Bullying!

[Naughtynatalie]

I do agree with what you are saying, but I think in these cases the superior strength comes in numbers. As in support for the person who is being unreasonable in order to wind someone up and get a rise. This can be seen how one person can say something that is parallel to another and you see two totally different reactions.

i.e. Two girls may be doing a little touting for some 'fun' and a to pass the time away and no one bats an eye lid and in fact everyone has a good bit of banter, then someone else does it and they get crucified for it. It's never just one person that has a go, it's several and from both sides of the fence.

The problem is, it spoils it for everyone, as we are all witness to these spats and it takes the fun out of the site. It's a shame people can't just ignore the threads they are not interested in and enjoy the site with the people they do like. Live and let live.

I agree with you Kate. I do also think though that sometimes its said that people are ganging up on others when that's not necessarily the case. There just happens to be a dislike of someone be it for their posting style or how they come across here.
That mutual dislike is then construed as ganging up. Also I see Amy has read my mind as I was going to add some people don't know when to let it go & strive to have the last word which only escalates the situation.
I know I have disliked a post or comment & responded, then been lumped in with 'the mob' when I am so not on anyone's side but my own.

Ah sure t'is the internet & there is always going to be disagreements between people. I was just sick of seeing the word 'bully' bandied around when they are all as bad as each other x

I totally agree with you Kate especially the highlighted bit,
I also see that when people get involved in threads just to poke fun its gets nasty, from BOTH sides and no one will let go they all just have to have the last word.

Agreed x

[SmallHorn]

I disagree with this whole thread.

I think its aimed at me.

[Curvaceous Kate]

I agree with you Kate. I do also think though that sometimes its said that people are ganging up on others when that's not necessarily the case. There just happens to be a dislike of someone be it for their posting style or how they come across here.
That mutual dislike is then construed as ganging up. Also I see Amy has read my mind as I was going to add some people don't know when to let it go & strive to have the last word which only escalates the situation.
I know I have disliked a post or comment & responded, then been lumped in with 'the mob' when I am so not on anyone's side but my own.

Ah sure t'is the internet & there is always going to be disagreements between people. I was just sick of seeing the word 'bully' bandied around when they are all as bad as each other x



Agreed x

I know what you are saying there, but maybe a little restraint needs to be exercised now and again. I've seen some posts where I can see it getting nasty and I may actually agree with the sentiment of the stronger side, but how does it help if I contribute with the same sentiment? It just keeps the ball rolling. Sometimes it's better to say nothing and use the thank you button to show your agreement.

I suppose it's a case of knowing where to draw the line and sometimes that's before you've even started if you arrive at a thread that's already in full flow.

I've also noticed a few posters that do pull back when they see it turning bad, so it's not everyone and it is good to see who does have empathy for others.

I know this is just a forum and not real life, but people do commit suicide because of situations that get out of hand online, people do take things to heart and like it or not some people using sites like this will be emotionally vulnerable. It's all very well telling them they shouldn't be here if they can't take the heat, but this might be their life line and in a sad way, also their decent.

Just think twice before posting is what I'm trying to say I guess. Is what you're about to type funny or belittling? etc.

[bollocks]

sometimes I like to be dominated which is of course consensual

[JayJay JayJay]

Bully Definition

use superior strength or influence to intimidate (someone), typically to force them to do something.

synonyms: persecute, oppress, tyrannize, torment, browbeat, intimidate, cow, coerce, strong-arm, subjugate, domineer; informalpush around/about, play the heavy with
"the other children used to bully him"


There's a lot of talk of bullying on this site.

When I was growing up, I hated bullies (real bullies) & got into trouble quite a few times for giving them a good slap on behalf of someone who couldn't stand up for themselves.

As the definition says it is someone using superior strength or influence to intimidate. I don't feel anyone on this site is superior to anyone else (some individuals may think they are but they aren't).
I also see those who use the term bully/bullying so loosely, are quick enough to put other people down themselves.

This is an adult internet forum, if you cant take the heat or understand the fact some people just wont get on then perhaps this isn't the place for you.
There is also other options ... put people you don't like on block. Report posts that offend.

