Getting Caught

[godeeper]

Ah , but you see, I am faithful to my wife. I have never had an affair or fallen for another woman. I go to a service provider to get something that my wife cannot/will not provide. My marriage is doing well because I do this. If I stopped seeing escorts, then the marriage would in all likelihood fail. I am more than sure that this would upset her greatly. The point I am trying to make is that , I know my wife and I know why this arrangement is the best solution. People on the outside are in no position to judge because they do not know us.Neither one of us is whiter than white, but we enjoy each others company and want to remain together. Marriage is all about compromise is it not? And after over 20yrs I think I must be doing something right.

What about your wife? Does she not have the right to enjoy sex? Why should you deprive your wife of sex? Do you give her the money to visit male escorts while you are with female escorts?
If you love the woman, make love to her. If you do not, leave her and let her find someone that will love her. She may be devastated at first but what is that compared to a life with someone who cares nothing about her needs.
There is so much crap on this website about women not wanting sex. ALL women want sex. Unfortunately, they tend not to get turned on by a quick poke last thing at night.
I know that I will hear all the rubbish about religion. Could you blame a woman turning to religion when she is stuck with someone who does not care for her.

[godeeper]

I buy sim cards for cash in Vodafone. When they ask me for my name, I say that it is for a present and that I will get the recipient to register it.
Buy one phone and two sim cards. Keep the phone in your car quite openly as a back up with one sim card. use it sometimes for work and to call your wife. with a piece of cellotape you can hide the punting sim in the car where it would be virtually impossible to find.

[justfrank44]

What about your wife? Does she not have the right to enjoy sex? Why should you deprive your wife of sex? Do you give her the money to visit male escorts while you are with female escorts?
If you love the woman, make love to her. If you do not, leave her and let her find someone that will love her. She may be devastated at first but what is that compared to a life with someone who cares nothing about her needs.
There is so much crap on this website about women not wanting sex. ALL women want sex. Unfortunately, they tend not to get turned on by a quick poke last thing at night.
I know that I will hear all the rubbish about religion. Could you blame a woman turning to religion when she is stuck with someone who does not care for her.

If you had bothered to read the thread you would have seen my earlier post where I explained that my wife is not interested in any kind of physical contact, from kissing to sex. I have tried many different ways ( not just a quick poke last thing at night) but she is not interested. You make an awful lot of asumptions, such as I do not care for my wife, or I deprive her of sex, neither of these are true. I would be interested in hearing about your experience of a long term relationship, and how you keep your partner interested.

[Meursault]

If you had bothered to read the thread you would have seen my earlier post where I explained that my wife is not interested in any kind of physical contact, from kissing to sex. I have tried many different ways ( not just a quick poke last thing at night) but she is not interested. You make an awful lot of asumptions, such as I do not care for my wife, or I deprive her of sex, neither of these are true. I would be interested in hearing about your experience of a long term relationship, and how you keep your partner interested.

Man, your just trying to justify why you should see escorts. Its confirmation bias, wherein you say "well my marriage survives by me cheating and hence cheating is a good thing." If you dont want to be faithful to your wife A) you shouldnt have got married in the first place and B) You divorce her.

If you had a bit of self control and werent obsessed with sexual gratification, you could love your wife without sex, which is the foundation of any good marriage. If your marriage survives by you cheating, well im afraid there isnt a lot of marriage left.

Go off an tell your wife what you have been doing and see her response. This is utter humiliation for your wife. If you really cared for your wife, you would sacrifice sex for her. Sex is not something you need to survive

[VPSO 1812]

I was recently in the popcorn Q with the girlfriend and right behind me was an escort who gave me a great big wink unbeknownst to the girlfriend

This is the closest I've ever come to getting caught

[Meursault]

I was recently in the popcorn Q with the girlfriend and right behind me was an escort who gave me a great big wank unbeknownst to the girlfriend

This is the closest I've ever come to getting caught

Did she throw popcorn at you

[justfrank44]

Man, your just trying to justify why you should see escorts. Its confirmation bias, wherein you say "well my marriage survives by me cheating and hence cheating is a good thing." If you dont want to be faithful to your wife A) you shouldnt have got married in the first place and B) You divorce her.

If you had a bit of self control and werent obsessed with sexual gratification, you could love your wife without sex, which is the foundation of any good marriage. If your marriage survives by you cheating, well im afraid there isnt a lot of marriage left.

Go off an tell your wife what you have been doing and see her response. This is utter humiliation for your wife. If you really cared for your wife, you would sacrifice sex for her. Sex is not something you need to survive

Oh dear, you seem to have a real problem understanding the written word. And you obviously have no experience of a long term relationship. When you get that experience then please come back and share as you have no clue what you are talking about. You sound like a jeremy kyle wannabe

[Stephanie]

Exactly man. If you are not going to live up to what is demanded of marriage, dont sign the contract. If you are married and want to have a better sex life, get divorced.

