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    I never understood why a mistress could charge so much without any sex taking place, surely any women would be more than willing to torture a man for a score and many probably would do it for free.
    Why do men want to be humiliated and tortured in this way and pay big money for it? don't most have wives

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    Quote Originally Posted by Walshie View Post
    I never understood why a mistress could charge so much without any sex taking place, surely any women would be more than willing to torture a man for a score and many probably would do it for free.
    Why do men want to be humiliated and tortured in this way and pay big money for it? don't most have wives
    A lot of people have regular relationships, but they can't fulfill their other needs within that relationship and you can't make a person be dominant if it is not in their nature. I don't think it is a 'whim' if you are into fetish, it's something inside you and now and again that tension needs to be released. I imagine it must be incredibly disappointing if you go to someone for that release and you don't actually get it, so people who are able to provide domination get paid for their skill base and knowledge. They are also paid for knowing when to stop.

    I don't think it is always a sexual release either, so sex isn't always a consideration, although of course many do get turned on by the scenario.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Walshie View Post
    I never understood why a mistress could charge so much without any sex taking place, surely any women would be more than willing to torture a man for a score and many probably would do it for free.
    Why do men want to be humiliated and tortured in this way and pay big money for it? don't most have wives
    Although sex is defined as the act of penetration I think when people say sex they have to understand that it is so much more than penetration. Your idea of having sexual release and mine I would imagine are slightly different but none the less they are both important to each of us. Based on your sexual preferences you may think that during a session with my Mistress that no "sex" takes place but in fact the best "sex" I have ever had is with my Mistress.

    My idea lately of great sex is to be very aggressively and brutally whipped and caned in sets of 50, in-between the sets I am then trampled on in football boots up and down my back in an aggressive manner for an unknown period of time, this continues until my Mistress decides to stop, and after that I am subjected to some harsh ball busting (starting to enjoy this more and more for some reason), there my friend is what I call great sex, do you think you may enjoy that?

    Although the concept of torturing someone you would imagine is easy it is not and that is why not every women can do it or why not every escort offers it. For those who are comfortable with torturing someone then there is a very high level of skill involved. What my Mistress does to me may to an outside observer seem barbaric (even though it is) but it is done with great care and with understanding of what I am looking for. If I wanted a beating that I would get no enjoyment from I could stand outside any pub in the country at closing time and start on some one. Deriving enjoyment and sexual arousal from a otherwise brutal scenario is a skill only a professional experienced mistress can provide. This is why these ladies can charge the fees they do.

    Why do I do it? Because I love submitting to my Mistress and to prove that I would do anything for her I show it by enduring such horrific pain and my reward of being allowed to kiss her feet makes it all worth while. This need to submit to a beautiful woman is something that was in me since I was born, and some other influences in my childhood also helped me on this path. May I say that none of these childhood experiences were bad or traumatic, but they did influence my behaviour.

    The bit about the wives, the problem with a wife is she may not stop when you scream the safe word.
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    Quote Originally Posted by CurvaceousKate View Post
    I imagine it must be incredibly disappointing if you go to someone for that release and you don't actually get it
    It is soul destroying and leaves you feeling empty when you part with your hard earned cash only to be totally ignored and disrespected by the "mistress". I have left many escorts feeling empty and regretting I had even made the call. Thankfully that does not happen anymore, I struck gold.

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    Quote Originally Posted by slavetoyou View Post
    It is soul destroying and leaves you feeling empty when you part with your hard earned cash only to be totally ignored and disrespected by the "mistress". I have left many escorts feeling empty and regretting I had even made the call. Thankfully that does not happen anymore, I struck gold.
    Apart from skill and knowledge, which I have already said are an important detail. I think you have also brought up the 'understanding' side of it. In a similar way you may click with someone on a physical level, you can also click with someone on a mental level and this seems to be very much the case with yourself and Alisha. She knows you well enough to be able to fulfill your needs and continue to push the boundaries and explore with you in a safe environment. You can not buy that 'click' or learn it. This is very precious thing and one of the most important with regards to a Mistress & sub relationship.

