Your Queen

[slavetoyou]

No I don't, I want to be treated as an equal. We all work to our strengths and should pool those strengths together to make the perfect functioning union where respect and equality is at the top of the list.

I'm afraid a man who needed me to tell him what to do would drive me up the wall and in contrast a man telling me what to do, would not be well received either.

So... no, no man is my King and I am no man's Queen.

In this life regardless of what you think when it comes to "relationships" no one is equal. One of the couple or of a group is always the more dominant, now I don't mean that in the BDSM sense but in a general way. It does not have to be in a controlling way but usually one would make the final decision (even when all are in agreement). If everyone was equal then nothing would be done as it would require total agreement with everyone which I think would be very hard.
I would agree with being treated as an equal being the best way to exist but we are all controlled one way or the other whether you think so or not. This does not have to be a bad thing once there is respect.
Respect is the key to any union, once that is there then no one will be made do something they do not want and everyone will appear to be equal.
To be treated as a queen is not a bad thing even if you are an independent person. Because you would be the queen you could control how much is done for you. My mistress does not have to burden herself with having to tell me what to do, I know what I have to do make her life easier and I do it without need for instruction.
From your post I get the impression that you think being treated as a queen would be hard work, I think it is the opposite. It does not involve a needy man hanging around you all the time waiting for you to tell him what to do, it is a man who has the utmost respect for the lady in question and just being able to express that respect by making the lady's life easier, it does not involve "smothering" or invading that persons private space.
Really you say you would not want to be treated like a queen if it was done in a way that you didn't even realise it was happening .