Aldi and the fill your trolley mentality Vs. Corner Shop relationship…

[roryman]

Actually, it isn't an affair! And affair implies falling in love and all the associated crap that that can breathe. Ask any man who has had one, it is just trading in a old car for a new model, just to find out, it too will develop the same problems down the road, and he will be wanting a new upgrade, or it will cost him loads in repairs and maintenance. Cynical I know, but hey. It is a friendship based on having done things a bit backwards, meaning getting the sex out of the way first and then getting to realize there is a person there you like and can get on with. Hey come to think of it most relationships start this way as well, the difference here is you don't have to have a second date, or call the morning after! Kisses Violette

Arrh Violette, you old fashioned romantic thing you!
yes I suppose an affair does implie falling in love etc, but to me they mean just NSA as that seems to be the modern way, as many people just seem to want that and dont want to leave their partners.

BTW I am looking for a new Corvette - racy, spirited, head turner. Interested?
(you know you are going to get a whole load of car jokes now - esp QPH!)
(Should I compare thee to a Porche, I saw one fine summer morning?)

Love your tour headline, is it a case of "Would like to meet?"

[Violette]

Arrh Violette, you old fashioned romantic thing you!
yes I suppose an affair does implie falling in love etc, but to me they mean just NSA as that seems to be the modern way, as many people just seem to want that and dont want to leave their partners.

BTW I am looking for a new Corvette - racy, spirited, head turner. Interested?
(you know you are going to get a whole load of car jokes now - esp QPH!)
(Should I compare thee to a Porche, I saw one fine summer morning?)

Love your tour headline, is it a case of "Would like to meet?"

Thanks Rory,
Yes that is me, romantic to the core! But seriously, what are most people looking for anyway when they start an affair, sex, emotional support, a bit of fun? These can be the basic beginnings, but after the basic need is met, what then? This is when the situation can become a bit muddled and confused. Also, most people can't seperate sex from love, especially in a Catholic dominated country. We have forgotten that basically we are animals and some needs have to be met. This doesn't imply the need for a relationship, it is just a need for a release.

As to affairs, I have had an affair with a married man for about three years now, he has a new baby and all, the cutest thing. We take trips all over the place, and yes I love him dearly, but I also am not going to ask him to leave his wife, not because I have any great feeling for her and the new baby, but I have though of the complications to MY life! Good grief what a mess that would be, and he does know what I do! We didn't meet that way! But, with my travel schedule it would be hell on him sitting home night after night alone, with only my three moggies for company. Not Good! He travels and I travel and it works, the day it stops working is the day we make some changes, but for now it is great! Plus I am one of these rare creatures, a practical woman. I know men will be boys and get up to mischeif from time to time. As long as he comes home to me in the end, no harm no foul. Kisses V
p.s. As to the car thing, you have to get under my bonnet to really hear my engine purr. Kisses

[roryman]

Thanks Rory,
Yes that is me, romantic to the core! But seriously, what are most people looking for anyway when they start an affair, sex, emotional support, a bit of fun? These can be the basic beginnings, but after the basic need is met, what then? This is when the situation can become a bit muddled and confused. Also, most people can't seperate sex from love, especially in a Catholic dominated country. We have forgotten that basically we are animals and some needs have to be met. This doesn't imply the need for a relationship, it is just a need for a release.

As to affairs, I have had an affair with a married man for about three years now, he has a new baby and all, the cutest thing. We take trips all over the place, and yes I love him dearly, but I also am not going to ask him to leave his wife, not because I have any great feeling for her and the new baby, but I have though of the complications to MY life! Good grief what a mess that would be, and he does know what I do! We didn't meet that way! But, with my travel schedule it would be hell on him sitting home night after night alone, with only my three moggies for company. Not Good! He travels and I travel and it works, the day it stops working is the day we make some changes, but for now it is great! Plus I am one of these rare creatures, a practical woman. I know men will be boys and get up to mischeif from time to time. As long as he comes home to me in the end, no harm no foul. Kisses V
p.s. As to the car thing, you have to get under my bonnet to really hear my engine purr. Kisses

Wow thanks for sharing Violette, its good to hear you are getting some lovin'!
A lot of guys are now sighing to themselves "If only it was me"

Affairs can be hard work - organising meets etc. I suppose its a lot easier if you travel, as then its natural to be away

take care

[Quarterpoundher]

I would like to thank all for taking the time to respond. I’m delighted that people who I have felt to be mature minded were the ones to respond, there are others also. I found it hard to word my original post to convey what was described. I know it may sound like I was arriving at something like an affair, but that’s not what is was, it was still an Escort/Client thing just on a very different level then what’s described on here in the main. I thought it was the perfect way to go about things for both as it enriches both in other ways and avoids the pitfalls also for both, and just wanted to highlight it. I know it’s not what many want and that’s grand, but it changed my perspective on things totally. I just did not think an Escort/Client scenario could work on so high a level of trust and knowledge of each other and most importantly respect of each other and their boundaries. I like to thank all for their honesty, especially Violette and Paws, its not often you get a snippet of him, and I like what I see. I feel Carlos would be the closest Client here to what was described to me. It would require huge maturity to go about things this particular way as it is still a business arrangement but with a lot more then just money invested for xyz returned, and the important thing is that the investment is made by both, and that puts it on a different level then the norm. The term’s relationship “of sorts” and bond “of sorts” were used and the “of sorts” part is the key to understanding what it involves. If I went down this road, it would what I would want it to be. The road would be level, sheltered from the cold, both know where they stand. Both can walk together when so minded. There are no speed bumps or pot holes to trip them up, and both arrive at their respective destinations much better for the journey.

Kind regards to all.

[roryman]

Well QPH, speaking for myself, as I am new to this, I havent had a chance yet to strike up the sort of r/ship with an escort as you describe.

Its perhaps more difficult for me as I dont live in Dublin and it takes considerable arranging for me to visit an escort when I do manage to get there. (The wife just doesnt like it!)

And there is always the cost of course.

But yes, who wouldnt like to spend a bit of time with your clothes on, with someone like Violette, Brenda, Kat, Alexi D or Gemma, to name but a few?
They are all interesting and fun people to talk to, as well as being very beautiful young ladies, so I imagine having a coffee with them would be a very pleasant time.

Of course, this could only happen after time, and trust on both sides has been developed.
But at least its nice to know, they are indeed very human and not just objects of desire.
Coffee anyone?