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    Quote Originally Posted by CurvaceousKate View Post
    Apart from skill and knowledge, which I have already said are an important detail. I think you have also brought up the 'understanding' side of it. In a similar way you may click with someone on a physical level, you can also click with someone on a mental level and this seems to be very much the case with yourself and Alisha. She knows you well enough to be able to fulfill your needs and continue to push the boundaries and explore with you in a safe environment. You can not buy that 'click' or learn it. This is very precious thing and one of the most important with regards to a Mistress & sub relationship.


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    don't mind mild domination but not the hard stuff

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    Quote Originally Posted by TheKnight View Post
    don't mind mild domination but not the hard stuff
    Me too, leave that hard stuff to the weirdos

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    Quote Originally Posted by Walshie View Post
    I never understood why a mistress could charge so much without any sex taking place, surely any women would be more than willing to torture a man for a score and many probably would do it for free.
    Why do men want to be humiliated and tortured in this way and pay big money for it? don't most have wives
    It's a common question that often accompanies a misconception as to what a Mistress actually does. The stereotypical image of a man tied up, beaten, shouted at, degraded etc leads many to think 'wtf?' but in reality a large proportion of the men (and woman) who visit a Mistress aren't looking for that.

    Overall it comes down to power exchange. How that is played out depends very much upon what the client is looking for, which could be a myriad of things. It may be as simple as crossdressing - eg in order to feel comfortable doing this a guy might need to be 'instructed' to dress up or may need advice on what to wear, make up, wigs, even how to walk in heels. It may be cathartic to some deeper issue from their past - I had a guy who quite literally regressed to his childhood during a scene as a way of re-living and 'dealing with' the way he was treated by medical professionals for an anal/bowel issue. Others just want someone else to take charge and try something their wives/partners never would.

    The psychology behind BDSM is fascinating and having an understanding of that is what makes a good Mistress - getting inside your clients head, administering a range of 'treatment' & using a wide variety of equipment with skill, care and appreciation of risk & results. Much of what a Mistress does could potentially be very dangerous if not done correctly or if proper safety precautions aren't in place.

    The physiological aspects are also extremely important, so knowledge of anatomy is vital - eg what can you do to which part of the body that won't result in internal damage or scarring? If I'm torturing balls for example, I play with them for a little while first to ascertain exactly where the vas is and at what point it attaches to the teste inside. That way, I am mindful when attaching anything that I'm not going to induce torsion (or worse). Similarly with ball busting - there's a knack to 'kicking' a guy in the balls without doing lasting damage. There are obvious risks with using rope, but a badly positioned knot sitting on a pressure point can have catastrophic effects and even the most securely tied rope will 'shift' as a client wriggles etc, so I need to be constantly alert to that.

    Basic first aid skills are essential (although "touch wood", I've never needed them so far!) as is the ability to react calmly to emergencies (again, "touch wood"...). Being able to correctly interpret body language makes a huge difference too.

    A Mistress worth her salt will usually have some involvement in the public scene as well as professionally, taking opportunities to discuss and practice techniques, new equipment & toys and to ground themselves. We're always learning - there's always something else to experience or an advancement in technology to get to grips with.

    When you visit a Mistress you're not just paying for her time there & then, you're paying tribute to the extensive learning & research she has personally undergone in order to provide you with that experience, which in many cases may (and should) have taken years. It's not something you can learn effectively overnight or from a book - it takes practical application, trying & testing, honing skills & techniques - Continual Professional Development, if you like.

    You're also paying tribute to & towards the huge plethora of expensive tools & equipment used (I don't mean Ann Summers tacky 50 Shades crap), the furniture you're tied to, extensive wardrobe of leather, latex, PVC, lingerie, footwear etc that is required (cos you guys have such wide & varied tastes!) and often of course, the cost of the premises as it's so much harder for a Mistress to be 'portable'. When I evaluated my Studio in the UK for contents insurance, I had about 15k worth of kit in there! It's a huge investment and used 'personal' items have no re-sale value.

    So no, there's no sex taking place (most of the time), it's more like psychological therapy
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    Quote Originally Posted by slavetoyou View Post
    you mean Miss Alisha crucifies you too,

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