Looking for a woman to teach me

[LoveAMature]

The likes of knowledge, confidence and skills will come over time. There's no quick fix as like Sandy mentioned above every womens body, needs and wants differ. I think many have been in your position at one stage so i do feel for you but just if she feels as strongly about you as you do about her maybe you could explain to her what you have just told us and if shes any where decent she'll be patient with you and hopefully willing to help and guide you on what she likes instead of asking just anyone. Best of luck

[magnum315]

Sandy, its true when you compare it to the saying "different strokes for different blokes". Ill take your advice and start gentle then take it from there.

Lady Von Teese, thanks for the offer, ill keep it in mind

LoveAMarture, Its comforting to know im not the only person who was in this position at one time. The thing is i went back to hers a twice before and my lack of confidence got the better of me resulting in hesitation on my behalf thus ruining the night. Now she naturally thinks im am incompeent of going the whole nine yards to use a figure of speech.

Anyway, thanks for the advice ladies, wasnt really expecting it if im honest but I really do appreciate it

[Curvaceous Kate]

Sandy, its true when you compare it to the saying "different strokes for different blokes". Ill take your advice and start gentle then take it from there.

Lady Von Teese, thanks for the offer, ill keep it in mind

LoveAMarture, Its comforting to know im not the only person who was in this position at one time. The thing is i went back to hers a twice before and my lack of confidence got the better of me resulting in hesitation on my behalf thus ruining the night. Now she naturally thinks im am incompeent of going the whole nine yards to use a figure of speech.

Anyway, thanks for the advice ladies, wasnt really expecting it if im honest but I really do appreciate it

Or... she may think you are a gentleman respecting her boundaries and showing an intent to be more than a one night stand? Use it to your advantage. That might not actually be the reason, but you can say it was and in the mean time now you can tell her that you want her to enjoy a world of sexual discovery with you and not to be afraid to guide you, as you want to make her happy.

My thoughts are this... If the kissing is electric, then the chemistry is there and the rest should follow. Just let it happen naturally, give things a go and as you mentioned, start slow and increase gently while listening to her body. If she responds then you know you are doing something right. If she doesn't then try something else. If all else fails go back to kissing and maybe let her take control a little.

[magnum315]

CurvaceousKate, I try to be a gentleman. You are correct in what you are saying, i would love nothing more than for her to enjoy a world sexual discovery and sheer bliss hopefully leaving her in a state of pure ecstasy after. I know that may sound cheesy and Cornish but its the truth and i would love it if somebody could show me a few tips or trick in order to help achieve this. As the previous women kindly highlighted that no two women are the same and it should come naturally if the chemistry is there, at the same time i feel very rusty in my skills

[Curvaceous Kate]

CurvaceousKate, I try to be a gentleman. You are correct in what you are saying, i would love nothing more than for her to enjoy a world sexual discovery and sheer bliss hopefully leaving her in a state of pure ecstasy after. I know that may sound cheesy and Cornish but its the truth and i would love it if somebody could show me a few tips or trick in order to help achieve this. As the previous women kindly highlighted that no two women are the same and it should come naturally if the chemistry is there, at the same time i feel very rusty in my skills

Are you assuming that she is up to date with hers?

Okay here is something for you. Someone I know who has been single for a few years and is very shy sexually struck up a friendship with a lady. they had a couple of dates and one thing led to another and they had 'in his words' mediocre sex. He was not convinced that it went that well, but she on the other hand was very happy and wanted to start dating him properly. She kept going on about how good it was to be with him.

What I'm trying to say is, that by judging yourself, you are also judging her and her expectations of you. How do you know how much experience she has had? How do you know that you won't just naturally gel and things will come naturally?

You may be surprised to hear that I was 31 the first time I had an orgasm. You probably imagined being a Sex Worker I lost my virginity at 13 and never looked back. Nothing like that at all.

Stop worrying about where you are at and just go for it and relax and enjoy being with someone who you want to be with.

[Davidontour]

@magnum315 -- Kate's post (#10) above is absolutely spot on.

Visiting an escort can certainly increase your confidence and give you some pointers, but there is no substitute for a one on one experience with the woman you mention. As someone else here said, every woman is different and a technique that could drive one person wild could leave another staring at the ceiling.

You don't have to be highly experienced or super confident to give a lady pleasure. If you are both relaxed and into each other, it will happen and the chances are it will be really good. Don't rush things, be gentle and listen to what your partner's body is saying.

[magnum315]

Davidontour, Thank you for your reply. What you were saying about visiting an escort would increase confidence and give pointers is the main reason I decided to create this post and I am glad that you mentioned it. The chemistry is there but I do need to relax more so i feel i need to listen to your advice just like the other peoples advice and go gentle at the beginning and take it from there.

[magnum315]

CurvaceousKate, Thank you for the wake up call that i needed. I do over assume things and over judge. I will take it as it comes and see what happens. Its is very nice to get some solid applicable advice from somebody who is willing to share it.

From now on ill just go for it with out assuming or judging

Thanks very much

Magnum315