It seems normal to me that we are attracted to beautiful things. How important that beauty is, however, is another matter. Humans tend to follow 'the crowd', want to be part of the crowd (see Twitter, etc) and so judge things like morals, ethics, justice ... and beauty by what the crowd says is right. This consensus tends to change significantly over time, so is clearly not essentially 'true' but rather fashion.
Happiness is not only hard to define but hard to grasp. The easiest way to be happy is probably to avoid actively searching for it.
While it's pretty easy to find people to do things with, the tricky bit is finding someone to do nothing with. When you do find that person ... marry them.
Originally Posted by Nicolle Yeah thats what it meant before.. too bad this rarely happens nowadays I am sorry to hear that honey ! If you don't have a formal bond, it is too easy to walk away when things are not good.
Women only seem to want to get married it's all they talk about I think it's because they think the man will change but he never does and then they complain about him constantly, when you go home to an empty house making your own dinner it's really the last thing you want to hear in work
As an escort beauty is the only thing you have so society setting standards makes it benifical ??? a person paying for sex with you is also great for confidence ,beauty also seems to get more friends ,into more social circles ,better partners or more choice of partners so more and romantic experiences and bigger social circles and better life in work and leisure where when your ugly you have limited social interactions with opposite sex ,lower confidence and self esteem ,lesser social circles ,no love life ,less opportunities and your resorted to paying a women to be with you
Originally Posted by bootboy No its not. Its a commitment to love and look after your spouse until you die. Yeah thats what it meant before.. too bad this rarely happens nowadays
Originally Posted by Nicolle Well I think you can have a family whit out getting married.. Marriage at the end of the day is just a piece of paper...I would love to get married (maybe some day) but only because of the dress haha love does weeding dresses but I'll just have a small marriage, no priest, no papers to sign... only a beach, some friends and our vows thats it for me... I dont need or want the big hassle. I think the simpler the better No its not. Its a commitment to love and look after your spouse until you die.
Originally Posted by eilogin Yes, experiences both good and bad allow you to grow as a person. Hoping that you have had more of the former than the latter to date in life... Ps, loving your new avatar by the way Good to know you like it
Originally Posted by bootboy In the majority of cases , I would guess that people get married in order to start a family . If the happiness doesn't last then , if they can afford it, they go their separate ways. Nicolle, you don't say how you feel about getting married . Would you like to one day ? If so, why ? Well I think you can have a family whit out getting married.. Marriage at the end of the day is just a piece of paper...I would love to get married (maybe some day) but only because of the dress haha love does weeding dresses but I'll just have a small marriage, no priest, no papers to sign... only a beach, some friends and our vows thats it for me... I dont need or want the big hassle. I think the simpler the better
Originally Posted by Lerxst You may share your life with many people, but those are just moments in your life - you don't really build your life with them. So I think many yearn to find someone to go on life's journey together. It's always more pleasurable to share experiences with someone than experiencing it alone. I would agree with most of your points Nicolle. You can do all the above with someone (and it might not just be 1 person) without being married. Marriage is seen as a socially mandatory - a statement to society that 2 people belong together (and some do it purely for tax purposes!). Did you not grow up looking at weddings, the beautiful bride - the beaming groom...etc? Religion of course played a major role in this "norm" - but I think it is slowly changing. How often have we seen forced weddings because the woman got pregnant? It was seen as unacceptable to have the baby out of wedlock - and often times it ended up in an unhappy marriage and ultimately divorce. So Marriage won't ensure that someone will be with you when you die. If you are lucky, you'll be the first to go - but then what about you when it is your time? You'll be alone anyway. and how did you know about the Twix!! Yes a lot of couples get married because of the baby ... some work out some don't... I just don't think that society should influence us so much and about the twix been there, done that hahaha xxx
In the majority of cases , I would guess that people get married in order to start a family . If the happiness doesn't last then , if they can afford it, they go their separate ways. Nicolle, you don't say how you feel about getting married . Would you like to one day ? If so, why ?
You may share your life with many people, but those are just moments in your life - you don't really build your life with them. So I think many yearn to find someone to go on life's journey together. It's always more pleasurable to share experiences with someone than experiencing it alone. I would agree with most of your points Nicolle. You can do all the above with someone (and it might not just be 1 person) without being married. Marriage is seen as a socially mandatory - a statement to society that 2 people belong together (and some do it purely for tax purposes!). Did you not grow up looking at weddings, the beautiful bride - the beaming groom...etc? Religion of course played a major role in this "norm" - but I think it is slowly changing. How often have we seen forced weddings because the woman got pregnant? It was seen as unacceptable to have the baby out of wedlock - and often times it ended up in an unhappy marriage and ultimately divorce. So Marriage won't ensure that someone will be with you when you die. If you are lucky, you'll be the first to go - but then what about you when it is your time? You'll be alone anyway. and how did you know about the Twix!!
Originally Posted by eilogin How does one so young become so wise, nicolle well I think life and its difficulties (and over passing them too) makes you wise... we learn from our mistakes and we grow as a person
Yup - happiness is the little things - our health helps this in every way!! I guess I am very happy even after losing dear friends etc..
Originally Posted by eilogin To me, it is to enjoy the small things in life such as a nice day, a persons company, a nice meal, a stroll in the beautiful countryside, my pet welcoming me home etc. Last sunday evening was lovely in my part of the country and i got to enjoy spending some time in the local mountains overlooking the lakes. I must say that i did have a silly big grin on my face I totally agree that money does not buy happiness, a little is nice but overall how many cars, clothes, shoes etc can a person use at once. At the end of the day you cannot take it with you; good memories are worth a lot more in my opinion. Take care, nicolle. that is exactly how it is normal to feel, to enjoy the smallest of things... i'm glad to hear that you enjoy every moment of life hun xxx
Originally Posted by lol brb Some people are continually waiting, thinking that when x y z happens they will be happy. Never being actually happy in the here and now. It's the self serving society we live in to blame. true so true.. I hate what society has done to us... xxx
Originally Posted by Lerxst Aside from the basic necessities in life, to love and be loved brings me happiness. That and a Ferrari... you can have the Ferrari hun, I'm just wishing for a driver licence haha xxx
Some people are continually waiting, thinking that when x y z happens they will be happy. Never being actually happy in the here and now. It's the self serving society we live in to blame.
Aside from the basic necessities in life, to love and be loved brings me happiness. That and a Ferrari...
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