Women versus Men needing sex!

[Curvaceous Kate]

The one thing that has not been mentioned (in this thread) is that women do want sex for one purpose,,, and that is to get pregnant,, at a time ,that they feel they want to get pregnant.

After that, everything changes as we know...loyalties change etc etc.

That's not true. Bad man! I certainly wasn't looking to get pregnant when I was swinging and that would also mean that a woman would NEVER use birth control of any sort, as there would be no point.

[Curvaceous Kate]

goes back to the days before condoms, the pill, and societal help each other out outlooks. pregnancy is a huge life changing and burden for the female....for 9 months, raising the risks for her dying, versus we just shoot a load and let her fallopian tubes take care of the rest and aren't slowed down with body changes placing huge strain on our ability to survive.
so its in her interest to find a resourceful male provider to take the plunge with, for making a home and feeding her and the young'uns, thats the evolutionary answer and its similar nowadays just not as cut and dry, back then it was the difference between life and death, whereas now its the difference between a possible comfortable life and benefits with a much harder struggle....allegedly. Its ingrained in the DNA.

yous provide the quality control, and we provide the product.

I can see why that would make women wary of having sex too freely, as the outcome could be very expensive and time consuming (bringing up a child), but that has nothing to do with sexual desire.

[nonpareil]

I can see what you're getting at, but it doesn't work like that. We don't get urges only when we want to procreate, it happens even when pregnant, in fact some ladies have a higher sex drive while pregnant.

We eat to fuel our bodies
We have sex to procreate
These are fundamental basic instincts
But most people that can also eat for pleasure.
Thus also for sex, we have sex because it's pleasurable.
We are more than our animal urges.
We have big brains that both allow us to rise above our animal instincts and to also derive great pleasure from those instincts.
Sex for pleasure and not just procreation, is also the glue that holds couples together even if it may not last.
The biological imperative behind this is to successfully rear children to adulthood.
Once you have done this you have completed evolutions job.
But we come together as a sum of parts and we tend to be more complex than just a n animal bundle of nerves and hormones.

[amylove69]

It's the guys that consider C and D for their partner before A and B, that have the best sex in my opinion. Xx

Seems the generally attitude is that women don't need or want sex as much as men, but... for every man getting sex, there is usually a woman having sex with them (unless they're into guys that is).

So... why is it that men see Escorts and the majority of women don't?

I think it's about boxes that need ticking.

A guy needs to tick box A and box B to get to = Sex

Where as a lady needs to tick box A, B, C & D to get to = Sex.

It doesn't mean the urge or the desire is not there, but as women are generally governed by their emotions and men are more linear and logical thinking they have a more direct route to their desire. Whereas us ladies are still going round in circles getting what we need emotionally before we can get there.

Of course there are always exceptions to the rule on both sides.

That's my theory... what's yours and why?

[paul_m]

Men need sex more than women. I was going to see an escort a few days ago and I had a plan to not ejaculate for 3 nights/days. First day OK, on the second night I got very little sleep I was that horny. On the third day I got nothing done at work as I was fantasizing about sex all the time. By the afternoon I had blueballs and was tender down there and in pain. By evening time I was still in pain and had only one thing on my mind. All I had to do was get to the morning. could I. Not a bloody hope!!!

[Curvaceous Kate]

We eat to fuel our bodies
We have sex to procreate
These are fundamental basic instincts
But most people that can also eat for pleasure.
Thus also for sex, we have sex because it's pleasurable.
We are more than our animal urges.
We have big brains that both allow us to rise above our animal instincts and to also derive great pleasure from those instincts.
Sex for pleasure and not just procreation, is also the glue that holds couples together even if it may not last.
The biological imperative behind this is to successfully rear children to adulthood.
Once you have done this you have completed evolutions job.
But we come together as a sum of parts and we tend to be more complex than just a n animal bundle of nerves and hormones.

That sounds almost poetic, but it does not account for me. My Son is 21. I would never have a child outside of marriage, as I believe that a child needs 2 parents and yet... My best and most exciting sexual years have been while single and not actively wanting to have a child. My child has grown up, I have no partner to use sex as glue with and yet I continue to enjoy and have sex (and not just for money). I was swinging for 4 years before I did this.

Your theory discounts my experience. I also do not intend to stop having sex after I have the menopause.

[Curvaceous Kate]

It's the guys that consider C and D for their partner before A and B, that have the best sex in my opinion. Xx

I agree with you on that one Amy.

[Curvaceous Kate]

Men need sex more than women. I was going to see an escort a few days ago and I had a plan to not ejaculate for 3 nights/days. First day OK, on the second night I got very little sleep I was that horny. On the third day I got nothing done at work as I was fantasizing about sex all the time. By the afternoon I had blueballs and was tender down there and in pain. By evening time I was still in pain and had only one thing on my mind. All I had to do was get to the morning. could I. Not a bloody hope!!!

Ah now you are on to something. We produce one egg per Month, so we don't have that 'need' to get rid of it out of our system and it happens once a Month. Whereas you produce sperm regardless that needs an outlet and has a sell by date, so it needs to be renewed and good for when it hits home kind of thing. That sexual urge is about keeping the sperm healthy and ready for penetration.

I had never considered that before.

I had also considered that where most women can multi orgasm, most men can not, so we actually get the better deal and more actual enjoyment from the experience.

[Curlymur]

What does it require to elicit an orgasm with you ? Or multi-orgasm ??
Would like the practice !!

[Curvaceous Kate]

What does it require to elicit an orgasm with you ? Or multi-orgasm ??
Would like the practice !!

Lol not in a touting mood, so ask one of the guys who reviewed me