Why do we long for sex so much?

[Curvaceous Kate]

today's media portrayal woman as using sex as a tool to control men
as if woman don't like sex

Some do, but it is a generalisation. That is probably why some women don't like the idea of sex workers, although they would not admit it.

[Curvaceous Kate]

Pain stops us getting damaged.
Hunger stops us starving to death.
Fear keeps us from danger.
Urge to have sex keeps the species procreated. Of course, as we evolved, these instincts became more complex, but that is still the basis of them.

It also keeps us warm in Winter

[UB40]

It also keeps us warm in Winter

If we use escorts for warmth! Our heating bill just gone up!

[Catriona]

I'm not that smart, I was married at 21. I have however, learnt from my mistakes and I would not get married again, but that doesn't mean I would not be in a meaningful relationship.

I guess women also have that biological clock ticking that they have to listen to if they want children and when I got married I wanted like 5 and I wanted to be like my Gran and Grandad who had been together forever and do all those things.

That was way before I knew about sex mind and I didn't know that for me sex would very much be connected to my emotions with my partner.

I think it is a good thing that people tend to have their children later in life these days, as it gives you a chance to understand these kind of things before you settle down and commit to the partner of your children and I do think that children are better off when both parents involved, as long as both parents are a positive influence.

I also think that sex is an important factor in a relationship and although things do often change and you can't predict illness and stuff like that, it is good to know that you are both on a similar playing field to start with, with regards to libido and tastes, which means that at least you will understand each other if things change and not be as selfish as some people tend to be in relationships these days.

I still don't get it when guys tell me they had a great sex life before the kids, but as soon as they stopped having kids it all stopped. Does that mean that the sex was always one sided? Did their partner not really enjoy it and it was all faked? Why do they stop? Is it because they believe it is wrong or because they don't enjoy it? So many questions unanswered or ever asked, just accepted.

This has always put me off getting married and having children.

[themanofwar]

we are programmed from millions of years of evolution to want it.

but were we ever meant to pay for it Meursault

[Curvaceous Kate]

but were we ever meant to pay for it Meursault

I think society are to blame with that for labeling women 'sluts' for enjoying or being sexually active (and various other derogatory names used).

You can't have it both ways. Either you want us pure as the driven snow and you end up paying for it by those that don't conform, or you allow us to enjoy our sex life and you get more sex and free too.

[MALCOLM]

Its in our Jeans

[themanofwar]

I think society are to blame with that for labeling women 'sluts' for enjoying or being sexually active (and various other derogatory names used).

You can't have it both ways. Either you want us pure as the driven snow and you end up paying for it by those that don't conform, or you allow us to enjoy our sex life and you get more sex and free too.

you cant blame us men for that, its women that call other women sluts all the time, theyre the worst when they start

[Meursault]

but were we ever meant to pay for it Meursault

you pay for it regardless of whether it is an escort or a relationship. some how you pay for it. never a free lunch in this world

[Meursault]

you cant blame us men for that, its women that call other women sluts all the time, theyre the worst when they start

in fairness you have a point. women in packs tend to do a lot of labeling.

the moral being to really live in this world, one must be prepared to defy the herd.