing in escorting on this occasion, then I salute your decision. Escorts and indeed clients both tell lies and live a lie. Anita may be correct that 80% of Irish girls are liars (I dont have any statistical evidence for this) but I am certain that 100% of escorts are liars. Dont get me wrong, I'm not in the business of making a judgement here.......it's just that you have to lie to survive in this business.
From those escorts with whom I have become friendly and met socially rather than "professionally", I was left in no doubt, that it was all about money. Not one of these woman ever said to me that they enjoyed this work.....because I was a friend, they were able to be honest enough to tell me that they either needed the money for whatever reason or were addicted to the lifestyle it afforded them, but they all hated the work.
My advise to them was always the same. If you get into escorting, make sure that you have a goal or objective that you want to achieve, make sure that you cannot earn the necessary money by any other legitimate means and have an exit strategy to get out. What you say about becoming hard, having difficulty maintaining relationships, developing a distorted view of the opposite sex and possibly, eventually needing a prop to get you through the "working day", all ring true from my knowledge of working girls.
I think that escorts run the risk of loosing respect for everything over time...themselves, others, men, normality, and that the risk of psychological damage increases over time (never mind the other risks associated with this work). This should'nt been seen as all one sided. If escorts neither respect themselves or their clients, then the men who use escorts dont really respect women either. I can say that I respect some women who work as escorts, because I treated them as people, never paid them to have sex with me and never had sex with them.
I have also observed, how former "friends" can turn on one another, cheat each other and stab the other person in the back. The cause is invariably always the same....money or a perception that one girl has cheated the other. Even amongst other working girls or escort partners, nobody has any real friends, because when the chips are down it's a case of survival of the fitest and there are no rules to this game.
So my advise would be, if you are able to get out, then get out and stay out. Make sure you have the necessary means to keep you from returing to escorting.....a steady income, interesting work, good friends, hobbies and interests and social supports and eventually, somebody special who will make the thought of being intimate with somebody else abhorent to you. And if you need help and support, dont be too proud to contact those who can help you.
Good luck with your choices.