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    Hi all,

    I am a married man who tried a male escort for the first time. It was great, had protected sex but mutual non protected oral (no cim) (he penetrated me with condom). Am i being paranoid and overly anxious in thinking I need an aids test. I know this may seem very trivial to most users but as a first time user I have huge fear. Do I have anything to worry about? He was the nicest guy and said he was fully clean but I'm afraid to have sex with my wife incase i contracted anything. Is this a normal fear for a newbie or do I have cause for concern.

    Apologies if I am offending any escorts. I mean no offense, just a worried man!

    Thanks

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    Quote Originally Posted by farrell446 View Post
    Hi all,

    I am a married man who tried a male escort for the first time. It was great, had protected sex but mutual non protected oral (no cim) (he penetrated me with condom). Am i being paranoid and overly anxious in thinking I need an aids test. I know this may seem very trivial to most users but as a first time user I have huge fear. Do I have anything to worry about? He was the nicest guy and said he was fully clean but I'm afraid to have sex with my wife incase i contracted anything. Is this a normal fear for a newbie or do I have cause for concern.

    Apologies if I am offending any escorts. I mean no offense, just a worried man!

    Thanks
    HIV test. AIDS is a result of HIV

    id say you are just worrying. OCD or GAD or something like that

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    Quote Originally Posted by Meursault View Post
    HIV test. AIDS is a result of HIV

    id say you are just worrying. OCD or GAD or something like that

    I do suffer from extreme anxiety alright. I would just love a 100% confirmation that everything was clean and safe!

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    Quote Originally Posted by farrell446 View Post
    Hi all,

    I am a married man who tried a male escort for the first time. It was great, had protected sex but mutual non protected oral (no cim) (he penetrated me with condom). Am i being paranoid and overly anxious in thinking I need an aids test. I know this may seem very trivial to most users but as a first time user I have huge fear. Do I have anything to worry about? He was the nicest guy and said he was fully clean but I'm afraid to have sex with my wife incase i contracted anything. Is this a normal fear for a newbie or do I have cause for concern.

    Apologies if I am offending any escorts. I mean no offense, just a worried man!

    Thanks
    No offence taken...any unprotected sexual activity carries risk. Take a test and in future use a condom for oral...you need to wait three months so start thinking of your excuses.
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    Quote Originally Posted by farrell446 View Post
    I do suffer from extreme anxiety alright. I would just love a 100% confirmation that everything was clean and safe!
    If you are that worried then get tested. Nothing anyone here will say will put ur mind at ease. You are prob worrying over nothing but hey......only one way to know for sure.
    Good luck with it man.

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    Quote Originally Posted by farrell446 View Post
    I do suffer from extreme anxiety alright. I would just love a 100% confirmation that everything was clean and safe!
    thats what it is. Anxiety. there is a great expression: our greatest hopes and worst fears are seldom realized. People have a habit of making a problem bigger than it actually is.

    your mind is looking for reassurance to help quash the anxiety. Just go to a doctor and do a test and it will come back negative and all anxiety will disappear.

    He might prescribe you xanax to calm you down, but you can get hooked on them i do say

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    Quote Originally Posted by Meursault View Post
    thats what it is. Anxiety. there is a great expression: our greatest hopes and worst fears are seldom realized. People have a habit of making a problem bigger than it actually is.

    your mind is looking for reassurance to help quash the anxiety. Just go to a doctor and do a test and it will come back negative and all anxiety will disappear.

    He might prescribe you xanax to calm you down, but you can get hooked on them i do say


    Thanks for the advice. I know I am over worrying. It really was all clean and safe apart from OWO. I'm assuming HIV is not something to worry about through OWO?? Thats my real worry

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    Chance of you having anything is minimal, really very small.
    Very low percentage chance of hiv from oral and even lower as chances are the other person isn't infected.

    Personally I wouldn't give it another thought, but get checked and dicuss with a doctor to put your mind at rest.

    Don't let this very, very small risk wreck your mind.

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    Quote Originally Posted by TonyB View Post
    Chance of you having anything is minimal, really very small.
    Very low percentage chance of hiv from oral and even lower as chances are the other person isn't infected.

    Personally I wouldn't give it another thought, but get checked and dicuss with a doctor to put your mind at rest.

    Don't let this very, very small risk wreck your mind.

    Thank you for the advice. I am going to book myself in for a test tomorrow. It has only been 7 days so I am not sure how accuate the test will be but I am sure everyone is right that I am being anxious over nothing. I'm sure if there was an escort with HIV they wouldnt be working with it. I hope

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    Quote Originally Posted by farrell446 View Post
    Hi all,

    I am a married man who tried a male escort for the first time. It was great, had protected sex but mutual non protected oral (no cim) (he penetrated me with condom). Am i being paranoid and overly anxious in thinking I need an aids test. I know this may seem very trivial to most users but as a first time user I have huge fear. Do I have anything to worry about? He was the nicest guy and said he was fully clean but I'm afraid to have sex with my wife incase i contracted anything. Is this a normal fear for a newbie or do I have cause for concern.

    Apologies if I am offending any escorts. I mean no offense, just a worried man!

    Thanks
    http://www.yoursexualhealth.ie/inner_page/hiv_testing/
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