Be yourself they will either like you, tolerate you or hate you.
1st option is great. 2nd option is ok. 3rd option there are many other ladies around.
Be yourself they will either like you, tolerate you or hate you.
1st option is great. 2nd option is ok. 3rd option there are many other ladies around.
love this one celticden
yea i agree. the problem with internet dating is that it makes everyone look sophisticated because you are given an extended period of time to think of replies. In the real thing (the date as you mention) the pressure is upped a couple of notches and you also have to respond to questions in mille seconds. The internet uses your conscious mind; the date must use your unconscious response.
"The mass of men live lives of quiet desperation" - Henry David Thoreau.
Curvaceous Kate (30-04-15)
does anyone think this whole shallow rat race of desirability is futile. i read on so many forums about unhappy people. Men cant get a woman and become depressed; women cant get a suitable man and get sad. we are so fortunate to exist in this universe and yet most people are melancholic because of their failure to be normal as camus said
"The mass of men live lives of quiet desperation" - Henry David Thoreau.
EIFII (30-04-15)
I think it's a combination of never having enough time to really know who you are dealing with (as in keeper or short term thing) along with pressures pushed on us by society and religion. Personally I think before you get serious with someone (as in marriage) you should be sexually active together and have lived together. If you know every aspect of that person and you still want to be with them for the rest of your life, then it's far more likely to work than holding out on vital components of a relationship until the point of no return.
One of my relatives had 2 kids and lived with her partner before she got married. They met when they were in Uni in their early 20s and they are now happily married together in their 50's. Having said that, they are both uber intelligent, so I think it was more a meeting of the minds than 'shallow aesthetic desires' that brought them together.
this is it. people think that they want to certain things in life (marriage, family, work, etc.) because they have come to a conscious choice that they want them. the reality is that they are unconsciously put under pressure to achieve these things. they want them because they are told to want them by society. now not everyone is like this. but a large portion of people are.
"The mass of men live lives of quiet desperation" - Henry David Thoreau.
Curvaceous Kate (30-04-15), simon2280 (30-04-15)
carefull what you wish for though, the law of the jungle isnt so attractive in reality, for a taste of it have a look at rwanda in the 90s youd prefer that system? social order is there for a reason, to gel society together not have us scraping goo out of each others heads and raping and pillaging each other
Last edited by funlover12; 30-04-15 at 17:22.
i understand your point but the point i was trying to make is that people are sort of swept along by the current of daily life. for instance the younger generations just sign up for college without much thought. Because everyone else is going they go and because society says go to college. The point i am trying to make is people seldom question their decisions. they think they do but they dont. they just respond to the stimulus of daily life.
"The mass of men live lives of quiet desperation" - Henry David Thoreau.
Curvaceous Kate (01-05-15)