little bit of advise needed

**mic1980** · 11-09-13, 20:13

ok i have known this girl for a bout 2 yrs now not very well but like from a distance but in the last 4-5 weeks i have got a major major crush on her i have always liked her but the last few weeks she is all i can think of but im absolutely terrified to ask her out or something lol mainly to the fact we both work very close and c each almost every day and if she turned me down i would probably get so embarrassed every time i see her sometimes she stops and chats other times not but always a smile and a wave hello from her even if she is a good distance away from me when she waves hello maby i am reading the wrong signals but i have never had many relationships and luck over the fact that i am a fairly quite guy

**dr love** · 11-09-13, 20:18

A tough one , but if you don't chance it will you regret it .
Just ask her to go for a drink with you , and take it from there .:doc

**lucifersam** · 11-09-13, 20:24

We regret the things we didn't do,
ask her out, if she refuses It's no biggie and u can move on to next Target,
but don't ask her again if she does refuse- could be taken as sexual harassment in the workplace
Carpe diem

**wolfie** · 11-09-13, 20:25

The Doc speaks sense sometimes

On a serious note though, he is right. Don't live with the regret of never knowing. A chat over a drink or trip to the cinema would reveal more.

Good luck in your quest

**dr love** · 11-09-13, 20:26

Originally Posted by wolfie

The Doc speaks sense sometimes

On a serious note though, he is right. Don't live with the regret of never knowing. A chat over a drink or trip to the cinema would reveal more.

Good luck in your quest

why thanks i think wolfie bro

.: doc

**journeyman1986** · 11-09-13, 20:28

look pal, im sure you've been embarrassed before and you will again in the future,everyone has and everyone will again. ask her to go for a drink, lunch,pub anything(i wouldn suggest cinema as many people would, i just find it awkward as fuuuuuck at times) whats the worse that can happen? this is a bit of a extreme way to put it, but would you rather take the chance of a few tiny blushes or go through life seeing her everyday thinking "what if??"

**wolfie** · 11-09-13, 20:36

Originally Posted by dr love

why thanks i think wolfie bro

.: doc

Why you're welcome Doc. : wolfie

**Magicman** · 11-09-13, 20:40

Originally Posted by mic1980

always a smile and a wave hello from her even if she is a good distance away from me when she waves hello maby i am reading the wrong signals but i have never had many relationships and luck over the fact that i am a fairly quite guy

She obviously likes you enough to give you that wave from a distance.............so no problem there.

You are a fairly quite guy..................................maybe that is why she likes you.

Next time you are chatting with her mention that you are thinking of going out somewhere at the wekend and ask her would she like to join you.............nothing unusual just a trip to a pub/club/ depending on your age group and hers.
Find out what films she likes, and more importantly what type she dislikes, with a view to inviting her to a night at the cinema.

It is very easy to turn a pub/club/cinema into an upmarket outing by suggesting a nice restaurant afterwards for a bite to eat, without creating a date or making a big issue about it.

During the course of any such meetings try to discover all her dislikes as much as her likes so you know the type of date you could or couldn't invite her on.

Don't rush her.....................she is happy to wave at you for the moment but she is inviting attention from you.
She might feel that you would be a nice type of guy to be with as you are generally quiet.

If she isn't interested in going out for a drink ........................so what..........no harm done to you or your ego. It isn't as if you declared your undying love for her and then got slapped across the face.

In the event she refuses, it may be just a case she had something else planned that night and she might be delighted to go out a different night so continue chatting and ask if some other night might be good for her. If she still doesn't want to go out then you know that you will have to live without her (or she has a guy).........................but stay friends and stay chatting and stay waving and I would predict that within six months she will ask you out.

I wish you every success in your quest for this lucky young lady's love and attention.

Magicman

**twentyeight** · 11-09-13, 20:42

I spent most of my teenage years being that shy guy with loads of 'what ifs' at the end. I then decided to open up a bit slowly and slowly. You need to find out if she likes you or not. If not, then make her like you

Spend time with her and most importantly 'listen' to her. She will definitely respond. Good luck pal !

**Melindablondey** · 11-09-13, 21:14

mic I regret may a thing i did not go for which i should have so just go for it you have nothing to lose x x x

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