Getting Caught

[madjack]

I, like many cheating husbands , would not want the sympathy of anyone on here. But I do love these black and white statements. I have visited escorts for the simple reason that my wife is not interested in sex. We are a happily married couple,we get on well together, but she is not interested in sex, except for once in a very blue moon. She loves going shopping, I am not interested, I love sex, she is not interested.Flippant remark I know, but I am less emotionally involved with the escorts I meet than she is with the clothes and shoes she buys. I have also spent a lot less on escorts than she has on shopping trips. We each live our lives based on our own circumstances, I do not judge others.

I am in the very same situation as you. Most of married couples go off each other after so many year's of marriage and still live together happily. Now anyone that is not married here does not know about it and ye can come back saying married men should not be seeing escorts but thats none of ye're business live and let live. It's like an alcoholic like myself you have to be in the situation to know and talk about it. Getting caught is the only sin in this for married or anyone visiting the girl's but any fuckin idiot would not let their phone lying around and if they did it's their own fault.

[willie wacker]

That won't happen me as i have mine on me at all times. I see other's leave their's thrown everywhere around the house and car. All we need is a bit of organization and no one will get at our mobile's.

no I,m just warning people been locked is not foolproof

[BIGBAGDOM]

Very true and i can totally relate. My wife sees sex a bit like hoovering . Its a chore that she does once a week ,same old routine and wants to get it done and dusted asap.
My problem is she won't suck my mickey and this is my main reason for seeing escorts. I dont like going shopping with her but i do often wonder what reaction i would get if i asked her if she would like to come shopping with me.

At times like these the old hoover can come in very handy

[Westsidex]

I, like many cheating husbands , would not want the sympathy of anyone on here. But I do love these black and white statements. I have visited escorts for the simple reason that my wife is not interested in sex. We are a happily married couple,we get on well together, but she is not interested in sex, except for once in a very blue moon. She loves going shopping, I am not interested, I love sex, she is not interested.Flippant remark I know, but I am less emotionally involved with the escorts I meet than she is with the clothes and shoes she buys. I have also spent a lot less on escorts than she has on shopping trips. We each live our lives based on our own circumstances, I do not judge others.

the same black and white statements you made on your wedding day? Do you guys actually listen to the vows you take? I love training , love animals , I met plenty women but wouldnt waste half of their time because it wouldnt work out. I could have being a completely selfish bastard and got married. Not saying Im mr perfect. Far from it. Im not married because I love the things I do too much to mess my life up (or at least thats what it would seem to me). Yep im being a selfish bastard here but at least if I do make a bad mess at least I only drag myself down the slope and noone else with me.

By the way, I never heard of or met a guy who felt destroyed because his wife went shopping. Im willing to bet there are women out there who feel destroyed because their hubbies fucked about with escorts or at least would be. Im not saying women are angels but this isnt the topic here.

Westside.

[bluefan1]

I'm the same i just use my personal phone nobody else goes near it or knows the unlocking code and anyway i always delete any messages and I'm single so that makes it easier. And i think it can be more dodgy when u have a second phone because no matter what excuse u give your partner for having it she is going to be curious about it women are always suspicious! And if they get the chance they will check it and no matter how careful u think u have been there's always a chance u forgot to delete even one message. That's why i think just one phone it's easier to keep track of. But it's been said each to their own.

Hi CG
You've confused me! Easily done you might say....You state that you are single but you refer to a 'partner'. Is it that you are indeed single but are just conjecturing about partners in general? And here's my real confusion; if it's the former then why do you need a second phone?

[MarkY91]

i have to laugh at the people here trying to justify cheating on their wives with an escort

[bulifcal]

The way I look at it is if your smart enough you will get away with it. Having a punting phone I really couldn't be arsed with the hassle of it. Basically my phone is my business and I always have it on me (most of time anyway) just change lock password of phone its easier to make an excuse for that! If you don't want to be caught say nothing to anybody!

[justfrank44]

the same black and white statements you made on your wedding day? Do you guys actually listen to the vows you take? I love training , love animals , I met plenty women but wouldnt waste half of their time because it wouldnt work out. I could have being a completely selfish bastard and got married. Not saying Im mr perfect. Far from it. Im not married because I love the things I do too much to mess my life up (or at least thats what it would seem to me). Yep im being a selfish bastard here but at least if I do make a bad mess at least I only drag myself down the slope and noone else with me.

By the way, I never heard of or met a guy who felt destroyed because his wife went shopping. Im willing to bet there are women out there who feel destroyed because their hubbies fucked about with escorts or at least would be. Im not saying women are angels but this isnt the topic here.

Westside.

You are allowed to live your life as you see fit, as are we all. If you do not want a wife that is your choice, I have kept my vows, even though I believe the whole thing to be a joke. I do not remember vowing never to have sex with another woman, But I did stay completely "faithful" even for a few years after she lost interest in sex. I finally decided seeing escorts was a lot better than having an affair. I am very willing to deal with the consequences if she ever finds out,and my children are of an age now were they will be able to judge for themselves. As for shopping not wrecking lives, of course it can, I worked with a man whose wife spent all the mortgage money on clothes and shoes etc, they nearly lost their home because of it,and given todays obsession with designer labels , that is very probably not as rare as you would think.

i have to laugh at the people here trying to justify cheating on their wives with an escort

laugh away, but who is trying to justify it , numpty

[younggun90]

the same black and white statements you made on your wedding day? Do you guys actually listen to the vows you take? I love training , love animals , I met plenty women but wouldnt waste half of their time because it wouldnt work out. I could have being a completely selfish bastard and got married. Not saying Im mr perfect. Far from it. Im not married because I love the things I do too much to mess my life up (or at least thats what it would seem to me). Yep im being a selfish bastard here but at least if I do make a bad mess at least I only drag myself down the slope and noone else with me.


By the way, I never heard of or met a guy who felt destroyed because his wife went shopping. Im willing to bet there are women out there who feel destroyed because their hubbies fucked about with escorts or at least would be. Im not saying women are angels but this isnt the topic here.

Westside.

I totally see where your coming from westside but I think you are being unfair, okay I won't try to justify it, i know it's wrong and hopefully I'm done. Nearly getting caught is not a great reason I know, but it was more the fright of losing her that has made me realise what life would be like without her. But what I will say, is that you are being very judgemental about something that has so many variables, I understand if it's men who just plain cheat that you have a problem but consider this, what if a tabloid referred to you as seedy, sleazy for buying sex. Many of the general public would agree, say you are a pervert, say its just plain wrong. Would you like to be pigeon holed so easily without people understanding your reasons for visiting an escort as opposed to trying to meet single girls, (and I don't consider a disinterest in commitment and it not being fair to girls valid)
I'm not laying into you as i said i can whole heartedly see your point mate it's just i think it isn't a simple case of right and wrong like you say.

[bollocks]

What if your woman finds your punting phone? Scenario may be much worse.

That has always been my concern,