How do you see yourselves???

[laura boldrini]

The difference between sexual orientation and gender identity.

Before you can develop an informed opinion on the proper sexual orientation of someone attracted to transsexuals, it's helpful to comprehend the difference between sexual orientation and gender identity. Succinctly stated:
“Sexual orientation refers to who you want to go to bed with, gender identity refers to what you want to go to bed as.”


Make sense?

A person's sexual orientation is defined as their ideal choice for a sexual partner (either men or women). Nobody knows why some people are most attracted to members of the opposite sex or the same sex. Some scientists feel we're all born with the potential for bisexuality. Others tout biological factors: including a specific inherited gene or the effect of hormones in the mother's womb on the fetus. Alas, we’re all finally coming to realize it’s something in-born: duh!

Regardless of belief, its safe to say transsexualism adds a new dimension to an already complex argument. In this variation, you add a feminine presentation, persona & gender identity - to a male platform. Regardless if this person's a girl on a full-time basis or just a weekender - she believes, she feels, she acts, and she looks just like a woman! In fact, anatomical differences aside: she's often more feminine than some born-women.

In other words: her gender identity is female. Just because she feels compelled to alter her presentation doesn't mean she also adjusts her sexual orientation. In fact, most transsexual women are never attracted to men. A smaller percentage are only drawn to men when they're in a female persona: never otherwise. Of course, there's a final group that only seeks male sexual partners.

Thus, if a straight male is attracted to genetic females & now finds himself drawn to a transsexual women...does this mean his sexual orientation is changing?

I don't think so.

Where did u get it from ?

[Meursault]

are the majority of male to female transexuals attracted to men, women or both? really curious to know the answer. cant seem to find it on google

[Meursault]

i should have added: do they prefer being topped or bottomed by men or women?

[robbie9]

I heard this question so many times.. Anyway my opinion is clearly objective.

Gay = A man who feel's attracted physical and emotionally to another man.

Straight = A man who feel's attracted physical and emotionally to a woman.

When I go out I see so many guys looking at me and then I ask myself are all these guys who feel attracted to me gays? But what they see is a feminine little girl with big boobies and big ass hihi

So all these guys are gays? If they are gays they won't feel attracted to me and they will be attracted to a strong hairy man.

Anyway for me a guy who feel's attracted to a feminine TS is not gay.

Another thing the guys who like only girls but like strap on.. Are these guys gays?

If someone wants to talk more just make a booking with me and we can have a nice chat about it

I'm totally open minded

i agree with feminine , there's few ts on this site who may look feminine at first site but u will know for a second there manly.

As for your big ass Miss Lopez , i miss it so much , so yummy!

[eirefella]

Why do you care to label yourself? If you like cock on a TS then you like cock on a TS, who else does that concern, what I think is irrelevant. At least you are being honest to yourself.

If you really want my opinion not that it should matter or effect you, you're not straight and that's for sure (in my opinion).

[kesey]

Why do you care to label yourself? If you like cock on a TS then you like cock on a TS, who else does that concern, what I think is irrelevant. At least you are being honest to yourself.

If you really want my opinion not that it should matter or effect you, you're not straight and that's for sure (in my opinion).

It effects nobody but myself. I don't care to compartmentalise my sexual preferences. Never have and never will but I was interested in other people's opions on the matter. I don't care to label people who prefer this and that. Gay, straight bi.. whatever. If life was only so simple! To me I'm an open minded adult who knows what I like and what I don't.

[airplane]

I like girls and TS girls. Not into guys but would be 100% ok with it if I was. If this makes me gay, cool, couldn't give a shit.

[Bannaners369]

Some good views and opinions shared on this thread that I am sure many will find beneficial, I know I have so cheers all!

In the past I often felt the need to quantify my desires and what I enjoyed outside what I considered to be the norm. You have to ask yourself what is the norm?, is it what you actually decide for yourself and your own life? Or is it a mindset conventional society forces on us, and we simply adopt this to feel like we fit in and have therefore a place.

I have had very positive relationships with women in the past and great sex. Always been comfortable enough to acknowledge a man with attractive qualities while feeling no sexual attraction or desire to engage physically with. For years watching 'straight' porn with guy on girl I was like, ''get out of the way dude I want to see her getting seen to not your hairy asshole and balls all up close and personnel.''

Then two or so years ago out of curiosity and honestly boredom I began watching porn with trans women. It was like I was 13 again and hard for the first time. Something so exciting about it, the fantasy, the wonder. It was driving me crazy so soon I went and took the plunge as they say. I say soon but it was more like looking endlessly at the profiles listed on here for weeks, eventually plucking up the courage to make the call.

What happened after that was an incredible experience that I have gone on to repeat several times since. Initially I had that conversation internally, am I Gay, Bi, Straight or just greedy lol..... Having since grown in my confidence and overall awareness, I seldomthink about it anymore.

Consciously or sub-consciously physical/emotional/sexual attraction plays a huge part in our lives, so it is natural to ask yourself these questions. The answer is the one you are most at peace with, whether is a specific label or happy grey area :-)

Could go on though and I have already I reckon! Ultimately i'm Heteroflexibale and it's great craic :-)

[datcollegeguy]

hmm interesting to think about huh "/ i think this is probably a topic which could be argued about all day/night but i suppose the actualy definition of gay = of, relating to, or exhibiting sexual desire or behavior directed toward a person or persons of one's own sex , straight = is romantic attraction, sexual attraction or sexual behavior between persons of opposite sex or gender. but having said that a ts is a person who emotionally and psychologically feels that they belong to the opposite sex. so i mean i wouldnt personally believe it to be gay since its kinda more on the fence O.o personally im not attracted to men yet i agree with kesey that a pretty ts really does make the blood get pumping , and at the end of the day who really cares sexual orientation , times are changing anywho just my opinion

[robbie9]

I find this very interesting. I'm a straight guy. I've been with a lot of girls. But one night, out of boredom if normal porn I guess, I watched a ts video. And like someone said before me; it was like I just discovered porn. I've never been with a ts. I want to so badly. The thought of my first time, knocking on the door, knowing what's waiting for me on the other side. It's like a drug now and I can't wait to experience it. Even with all that in mind I would still consider myself a straight guy. I mean, no one can deny how amazingly hot renatha and some of the other girls here are!

Then go for it , what's stopping you young man!