how do you deal with grief in you life
how do you deal with grief in you life
Different with everyone I guess. Bottling it up didn't work for me when I lost my best friend tragically. Years later my godson died of leukemia and allowing myaelf to cry and talk to people helped a lot. We have this attitude in ireland thstt we need to be strong and keep the chin up... screw that I say. Allow yourself to grieve... talk about it with someone. ..
I was the same way lost my uncle to sucide when i was 20 didn't know what to do just swept it under the carpet but it affected me until one day I was on my way to Dublin with my brother and I just talked and talked about it was like a load of my chest that I could breath with me it just took time there no shame your weakness in talking about promblems sorry for loss
Last edited by blueberry; 04-10-14 at 07:25.
Life is like a wheelbarrow it's all in front of you
men should cry and talk
i cried a while ago an i felt ashamed and embarrassed for crying
maybe its because i am suppose to be a man and strong
i don't know
Talk, to your friends, work colleagues, telephone support lines etc etc. Don't keep it locked away and hidden, it just destroys you and makes you a prisoner. I have had to deal with suicide, and cancer deaths in my family and friends over the last few years, thankfully I empowered myself by seeking support from friends and at times professionals. Its a cliche but it is good to talk.
beautyaddict (05-10-14), tom sand (04-10-14)
Some fifteen years ago I had a tragic death , destroyed my soul.
It was sudden , a tragic accident , died in my arms.
I held them in my arms for hours , couldn't let go , took me a week to release the body for cremation.
I howled and buckled in grief. Howled into the desert , howled through the night.
Then became a zombie , unable to cope with everyday. The sorrow crippled me , that loss changed and eroded who I was.
Crying ? I cried a lot.
Took me two years to recover.
In recent times I have stopped crying , and seem to be able to move on faster , my recent griefs buried deep in my soul.
But can go on.
I do what I want. I cannot do otherwise.
beautyaddict (04-10-14), Jericho (04-10-14), mymann (04-10-14), tom sand (04-10-14), Vitruvian (04-10-14)
As said by others 'Talk', women tend to talk more than men, men do bottle up their emotions, there's nothing wrong with holding your hands up & saying I need help. It's not a weakness, it's a strength. As the saying goes 'a problem shared is a problem halved'.
Sandy x
In memory of an awesome woman Laura Lee RIP
It's so difficult to articulate just how much she meant. Inspirational, brave and irreplaceable - our hero.
Please do what you can for her daughter. Deeply appreciated.
https://www.justgiving.com/crowdfunding/glasgaelauralee
tom sand (04-10-14)