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    Quote Originally Posted by ZVN60 View Post
    Apologies if this has either been done to death or is in the wrong section.

    For me, I've started visiting them because I'm in my late 20's and have never had a girlfriend. I've love shyness (for those who don't know http://www.love-shy.com/faq).

    In the last while, it had started to eat away at me that I'm soon to be 30 and have never been with a woman. I felt an utter failure and led to depression. In light of the death of Robin Williams, something snapped inside me and made me realise life is too short and that I had to know what it was like.

    It's an incredible feeling, being with a beautiful woman. And one I want to experience again and again.

    I don't think the depression will ever lift permanently, but at least I no longer feel a failure.
    Love shyness is just a term that was conceived by an author who wanted to sell a book.
    "The mass of men live lives of quiet desperation" - Henry David Thoreau.

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    ive just looked at the website and it reminds me of ron hubbards scientology thing. No offense man. But i dont buy it

    edit: I know im being a dick and cynical. but this is like the guys who say they can make you a million in three months. They are common in america. Its all money
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    The purpose of an escort visit is to relieve pent up sexual tension . Go in . pay your cash , do the deed and leave .

    An escort is not a therapist or prospective lover or your next best mate . This does not mean you shouldn't be nice kind and respectful but there is a line that's best not crossed .

    But if it helps in improving your overall happiness then go for it .

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    You can believe what you want, but discovering the term helped me no end.

    From the age of 18 to 26 (when I came across the term), I genuinely believed I was defective. And that lead to years of self imposed isolation as well as lack of self worth. But when I found out that others were in the same position, it was the beginning of a process that enabled me to come out of my shell. That knowledge gave me a hell of a confidence boost which enabled me to take on a better job than the shitty retail work I thought I'd be in for the rest of my life.

    Sure, I still have my moments, but don't we all.

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    You can believe what you want, but discovering the term helped me no end.
    hence why the guy sold lots of books. Because there is a market for it. Go on any porn website and you will see ads for pills that can make your dick bigger. Now why are they there? Because men buy the pills hoping to make their dicks bigger. This is a market for men who are frustrated by their lack of foray in the attracting-women-game and in their desperation, they do desperate things.

    From the age of 18 to 26 (when I came across the term), I genuinely believed I was defective. And that lead to years of self imposed isolation as well as lack of self worth.
    I remember a guy recently had the same problem. hed go out every saturday night with his mates and they would all pull women and he didnt and he would beat himself up over it. You see what he was doing, was basing his self esteem on how popular he was with the ladies and henceforth if he wasnt popular with the ladies, his esteem took a nose dive into the abyss Nietzsche made famous. So what do you do? You break away from the popularity contest of basing your esteem on image and through that you release yourself and become more favorable with regards traits.

    You must remember that no man gets every woman, despite his status. But if you are trying desperately to get a woman, you wont. So what you do is be yourself and then you may just find someone.

    But when I found out that others were in the same position, it was the beginning of a process that enabled me to come out of my shell. That knowledge gave me a hell of a confidence boost which enabled me to take on a better job than the shitty retail work I thought I'd be in for the rest of my life.
    Again this is the problem. You are looking at others and saying the most in demand guy works as a professional and not retail and because you were in retail you internalize anger and beat yourself up. Now if you dont give yourself a chance, no one else will. If you cant love yourself for what you are, no one else will either. So what you do is accept yourself for what you are and be happy to be alive, and dont get involved in this petty rat race of materialism. Be happy and you will find a nice woman and bla bla bla. But that wont happen as long as you keep involving yourself in psychological contests of looking well for others.

    Sure, I still have my moments, but don't we all.
    Yea no doubt. But i find that if you stand apart from others and just appreciate your existence in an incredibly harsh universe, you may just enjoy life better and others then can enjoy it with you.

    It pains me to see the amount of men who get depressed over not being the top dog. There is more to life than pulling women
    "The mass of men live lives of quiet desperation" - Henry David Thoreau.

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    Terrible lot of assumptions being made, but this is the main one:

    Quote Originally Posted by Meursault View Post

    It pains me to see the amount of men who get depressed over not being the top dog. There is more to life than pulling women
    At no point have I wanted to be a top dog, nor have I considered the main thrill of life to be pulling women.

    I've been interested in having a relationship with a woman (I've never been into the bar scene), and not having one woman express interest in you since you were old enough to be interested in the opposite sex does do things to your mental well being.

    And I've never "looked at others and said the most in demand guy works as a professional." The two have no correlation for me. I simply believed that I was not qualified enough, nor personable enough to pass the interview.
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    I've been interested in having a relationship with a woman (I've never been into the bar scene), and not having one woman express interest in you since you were old enough to be interested in the opposite sex does do things to your mental well being.
    hold on. Your contradicting yourself. You said you didnt have what it took to be in a relationship and then you say you went off with an escort. You are not going to have a relationship with an escort. They are providing a service. There will be no relationship with them, i can guarantee.

    Now my point is that you are still basing your esteem on being with a woman, as if almost the image of being alone haunts you. There are a lot of men not in relationships who are mentally stable. So why are they stable and you not?


    And I've never "looked at others and said the most in demand guy works as a professional." The two have no correlation for me. I simply believed that I was not qualified enough, nor personable enough to pass the interview.
    You have said from the outset that you are love shy. (Im saying no such thing exists.) but if you are saying you are love shy, it means you have anxiety about yourself and your place in the world. this anxiety comes in part from failure within the dating scene and the cycle continues. All im trying to do is give you advice, which is: Be yourself and dont beat yourself up over that failure.

    <personable enough to pass the interview> first of all love shyness has nothing to do with interviews, unless you plan on dating your interviewer. Second of all and more pertinent, by saying you are not "personable" you are already beating yourself up. You are already saying you dont have a chance and like i said, if you dont give yourself a chance, you dont stand a chance.

    The dating game is a lot like the job environment in that you have to make good impressions. But it starts off with being yourself and accepting yourself. because if you go in relaxed and confident about who you are, you tend to perform better. If you go into the job interview convinced you are a failure, employers will see that like a potential partner and they will not say Si.

    What you have is anxiety. Now getting rid of anxiety is hard. but im trying to assert that if you be yourself ( im assuming you are sociable) you may just be the spider that catches the fly. But that wont happen if you are trying too hard.

    just advice man. Dont take it personal. I dont even know you.
    "The mass of men live lives of quiet desperation" - Henry David Thoreau.

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    You should use the confidence you get from visiting a beautiful woman , use it to help you go out and talk to single girls and maybe u will meet someone to make you happy .

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    I visit Escorts because I'm too damn ugly to get a girlfriend.

    Finally got tired of waiting to have a sex life through dating etc. (never going to happen) so I decided to go out and buy one.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Klittyliker View Post
    I visit Escorts because I'm too damn ugly to get a girlfriend.

    Finally got tired of waiting to have a sex life through dating etc. (never going to happen) so I decided to go out and buy one.
    mike tyson once said that he had opponents beaten before the bell even rang. My point is that if your already beaten before you go out, you dont have a chance. Think positively
    "The mass of men live lives of quiet desperation" - Henry David Thoreau.

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