What do you consider cheating?

[NoBrain2]

Seems a bit of a grey area here so im curious to know what people consider to be cheating.

It think most of us would agree that there would need to be some sort of emotional connection, in other words seeing escorts wouldnt be cheating as there is no emotional connection. However if someone in a relationship were to have a drunken one night stand with a random stranger they met in a pub or club, that would be to most people considered cheating.

Could even interacting on the forum be considered cheating? I know of a couple that broke up because the guy was caught texting another girl, i guess his girlfriend felt she couldn't trust him. Would posts here, pm's and time spent in chat or flirting on the forum be enough to cross the line from "no strings attached" sex to something more

[willie wacker]

Seems a bit of a grey area here so im curious to know what people consider to be cheating.

It think most of us would agree that there would need to be some sort of emotional connection, in other words seeing escorts wouldnt be cheating as there is no emotional connection. However if someone in a relationship were to have a drunken one night stand with a random stranger they met in a pub or club, that would be to most people considered cheating.
Could even interacting on the forum be considered cheating? I know of a couple that broke up because the guy was caught texting another girl, i guess his girlfriend felt she couldn't trust him. Would posts here, pm's and time spent in chat or flirting on the forum be enough to cross the line from "no strings attached" sex to something more

Sorry do not agree having sex out of marriage with a lady or an escort is cheating, plain and simple.
Most married men seem to be delusional here about this.
When your up in court for a divorce tell the judge it was not cheating because it was an escort
so a one night stand is cheating and a one stand with an escort is not

[Magicdick]

Sorry do not agree having sex out of marriage with a lady or an escort is cheating, plain and simple.
Most married men seem to be delusional here about this.
When your up in court for a divorce tell the judge it was not cheating because it was an escort
so a one night stand is cheating and a one stand with an escort is not

Maybe people think it is theraphy, stress relief, kind of like visiting a therapist with some physical manipulation

Men don't alway think a physical thing as cheating

Whereas women think it is the the start of a lack of commitment

Is morality a personal or social issue.

Or maybe they less it a lesser evil.

What we say in public is not the same as what we do in private

People are not always consistent

To err is human to forgive is divine

[willie wacker]

Maybe people think it is theraphy, stress relief, kind of like visiting a therapist with some physical manipulation

Men don't alway think a physical thing as cheating

Whereas women think it is the the start of a lack of commitment

Is morality a personal or social issue.

Or maybe they less it a lesser evil.

What we say in public is not the same as what we do in private

People are not always consistent

To err is human to forgive is divine

No prob with what your saying. But too many are posting that it's not cheating. If they think that then wry do they keep saying it's not , to justify what there are doing .
If they believe it then why keep going on about it.
It doesn't bother me no sweat off my nose

[Magicdick]

To true

We can't accept that we are inconsistent we all think we are consistent, fair, honest etc etc etc.

But human beings are far more fragile and weaker than we care to insist.

That's why we are human.

Once we accept our won inconsistencies and that everyone is the same, the easier it is to accept ourselves and improve ourselves

[Larrii]

Let’s get back to why people are in relationships in the first place, be it marriage or GF or living together. There’s an understanding that you’ll be sexually faithful to them, and IN RETURN they will sort out your sexual needs.


If it gets stale they may give up. Usually the wife gives up or hits the menopause. She may not want full sex but is able to give him a lot of pleasure if she wants to. If she doesn’t want to, then she can expect him to roam. And vice versa.


The sex part of the deal may be off, but you still have kids, a mortgage etc. Most spouses’ red line is when their family and friends get to know about an infidelity. The same family and friends you were married in front of. So “what do you consider cheating?” - when you’re seen naked on the front lawn at 3am under her best friend. Singing loudly.




Discreetly visiting anyone else should not be a problem. This means managing clothes, the smell of perfume, money, mobile, diary. And not promising your new GF that she will become wife no 2.

[bobten]

Either physical or emotional interaction outside of the marriage is cheating . Men can separate the two, but to think your wife can would be folly. Cheating has to be defined as what the victim would feel , not the cheater.

[Alex.xx]

Either physical or emotional interaction outside of the marriage is cheating . Men can separate the two, but to think your wife can would be folly. Cheating has to be defined as what the victim would feel , not the cheater.

I'd say cheating is when you are not loyal to your partner. Doesn't matter what the 'victim' feels to define cheating. It matters what promises you've made.

[Jiberjabber]

I'd say cheating is when you are not loyal to your partner. Doesn't matter what the 'victim' feels to define cheating. It matters what promises you've made.

That's actually a really good definition. Especially the 'promises made' part.

[Petros]

I'd say cheating is when you are not loyal to your partner. Doesn't matter what the 'victim' feels to define cheating. It matters what promises you've made.

I think this just about sums it up