You cant call someone a bully then name call & make personal attacks back, really your just as bad as each other.
Its obvious that some people don't like each other so debate, argue or whatever but stop trying to play the victim when you's are all perfectly capable of standing up for yourselves.
Its tit for tat bollox at best!
Grow up the lot ye, you's are giving this aul bird a feckin headache
If it carries on I shall be forced to deal out punishment & treat you's like children

Rant over

Discuss

Horsecrap,
Why did you preface your post with some irrelevant nonsense about standing up to bullies when you were younger? Are you trying to intimate that this uniquely qualifies you to comment about bullying. As ridiculous as the "some of my best friends are gay so my opinions on homosexuality are really super dooper important.
My point is this if you are so anti-bullying how come you have never intervened or commented when it has occured on this forum? How come you and other escorts deem it appropriate to engage with some truly horrible posters, posters who have been incredibly vile in their reviews and comments about escorts. You do realise that failure to ostracise these cretins legitimises their behaviour and in effect condones bullying. It seems that you are able to talk the talk, try walking the walk now.

[Naughtynatalie]

Horsecrap,
Why did you preface your post with some irrelevant nonsense about standing up to bullies when you were younger? Are you trying to intimate that this uniquely qualifies you to comment about bullying. As ridiculous as the "some of my best friends are gay so my opinions on homosexuality are really super dooper important.
My point is this if you are so anti-bullying how come you have never intervened or commented when it has occured on this forum? How come you and other escorts deem it appropriate to engage with some truly horrible posters, posters who have been incredibly vile in their reviews and comments about escorts. You do realise that failure to ostracise these cretins legitimises their behaviour and in effect condones bullying. It seems that you are able to talk the talk, try walking the walk now.

Oh get you brave boy hiding under a new name. Have you read every one of my posts? I've stuck up for plenty of posters here over the years when they haven't done so themselves.
Do you think I read posters reviews, your having a feckin laugh aren't you. I take people as I find them on these boards & shall write whatever the hell I want & chat to whoever the hell I want. Capiche?
But since your here 'newbie' with 3 posts yet know so much tell me your other user names & let me see where you have stood up for anyone!
I personally think you seem vile so its possibly all about perception!
Grow some balls instead of hiding behind your computer screen.

[Hugh ArYa]

Oh get you brave boy hiding under a new name. Have you read every one of my posts? I've stuck up for plenty of posters here over the years when they haven't done so themselves.
Do you think I read posters reviews, your having a feckin laugh aren't you. I take people as I find them on these boards & shall write whatever the hell I want & chat to whoever the hell I want. Capiche?
But since your here 'newbie' with 3 posts yet know so much tell me your other user names & let me see where you have stood up for anyone!
I personally think you seem vile so its possibly all about perception!
Grow some balls instead of hiding behind your computer screen.

Maybe he was banned before so can't use his other username. It doesn't mean he's a coward or hiding, just that he fell foul of the approval of management.
Or maybe you're right.

[Naughtynatalie]

Maybe he was banned before so can't use his other username. It doesn't mean he's a coward or hiding, just that he fell foul of the approval of management.
Or maybe you're right.

Well he's not very clever making it so obvious then is he as he'll probably get banned again, silly!

I'm guessing I'm right.

[Hugh ArYa]

Well he's not very clever making it so obvious then is he as he'll probably get banned again, silly!

I'm guessing I'm right.

No, I'm right, as of the two of us, I'm the only one who's a man.

No more arguing now. I've the price of a good punt on Bayern Munich going all the way, and can't handle distractions.

[JayJay JayJay]

Oh get you brave boy hiding under a new name. Have you read every one of my posts? I've stuck up for plenty of posters here over the years when they haven't done so themselves.
Do you think I read posters reviews, your having a feckin laugh aren't you. I take people as I find them on these boards & shall write whatever the hell I want & chat to whoever the hell I want. Capiche?
But since your here 'newbie' with 3 posts yet know so much tell me your other user names & let me see where you have stood up for anyone!
I personally think you seem vile so its possibly all about perception!
Grow some balls instead of hiding behind your computer screen.

Whether or not I've stood up for other posters is a matter of complete irrelevance, I'm not the one claiming to be the Joan of Arc of antibullying. Nice deflection though. You didn't answer my question though, why do you and others interact with bullies? And the ostrich defense, I didn't see it doesn't cut it, you saw my post quick enough when it was pertaining to you.