Please forgive me ,

But what a simplistic view !!

What about the kids in school ? What about the mortgage ? What about your soulmate ??

What about the woman you love deeply , but who is unable or unwilling to meet you halfway re your sexual needs

(for whatever reason -- medical condition , religious upbringing , personal baggage , psychiatric ailment , etc. ) ???

What a simplistic view you have of human relationships and of commitment to another !

So when your better half won't 'suck your Mickey' (to use someone else's vernacular) , you just abandon her and

your children , and all that you have worked for and established over the last 20 years of your life ??

Abandon your future with your family ? Cut out on your loved ones because she's not putting out for you !?

What about your commitment of 'through thick and thin , for better or worse' ?

: One of my lovely guys has been coming to me for the best part of three years , fairly regularly --

I never knew he was married or not , I never ask.

Lately his visits have become more sporadic , I thought he might have found another honey. But no , he took the

trouble to tell me that his wife (love of his life !) has been going through Menopause for the last years and has lost all

interest in sex (eventhough they still had emotional intimacy) , and so he found me. And recently , his wife of many many

years has come out the other end of the 'changing years' , and has very enthusiastically resumed their sex life ,

almost as if making up for lost time.

You suggesting he should've left her ???!


I'd much rather my husband came to me if he was unhappy (if I was married !) , than just go out and adventure around.

I would much prefer him having the gumption to come to me and address whatever is missing in our relationship.

In my own life , in my own relationships , I always strive for such a balance where either one of us could go to the other

w our troubles and doubts , goals and needs ; wants.

But failing that , I would much prefer him going to a paid companion , than having an affair of the heart.

Seeing an Escort addresses the physical needs ; having an affair of the heart would be a much greater betrayal ,

and much more of a threat to the unity and integrity of a marriage.

In my very humble opinion .

[Jock111]

Please forgive me ,

But what a simplistic view !!

What about the kids in school ? What about the mortgage ? What about your soulmate ??

What about the woman you love deeply , but who is unable or unwilling to meet you halfway re your sexual needs

(for whatever reason -- medical condition , religious upbringing , personal baggage , psychiatric ailment , etc. ) ???

What a simplistic view you have of human relationships and of commitment to another !

So when your better half won't 'suck your Mickey' (to use someone else's vernacular) , you just abandon her and

your children , and all that you have worked for and established over the last 20 years of your life ??

Abandon your future with your family ? Cut out on your loved ones because she's not putting out for you !?

What about your commitment of 'through thick and thin , for better or worse' ?

: One of my lovely guys has been coming to me for the best part of three years , fairly regularly --

I never knew he was married or not , I never ask.

Lately his visits have become more sporadic , I thought he might have found another honey. But no , he took the

trouble to tell me that his wife (love of his life !) has been going through Menopause for the last years and has lost all

interest in sex (eventhough they still had emotional intimacy) , and so he found me. And recently , his wife of many many

years has come out the other end of the 'changing years' , and has very enthusiastically resumed their sex life ,

almost as if making up for lost time.

You suggesting he should've left her ???!


I'd much rather my husband came to me if he was unhappy (if I was married !) , than just go out and adventure around.

I would much prefer him having the gumption to come to me and address whatever is missing in our relationship.

In my own life , in my own relationships , I always strive for such a balance where either one of us could go to the other

w our troubles and doubts , goals and needs ; wants.

But failing that , I would much prefer him going to a paid companion , than having an affair of the heart.

Seeing an Escort addresses the physical needs ; having an affair of the heart would be a much greater betrayal ,

and much more of a threat to the unity and integrity of a marriage.

In my very humble opinion .

Well said Stephanie.

[Meursault]

Oh dear, you seem to have a real problem understanding the written word. And you obviously have no experience of a long term relationship. When you get that experience then please come back and share as you have no clue what you are talking about. You sound like a jeremy kyle wannabe

Keep going man. Convincing yourself your doing the right thing. Just admit it, sex is your weakness. To reiterate, if you really cared about your wife and her feelings, you would not cheat on her. Go and see any psychologist and tell them you cheat on your wife to maintain this illusion you call marriage. I doubt they will advocate your method. Dont take it personal man, i dont know you and you dont know me. But i am stating the facts as they are. You have placed sexual gratification above the feelings of your wife. That is what it boils down to. There must be countless men in your predicament who remain faithful to their wives, because thats what they said they would do when they took their vows. If you dont want to uphold your end, dont sign it or get divorced.