Is bad sex a good reason to end a relationship?

[IamSimontemplar]

Yes x


I think there are just basic , base incompatibilities , which is nature's way of dissuading you from procreation .

Of course we each can learn 'technique' , but there's more to good sex than technique !

It's about chemistry .

It's about rhythm , it's about reaching for the right 'parts' at the right time , it's about harmony and symbiosis .

It's about balance and complimenting each other .

If you don't have that , yep , it's grounds for parting xx

Steph ....... Life and circumstances change people, chemistry changes, and you may find yourself
lying there wondering how did I get here !!!

[Stephanie]

Steph ....... Life and circumstances change people, chemistry changes, and you may find yourself
lying there wondering how did I get here !!!

And so .. is bad sex good enough reason to break up a r/ship ?

At that point , I'd say depends on circumstance : kids , mortgage , pension , family ... personal happiness ?

I hope I never have to weigh those against each other .. xx


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[Stephanie]

Yes x


I think there are just basic , base incompatibilities , which is nature's way of dissuading you from procreation .

Of course we each can learn 'technique' , but there's more to good sex than technique !

It's about chemistry .

It's about rhythm , it's about reaching for the right 'parts' at the right time , it's about harmony and symbiosis .

It's about balance and complimenting each other .

If you don't have that , yep , it's grounds for parting xx

Steph ....... Life and circumstances change people, chemistry changes, and you may find yourself
lying there wondering how did I get here !!!

Re reading my post from last night , I guess I was thinking more of a budding relationship => sexual incompatibility ,

nature's way of dissuading you from procreation .


If we are talking of two people having lived a life together , and in time the lustful spark fades but the love and respect

remains , then by all means no , I don't think a relationship should be upended .


So many people I know are happily married , love their partners , respect and adore them ; there is just the one single

thing missing : sex . And the ones I know are sensible enough to not want to hurt , and so instead of an affair they come to us x



xx

[joecrane78]

well that's what they say but relationships should not be totally based on this..Many genuinely nice people will stay with horrible people most of their lives just for sex which is a bit stupid for me..Good sex is better with a cool chick not a b***h

[Westsidex]

Sex in and of itself is useless in holding a relationship together unless intimacy is involved and yep you can have sex without intimacy.Other people in the sex industry couldnt do their jobs.

Westside.

[Stephanie]

Yes x


I think there are just basic , base incompatibilities , which is nature's way of dissuading you from procreation .

Of course we each can learn 'technique' , but there's more to good sex than technique !

It's about chemistry .

It's about rhythm , it's about reaching for the right 'parts' at the right time , it's about harmony and symbiosis .

It's about balance and complimenting each other .

If you don't have that , yep , it's grounds for parting xx

I rarely disagree with Stephanie as she is usually right and a rock of sense. However (...... and there is a huge however here ...... sorry Stephanie!!) she is not correct here.

A relationship is about so much more than sex. In Ireland in the early stages of most relationships it seems to me there is (hopefully) a lot of sex, good or bad at the start (!) but as time moves on the sex becomes less and less. Other things such as children, shared family home / holiday home / investment properties along with associated mortgages, mutual friends, families, shared interests, investments all come to the fore and become even more important.

In my "real" life I have come across countless (mostly middle aged) men who have thrown up everything because they literally lost the head over a younger woman that they met and have left their wife to be with them. After a mad passionate affair (which of course the wife finds out about because men are idiots!) they end up leaving the family home, losing everything. These are the men who were on 100k a year and now end up on 20k per year - the other 80k is not going to a sexy young thing with whom they are having mad passionate sex every night. Instead it goes to paying two mortgages instead of one, supporting two households instead of one, paying the lump sum awarded, spousal and children's maintenance and a myriad of other payments. THAT is real life.

Most Irish men are pragmatic. Irish men just accept bad sex or no sex and play more golf, work harder, spend time with the children and eye the teenage son's girlfriend wistfully and think ... oh if only!!!!

If there is good sex in the relationship that is absolutely brilliant and for anyone who has that, I am truly delighted for them. (But I suspect that there are very few men on here in a good marriage AND having good sex at home.)

Having lived abroad, it seems to me that it is different in many other countries. In those countries the women feel an obligation to make an effort and look after their men sexually. Sadly that does not happen here.

Irish men have a surprisingly low happiness threshold. So long as they are more or less left alone, allowed to go to a few matches, paly a few round of golf, have a few pints, have their laundry done for them and get their dinner served on the table for them in the evening will stay in a relationship / marriage even with no sex whatsoever!!!!

Non-Irish girls working here - escorts and non escorts - find all this very surprising and are truly amazed. But that is why so many escorts do so well here ....................................

Re reading my post from last night , I guess I was thinking more of a budding relationship => sexual incompatibility ,

nature's way of dissuading you from procreation .



If we are talking of two people having lived a life together , and in time the lustful spark fades but the love and respect

remains , then by all means no , I don't think a relationship should be upended .



So many people I know are happily married , love their partners , respect and adore them ; there is just the one single

thing missing : sex .

And the ones I know are sensible enough to not want to hurt , and so instead of an affair they come to us x

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[JennyT]

I think sex is a very important in a relationship...without a good sex mens start to chit so there we go...good for escorts

I am that person who will end a relationship if the sex isnt good.

[FunnyName]

What is bad sex? Surely sex is good if both want to enjoy it and you are attracted to each other?

I noticed with the last 2 escorts I've seen, I find them extremely beautiful but struggle to cum because I just know they're not attracted to me and they're doing it for my money. Not that there is anything wrong with that, but I'm just wondering... what bad sex is?

[JennyT]

What is bad sex? Surely sex is good if both want to enjoy it and you are attracted to each other?

I noticed with the last 2 escorts I've seen, I find them extremely beautiful but struggle to cum because I just know they're not attracted to me and they're doing it for my money. Not that there is anything wrong with that, but I'm just wondering... what bad sex is?

Bad sex is when you to selfish to give time for the other person that you have sex. You want only to cum as quick as you can and thats it.

I dont think that two ladies havent cum because they warent attracted to you...they have sex more then once in a day so you cant cum with every 'client'.

[Stephanie]

Once again I ought to read the entire thread before replying! I therefore wish to correct my last post in so far as Stephanie is, as usual, always correct ........................

.. hardly xx

But thank you x


:-) xx