Should young men be encouraged to visit escorts ?

[bollocks]

Think it would have done me a lot of good,,,instead of being brouight up that sex was dirty,,,,,that you would have to be in a bad way to have to pay for sex...that there must be something wrong with you,,,,that you would pick up horrible diseases etc.....(In fact the reverse is true),,,,,,,filthy,,,,,,,,,,,,,,sad,,,,,would go to hell,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,deserve to be arrested,,,,,,,,etc

[Curvaceous Kate]

Think it would have done me a lot of good,,,instead of being brouight up that sex was dirty,,,,,that you would have to be in a bad way to have to pay for sex...that there must be something wrong with you,,,,that you would pick up horrible diseases etc.....(In fact the reverse is true),,,,,,,filthy,,,,,,,,,,,,,,sad,,,,,would go to hell,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,deserve to be arrested,,,,,,,,etc

I think young people need to learn about relationships before sex. Once they have understood how to behave with the opposite sex, that they are equal and need to be treated with respect, then they are ready to embark on sexual relationships and yes I see no reason why men or women should not be, perhaps not encouraged, but certainly free to visit Escorts without the stigma attached.

[dr love]

Think it would have done me a lot of good,,,instead of being brouight up that sex was dirty,,,,,that you would have to be in a bad way to have to pay for sex...that there must be something wrong with you,,,,that you would pick up horrible diseases etc.....(In fact the reverse is true),,,,,,,filthy,,,,,,,,,,,,,,sad,,,,,would go to hell,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,deserve to be arrested,,,,,,,,etc

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[Palabra]

I think young people need to learn about relationships before sex. Once they have understood how to behave with the opposite sex, that they are equal and need to be treated with respect, then they are ready to embark on sexual relationships and yes I see no reason why men or women should not be, perhaps not encouraged, but certainly free to visit Escorts without the stigma attached.

Jees I was such a fucked up teenager. Years of thinking will I ever get laid or even have a girlfriend.

It was definitely a factor in my abuse of alcohol at that time. Not an exageration to say it(alcohol), might have caused me or others serious injury or even death.

If I had been able to lose my virginity with an experienced, affectionate woman at that time I think it would have calmed me down a lot.

[Curvaceous Kate]

Jees I was such a fucked up teenager. Years of thinking will I ever get laid or even have a girlfriend.

It was definitely a factor in my abuse of alcohol at that time. Not an exageration to say it(alcohol), might have caused me or others serious injury or even death.

If I had been able to lose my virginity with an experienced, affectionate woman at that time I think it would have calmed me down a lot.

Isn't it about reaching a happy medium?

I know a few clients who have been seeing Sex Workers since they were 18+ and are still doing so 20+ years later. I expect some of them wish that they had not gone down that route, as now it has become a secret that they have to keep from their partner and at the risk of losing their children, but they get something from Sex Workers they can't get from their regular relationship and it's like a drug.

Some never reach as far as a relationship, because they compare each woman they date with the Sex Workers they have met and none of them are reaching that pedestal, but the truth is, it is not possible, because he is only seeing that Sex Worker at her best and when she is giving him her full attention, but this is what he craves in his relationships and can never get.

Being with a Sex Worker can be a good thing, it can build confidence, it can reduce stress and frustrations, but it needs to be done at the right time. Similar to the expression, 'never smack a child in anger'. Smack a child in anger and you lose control and hurt them too much and it becomes abuse. In the same way, if you see an Escort, because you are emotionally distressed, very frustrated or think it might make life better, then you are heading for a fall.

It's waiting until you feel an 'extreme' sense of despair/frustration/anxiety that is the problem. If the stigma was not there, these situations would not reach extremes in the first place.

[Curvaceous Kate]

I was a fucked up teenager too (who isn't??) until I left home and went to London at the tender age of 18.

Then my life changed...

I don't have kids, so it's maybe easy for me to say, but I think it's really important for young people to "leave the nest" and make their own way in the world without parental interferance... You've got to be allowed to be your own person...

I lived in London when I was 18 too

[bollocks]

I lived in London when I was 18 too

Study ? work ? or escort ?

[Curvaceous Kate]

Study ? work ? or escort ?

lol Nosey! It was work x

[Curvaceous Kate]

Wild horses wouldn't drag me back there now.... But it was fun when I was young

Same here, I love to 'visit' London, but could never live there again. The smell on that tube is enough to put you off for life lol.

[Mr Cuddles]

Same here, I love to 'visit' London, but could never live there again. The smell on that tube is enough to put you off for life lol.

Yes, never go on the tube in rush hour- you're bound to catch every cold and sore throat going. LOL