The Death of A Whore

[Lara Mills]

The bit that hit home for me is the lady who said, 'It's the only job where it doesn't matter what you do, you will always be thought of as a prostitute'. Why is that? Even on Eastenders with Genene, they keep raking up the fact that she once worked as an Escort and she can have all the money in the world, she will always carry that label and stigma.

What is it about being a Sex Worker that makes it impossible to leave behind?

"I rent my time and my knowledge but I never sell myself."

"It's not a choice to enter prostitution. I entered prostitution by chance but I chose to continue. That's a choice."

We need more accounts like this. If one in ten sex workers said something about the industry and put it out there, it might start to change how people think about sex workers.

I think the reason people find it impossible to allow you to leave it behind is because of the stigma attached. They believe that sex workers are forced and sell every part of their body to the client to earn a bit of bread. The fact that they force people to carry that around with them is to show that they have never been "weak" enough to resort to that kind of work. They like having power over people, and like the idea that they can help save those who have been coerced. They don't realise that some enjoy this work, and that they are selling their time and companionship and not their souls. Sex workers are all tarred with the same brush. We need to hit those doing the tarring with that brush

[Curvaceous Kate]

"I rent my time and my knowledge but I never sell myself."

"It's not a choice to enter prostitution. I entered prostitution by chance but I chose to continue. That's a choice."

We need more accounts like this. If one in ten sex workers said something about the industry and put it out there, it might start to change how people think about sex workers.

I think the reason people find it impossible to allow you to leave it behind is because of the stigma attached. They believe that sex workers are forced and sell every part of their body to the client to earn a bit of bread. The fact that they force people to carry that around with them is to show that they have never been "weak" enough to resort to that kind of work. They like having power over people, and like the idea that they can help save those who have been coerced. They don't realise that some enjoy this work, and that they are selling their time and companionship and not their souls. Sex workers are all tarred with the same brush. We need to hit those doing the tarring with that brush

The problem is that the media are not interested generally in statements like this. The submission that I wrote was sent to Jim Cussack and Henry McDonald (I think that is his surname). Jim personally congratulated me on the submission, but he didn't want to use it or any of its contents and didn't ask for an interview. Henry showed some interest, but actually asked me to write something for him that was already in the submission, so I wonder if he actually bothered to read it. He did say he was going to write an article, which he was talking to other ladies for as well and I past on some names to him of Escorts that were willing to talk and yet nothing materialised and he didn't get back in touch with any of them.

It seems the only way forward is through blogs and supportive websites, but they tend to garner the interest of people who are already supportive and doesn't get out there to the general public.

How do we get round that?

[dob]

It's a video, you have to activate it by clicking on the picture. Let me double check the link worked properly. Nope it works, just press play.

The bit that hit home for me is the lady who said, 'It's the only job where it doesn't matter what you do, you will always be thought of as a prostitute'. Why is that? Even on Eastenders with Genene, they keep raking up the fact that she once worked as an Escort and she can have all the money in the world, she will always carry that label and stigma.

What is it about being a Sex Worker that makes it impossible to leave behind?

Sorry, no picture to click on my iPad... Vimeo videos don't appear on my browser, fucking technology..

I'll just assume you weren't trying to be a smarty pants...... .

[dob]

http://vimeo.com/35130585. For those with my problem... I'll have a look

[Curvaceous Kate]

http://vimeo.com/35130585. For those with my problem... I'll have a look

Thank you, it would be fair to assume I am not a computer whizz lol