Originally Posted by
Stephanie
Please forgive me ,
But what a simplistic view !!
What about the kids in school ? What about the mortgage ? What about your soulmate ??
What about the woman you love deeply , but who is unable or unwilling to meet you halfway re your sexual needs
(for whatever reason -- medical condition , religious upbringing , personal baggage , psychiatric ailment , etc. ) ???
What a simplistic view you have of human relationships and of commitment to another !
So when your better half won't 'suck your Mickey' (to use someone else's vernacular) , you just abandon her and
your children , and all that you have worked for and established over the last 20 years of your life ??
Abandon your future with your family ? Cut out on your loved ones because she's not putting out for you !?
What about your commitment of 'through thick and thin , for better or worse' ?
: One of my lovely guys has been coming to me for the best part of three years , fairly regularly --
I never knew he was married or not , I never ask.
Lately his visits have become more sporadic , I thought he might have found another honey. But no , he took the
trouble to tell me that his wife (love of his life !) has been going through Menopause for the last years and has lost all
interest in sex (eventhough they still had emotional intimacy) , and so he found me. And recently , his wife of many many
years has come out the other end of the 'changing years' , and has very enthusiastically resumed their sex life ,
almost as if making up for lost time.
You suggesting he should've left her ???!
I'd much rather my husband came to me if he was unhappy (if I was married !) , than just go out and adventure around.
I would much prefer him having the gumption to come to me and address whatever is missing in our relationship.
In my own life , in my own relationships , I always strive for such a balance where either one of us could go to the other
w our troubles and doubts , goals and needs ; wants.
But failing that , I would much prefer him going to a paid companion , than having an affair of the heart.
Seeing an Escort addresses the physical needs ; having an affair of the heart would be a much greater betrayal ,
and much more of a threat to the unity and integrity of a marriage.
In my very humble opinion .