Asexual

[Stephanie]

Its good for you to have that perspective if it works for you, but "people who need people are the luckiest people in the world"...I believe that; they are vulnerable people, but with that vulnerability comes potential. Not knocking the alternatives. Life can seem full of beauty and goodness without partners, I grant you that, but I can think of only one thing which is more enjoyable alone than in company - defecation.

What a vulgar image.


Imo there's a difference between wanting people/partner/friends in your life (which I'm very happy to report -- I have just

as many lovely people in my life to share with , as I like ) , and

needing people to feel whole.

Imo the first makes for healthy r/ships (wanting to be with the person you are with )

The second is dysfunctional.

Of course that is only my very humble opinion.

[JAMESCORK]

What a vulgar image.


Imo there's a difference between wanting people/partner/friends in your life (which I'm very happy to report -- I have just

as many lovely people in my life to share with , as I like ) , and

needing people to feel whole.

Imo the first makes for healthy r/ships (wanting to be with the person you are with )

The second is dysfunctional.

Of course that is only my very humble opinion.

You were celibate for several years??? No wonder you are a nypmo now!

[Stephanie]

You know what opinions are? Nothing! unless you have friends to share them with.

Which I have xx

Not needing people is quite different from not having friends xx

How did we get onto this from me not having sex on my Holidays lol ?




Opinions are also like 'you-know-what' -- everybody has one lol x

[EIFII]

You know what opinions are? Nothing! unless you have friends to share them with.

Nonsense! Opinions shape who we are, how we think, how we view the world and our place in it. Whether or not we choose to share that with others...

[Stephanie]

You were celibate for several years??? No wonder you are a nypmo now!

I knoooow !! xx

[Tommy H]

you are a very good student

You are a very good teacher Miss Patty and also Miss Blonde! I have learned everything I need to know from both of you!

[patty]

You are a very good teacher Miss Patty and also Miss Blonde! I have learned everything I need to know from both of you!

you have a Ph.D. degree

[patty]

no patty, cant live without sex, in fact im still waiting and looking foward to that duo with u and wanda that u promised.

OMG I don't remember about this promise but it will be pleasure

[Dr. Ivory]

What a vulgar image.

Thank you - vulgarity used to focus the mind :-)

.....needing people to feel whole....is dysfunctional.

Of course that is only my very humble opinion.

I think this is not so much a matter of opinion but of personal orientation, which is a little different. If I understand you correctly you are comfortable with people and having relationships but would find being dependent on people, in a needy sense, dysfunctional.

On the contrary, I find relationships which go beyond mutual support and pleasure into needy dependence more engaging and fruitful. The dysfunctionality which you refer to, I see as an empowering vulnerability. To take an example from a BDSM scenario -though there are plenty of vanilla examples - a submissive who allows herself to become devoted to a Master to the point of needing him, of being dependent on him, entirely vulnerable to rejection by him such that it would cast her into despair, opens up for herself the possibility of fulfilling her aspirations to a degree otherwise unimaginable. Such a relationship is 'alternative' but, I would suggest, not dysfunctional.

However, Im not knocking the alternative approach since its not so much a matter of opinion but of how we feel comfortable living.

[jazz974]

you have a Ph.D. degree

When I can enrol for the patty PHD degree I am really interested !!..