I have to say I don't think I agree with this.
To date I have generally dispayed not too much sympathy to those who are called names, then call names back, then complain.... The "I want that c*** banned because he called me a c***" crowd, as we affectionately call them in here
In some cases I have felt the one who started it was clearly the real baddie of the two, but I've still felt that because both used the same offensive language to each other, it is only fair I punish both if I am going to punish one.
A classic case of this was when Bigpaws wound Westside up something rotten one time. West used way more offensive language in his reply, but it was Paws who started it I felt, and I couldn't help feeling if I was West I'd have told Paws where to go in no uncertain terms either. I punished both equally in that case as I felt I had to, but I didn't feel right about it. And indeed when they both came back under 2nd usernames, I let them, as essentially I wasn't confident in the justice I'd handed out.
In other cases however, I've felt that it is a total joke to say you want someone banned for calling you a c*** when you've just called them a c*** back... That if people seriously consider some offensive language towards them grounds for banning, they should PM me as soon as it happens, not spend half an hour posting abuse back and then PM me like they are 100% innocent and the other party is 100% gulity.
This is a tough one for me. I'm still thinking about it.
I think I defo have a problem with only punishing the one who started it as a rule though, as I think that rule will encourage more shit.