Should I Play it Cool or Tell Her I Really Like Her?

[compak]

Hey ladies and gents,

Looking to get the advice of those more sage than me.

I've been doing the dating scene for a while, but just in the last few weeks met a girl I really like. Far too early to make firm conclusions about anything, I just know I really enjoy being with her and she's the only girl that I've put as a priority over my work in about 5 years.

I know (think!) she is (was) into me. Few dates now, gone really well; lots of fun, laughs, physical contact - no sex but I respect that at this stage.

But now she's gone somewhat aloof and withdrawn - no real eagerness to meet again.

So one part of me thinks she's simply lost interest (it happens), the other is maybe she is afraid of taking that next step and being vulnerable in case she gets hurt (I know she has some bad experiences in past)

So I'm unsure what to do. Is she playing hard to get/ loosing interest - do I play it cool, keep up the banter when opportunity arises and play it distant so don't give off desperation. Or do I take the gamble, sit her down and just come out with I really like her, I really love being with her and I do not want to hurt or take advantage of her.

Any other girl I'd have just let it go by but I just feel I have to try with her.

Any suggestions much appreciated

Thanks

[mic1980]

Text her and ask her.

[Jack Daniels]

Only one way to find out, and its not here...you've already given yourself the answer...tell her, ask her..probably waiting for that she is...do it.

and then tell us.

[Meursault]

go for the jugular. This is what you say:

"I haven't written this down, because this comes from the heart. [name of woman], I've known you and been your friend for many years. And I think it's important to say, I love you. I love you more than anyone I've ever loved! I don't want the parachute, you can have it!"

[IrishDaisie69]

Firstly, as suggested above, DO NOT TXT HER !!! Terrible form of communication in this area! I always believe honesty is the best policy, if this girl is an adult then she will respect your honesty, there is a time that playing games just has to end...Be honest xxxx

[AbsoluteNoob]

"Hey you dudes that pay women for sex, give me dating advice".

hehe

[EIFII]

"Hey you dudes that pay women for sex, give me dating advice".

hehe

Because clearly paying a woman for sex totally invalidates your opinion on all other matters

[annabel taylor]

"Hey you dudes that pay women for sex, give me dating advice".

hehe

Lots and lots like lots of lols

[Meursault]

Hey ladies and gents,

Looking to get the advice of those more sage than me.

I've been doing the dating scene for a while, but just in the last few weeks met a girl I really like. Far too early to make firm conclusions about anything, I just know I really enjoy being with her and she's the only girl that I've put as a priority over my work in about 5 years.

I know (think!) she is (was) into me. Few dates now, gone really well; lots of fun, laughs, physical contact - no sex but I respect that at this stage.

But now she's gone somewhat aloof and withdrawn - no real eagerness to meet again.

So one part of me thinks she's simply lost interest (it happens), the other is maybe she is afraid of taking that next step and being vulnerable in case she gets hurt (I know she has some bad experiences in past)

So I'm unsure what to do. Is she playing hard to get/ loosing interest - do I play it cool, keep up the banter when opportunity arises and play it distant so don't give off desperation. Or do I take the gamble, sit her down and just come out with I really like her, I really love being with her and I do not want to hurt or take advantage of her.

Any other girl I'd have just let it go by but I just feel I have to try with her.

Any suggestions much appreciated

Thanks

[Kendra]

Hey ladies and gents,

Looking to get the advice of those more sage than me.

I've been doing the dating scene for a while, but just in the last few weeks met a girl I really like. Far too early to make firm conclusions about anything, I just know I really enjoy being with her and she's the only girl that I've put as a priority over my work in about 5 years.

I know (think!) she is (was) into me. Few dates now, gone really well; lots of fun, laughs, physical contact - no sex but I respect that at this stage.

But now she's gone somewhat aloof and withdrawn - no real eagerness to meet again.

So one part of me thinks she's simply lost interest (it happens), the other is maybe she is afraid of taking that next step and being vulnerable in case she gets hurt (I know she has some bad experiences in past)

So I'm unsure what to do. Is she playing hard to get/ loosing interest - do I play it cool, keep up the banter when opportunity arises and play it distant so don't give off desperation. Or do I take the gamble, sit her down and just come out with I really like her, I really love being with her and I do not want to hurt or take advantage of her.

Any other girl I'd have just let it go by but I just feel I have to try with her.

Any suggestions much appreciated

Thanks

You sound like a real sweetheart. It difficult to say what she's thinking because we don't know her or the situation but I think communication and being honest is everything. I think sometimes in life you gotta just be blunt and upfront about things while the opportunity is there so if I were you, I'd ask her out for a meal or something and then just tell her how you feel.

I know the thought of rejection must be really horrible and scary but that's worst case scenario, best case is that she feels the same.

Just tell her what you told us and then let us all know how you get on. I hope it works out for you though.

xx