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    Unhappy Happy ending guilt

    Hi,
    I've never paid for any physical sexual service till yesterday when I got a massage with a happy ending.

    I've been with my girlfriend for a long time, she is the only person I've ever been with but lately I've had fantasies of being with someone else, any other female, not a relationship, just a physical thing, so I snoop on this site and look at the ads and play out how it would go in my head but never did anything about it, then yesterday I had some time on my hands and felt like I needed a massage and if something else came with that so be it. I popped into somewhere that looked like that type of place.

    I kind of thought it might be the situation where I would have to raise the issue of happy endings, something I'd never do but the masseuse asked me before I'd even undressed and I just awkwardly said yes.

    My heart was beating like crazy for the first part of the massage, I was considering asking her to cancel the happy ending part, then when she started massaging my ass and scrotum from behind I just went with it, as soon as I came I felt like shit. I wanted to leave but my massage wasn't over and I stuck out the rest of it.

    I love my girlfriend and now I feel like an absolute arse, in some ways it didn't feel like cheating because there was zero attraction there, I barely even looked at the masseuse, it was purely a physical sensation that made me orgasm... it barely felt sexual to be honest, but I still wish I never did it.

    How do you guys deal with this feeling? Do you consider it cheating? Is it possible to still be a good guy and do this when you have a girlfriend? Sorry if this is a bit of mood killer but just looking for someone to make me feel better about myself as a person.

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    The curiosity you had previously is now killed , and you have rock solid clarification about how you feel about your gf.
    Keep quiet and go bring her somewhere she wants to go/go do something she wants to do.

    Its not all bad if you lose the guilty conscience and think about it


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    Quote Originally Posted by shydub View Post
    Hi,
    I've never paid for any physical sexual service till yesterday when I got a massage with a happy ending.

    I've been with my girlfriend for a long time, she is the only person I've ever been with but lately I've had fantasies of being with someone else, any other female, not a relationship, just a physical thing, so I snoop on this site and look at the ads and play out how it would go in my head but never did anything about it, then yesterday I had some time on my hands and felt like I needed a massage and if something else came with that so be it. I popped into somewhere that looked like that type of place.

    I kind of thought it might be the situation where I would have to raise the issue of happy endings, something I'd never do but the masseuse asked me before I'd even undressed and I just awkwardly said yes.

    My heart was beating like crazy for the first part of the massage, I was considering asking her to cancel the happy ending part, then when she started massaging my ass and scrotum from behind I just went with it, as soon as I came I felt like shit. I wanted to leave but my massage wasn't over and I stuck out the rest of it.

    I love my girlfriend and now I feel like an absolute arse, in some ways it didn't feel like cheating because there was zero attraction there, I barely even looked at the masseuse, it was purely a physical sensation that made me orgasm... it barely felt sexual to be honest, but I still wish I never did it.

    How do you guys deal with this feeling? Do you consider it cheating? Is it possible to still be a good guy and do this when you have a girlfriend? Sorry if this is a bit of mood killer but just looking for someone to make me feel better about myself as a person.


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    If a tree falls in the forest and no one is there, does it still make a sound?


    If you got a wank and a massage and your girlfriend was not around?


    The thing about guilt is the more you do something, the less you feel guilty.

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    Ah the post cum guilt trip....... Happens the best of us......... But it fades after a few goes

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    Is it fair to say that a lot of punters on here would consider themselves to be in loving relationships?

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    Quote Originally Posted by shydub View Post
    Is it fair to say that a lot of punters on here would consider themselves to be in loving relationships?
    Start a poll and see

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    barely know how to use the forum, how do I thank people?

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    Quote Originally Posted by shydub View Post
    barely know how to use the forum, how do I thank people?
    Think you need a few more posts under your belt.

    As for the attached client question, it has been asked before, varied results, quite a mix of folk here.

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    Quote Originally Posted by shydub View Post
    Is it fair to say that a lot of punters on here would consider themselves to be in loving relationships?
    I love myself.

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    If it caused you such stress put it behind you, forget about it and move on.

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