Firstime bi male very nervous
Hi guys. I'm a married 38. I have of recent found myself looking for men to pull me off on differant websites.
I'm a little bit scared as ive never taught of myself been interested in men.
Can anyone help me even just to chat to me.
Just get your lips around it and everything else falls into place!!!
Im pretty sure I can help.....
You could explain your desires to your wife....They say thats what you should do......keep nothing secret............I do have my doubts.
Originally Posted by Butch1977
My missus just found out about my bisexual preferences & experiences. I want to grow old with that girl, but just can't help myself experimenting with a dude every now and then. I can not imagine being in relationship with a bloke, though, kissing him good night etc .... Ugh. It sends shiver down my back. But a bit of an oral action, well now, that's a totally different story. I could never live without my girlfriend but I also like a bit of cock sucking every now and then.
I think it is absolutely crucial to be 100% honest with yourself ... Can't say you're straight if you like to perform a fellatio or want to ride a mans butt. Also you're not bisexual if your dick doesn't get hard when sees a pussy. As much as we would love it to be, that's just not the way it works.
I know, it's not easy when you realise you might be someone you would hate to be ... It's extremely difficult and heart breaking. You want to fight it in every possible way and use every single thing you can to turn the situation around ... But it doesn't work. You can't fool the nature. If something isn't rushing the blood to your penis, it just isn't. And it won't be, no matter how hard will you try. It's not your conciousness that dictates sexual drive, therefore you can not change it. The only option to get up and perform is a substance, that will help you emulate who you would like to be. For some people it's highly unacceptable, some people like medications, some people smoke certain leaves to get the effect.
Therefore, all you can actually do, is to start loving yourself the way you are, not the way you think other people would like you to be. Otherwise, you will spend your life in a ping-pong match, trying to adjust to everybody else and never being actually trully happy.
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To be honest the best is to accept the other person's smell and taste. This is where the virtuallity collides with reality. Fantasies meet real life. You become embarrassed, thinking you should have never let that happen. But after few weeks you would actually like to try that again. And become embarrassed again ...
I used to fool myself thinking the whole bad experience will help me get out of this curious state and help me forget about my desires, become straight again. But guess what? it never did. All it did is to make me feel really low and embarrassed about myself.
The conclusion? If you want to have sex with another guy, go out and do it. Just accept the way he smells and tastes so you can get full pleasure out of the whole experience. If you can't do that, then you're better off not trying that sort of activities as it will might affect your mental health.
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Originally Posted by oneoneeight
I want your advice because I like the way you write and seem very knowledgeable. I love gay porn and watching it and only recently discovered this after a lifetime of loving and being attracted to women. I figured I was bisexual and decided to explore but didn't enjoy the experiences at all and was then even more confused. I like watching gay porn as it seems more raw and passionate but I've never had emotional or physical feelings towards a man in real life.
I am physically and emotionally attracted to women but with men not at all, but gay porn is hot to me. This is not me in denial or anything, in fact I wish I could make sense of what the hell is going on with me.
Have you any thoughts on this?
think we all have the bi/gay tendency for exploring sex fun
give it a try if u don't like it ,put it back in its box
I too enjoy gay porn but found an experience with a man devoid of the same passion as with a woman. Each to their own i guess but i don't find men attractive as women
If your still looking just to chat for some helpful advice give us a message, sometimes just a having a chat is the best cure.
I started having bi feeling very early on around 18 and experimented with my old friend who by chance was after the same thing at the time .
Your best exploring your feeling to see how you feel, there is no harm in it. It might lead to nowhere or open doors you never thought possible.