Wife wont change her ways....

[Davina]

Shes great in every other way in the marriage. Maintaing the house, Great with the kids, no to bad in the kitchen but thats not a problem as i am pretty good in the kitchen myself and perfer making the dinner myself.

its just the bedroom department that i would like to see improvements. Im not saying im great in the bedroom, but im not afraid to change things up abit on different nights. The wife wants it plain and simple every night.

I am afraid to say it but i know its just the way it is, we are stuck in this routine and i do not ever seeing it change.

Even if we are watching a film together and a sexy scene comes on, she'll try and distract herself from watching it, maybe go on her fone and starting talking to me...

If you're getting it every night that's a lot compared to some. In relationships sometimes the 'in love' becomes more of a friendship love for women but for men the lust often stays there, I know from experience.

[Petros]

It sounds to me Brian that she is embarrassed about sex in general. Somehow you need to be able to get her to understand there is nothing to be embarrassed about and that experimentation in the bedroom is good.

I don't know how you could do it but if you could get a woman who is a very good friend of hers to bring it up in conversation with her about how she enjoys sex and somehow help her to realise that there is nothing "dirty" about sex and there is nothing to be ashamed about either.

[Petros]

If you're getting it every night that's a lot compared to some.

I was thinking the same. But then if it was the same every night I can see it getting monotonous.

[nibb]

Isn't this why we have the good ladies of ei. They have saved many a marriage

[JAMESCORK]

if you want my opinion, you're a fool for marrying her!!

Easy to say this.... When we are young and have young love, sometimes we expect that once we are married all will blossom and flourish into a wonderful sexual journey to utopia..................... Wrong!!!!!

[Petros]

Evidently she allows a little more than just missionary? Having said that this seems to be the way of many Irish women.

I was chatting to an escort who I get on very well with recently and she told me not to marry an Irish girl as all the married men that come to her all say the same thing about their Irish wives, that they are just not into sex!

Personally I do not believe for one minute that all Irish women are like that but it would seem a lot are.

yes coz only irish women dis like sex lol

maybe try showering been nice to your wife...

you know not always her fault

plus may I add your paying escorts to do things just remember that one

I am not sure if all that post was directed towards me Annabel

But just to clarify - I am not married and I know I pay escorts to do things. I do shower regularly and would consider that I have high standard of hygiene.

I would agree that women disliking sex is not just an Irish thing and as I said I know not all Irish women dislike sex. IMO I'd say those who do dislike it are in the minority

[WatWatWat]

Sounds to me as if she's getting it somewhere else. And often.

[libra]

My wife just wont go down on me at all and thinks anything outside of the missionary position is wrong. wearing sexy lingerie is a no go with her, the woman wouldnt know a thong if i had one in front of her face..

I do everything for her and for our sex life. I go down on her at any oppurtunity i can get, i am the the person that has to make the first move to get things going and do al the work.

If i am on top, i have to do the work. if the wife is on top i have to do the thrusting while she just lies on me. If my hands wander down to her ass she tells to stop it. Thats a dirty place to go...

Here's how bad she is in this department - we are together 12years, and only 3 years ago she realised i was circumcised when i told her. she didnt even know i was. is this right?

i think this is the reason i go call to so many escorts, just for the pleasure of good sex and the chance to try alot of different things and positions.

i am not trying to convert my wife into acting like an escort when i am with her, just want her to adds um extra fun in our sex life!!

what do people think? any advice?

Are you sure your not talking about my wife,,

[libra]

I've said it many times here. my wife won't suck my mickey and hence the reason i visit the ladies . she's a deadly cook (makes a scrummy carrot cake ) and she keeps herself looking well though so hey . 2 out of 3 ain't bad.

I love Carrot cake

[johnb59]

My wife just wont go down on me at all and thinks anything outside of the missionary position is wrong. wearing sexy lingerie is a no go with her, the woman wouldnt know a thong if i had one in front of her face..

I do everything for her and for our sex life. I go down on her at any oppurtunity i can get, i am the the person that has to make the first move to get things going and do al the work.

If i am on top, i have to do the work. if the wife is on top i have to do the thrusting while she just lies on me. If my hands wander down to her ass she tells to stop it. Thats a dirty place to go...

Here's how bad she is in this department - we are together 12years, and only 3 years ago she realised i was circumcised when i told her. she didnt even know i was. is this right?

i think this is the reason i go call to so many escorts, just for the pleasure of good sex and the chance to try alot of different things and positions.

i am not trying to convert my wife into acting like an escort when i am with her, just want her to adds um extra fun in our sex life!!

what do people think? any advice?

just change the wife!