Why do you visit escorts?

[ZVN60]

Terrible lot of assumptions being made, but this is the main one:

It pains me to see the amount of men who get depressed over not being the top dog. There is more to life than pulling women

At no point have I wanted to be a top dog, nor have I considered the main thrill of life to be pulling women.

I've been interested in having a relationship with a woman (I've never been into the bar scene), and not having one woman express interest in you since you were old enough to be interested in the opposite sex does do things to your mental well being.

And I've never "looked at others and said the most in demand guy works as a professional." The two have no correlation for me. I simply believed that I was not qualified enough, nor personable enough to pass the interview.

[Meursault]

I've been interested in having a relationship with a woman (I've never been into the bar scene), and not having one woman express interest in you since you were old enough to be interested in the opposite sex does do things to your mental well being.

hold on. Your contradicting yourself. You said you didnt have what it took to be in a relationship and then you say you went off with an escort. You are not going to have a relationship with an escort. They are providing a service. There will be no relationship with them, i can guarantee.

Now my point is that you are still basing your esteem on being with a woman, as if almost the image of being alone haunts you. There are a lot of men not in relationships who are mentally stable. So why are they stable and you not?

And I've never "looked at others and said the most in demand guy works as a professional." The two have no correlation for me. I simply believed that I was not qualified enough, nor personable enough to pass the interview.

You have said from the outset that you are love shy. (Im saying no such thing exists.) but if you are saying you are love shy, it means you have anxiety about yourself and your place in the world. this anxiety comes in part from failure within the dating scene and the cycle continues. All im trying to do is give you advice, which is: Be yourself and dont beat yourself up over that failure.

<personable enough to pass the interview> first of all love shyness has nothing to do with interviews, unless you plan on dating your interviewer. Second of all and more pertinent, by saying you are not "personable" you are already beating yourself up. You are already saying you dont have a chance and like i said, if you dont give yourself a chance, you dont stand a chance.

The dating game is a lot like the job environment in that you have to make good impressions. But it starts off with being yourself and accepting yourself. because if you go in relaxed and confident about who you are, you tend to perform better. If you go into the job interview convinced you are a failure, employers will see that like a potential partner and they will not say Si.

What you have is anxiety. Now getting rid of anxiety is hard. but im trying to assert that if you be yourself ( im assuming you are sociable) you may just be the spider that catches the fly. But that wont happen if you are trying too hard.

just advice man. Dont take it personal. I dont even know you.