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Perhaps it might just be ...taking and accepting what you need...giving freely what you can and, most importantly for me.....wanting and being grateful for what you already have.

Originally Posted by Nicolle

Life is not being with a companion or not it's about the simple things in life like health, family and friends. I've learned that you can never met the perfect woman/man and you can't find love if you don't love yourself first

I have inner demons and they are winning at the moment

Originally Posted by eilogin

Yes, dreams can become reality but only if you get organised and visualize this been the case. This journey is not for the faint hearted; there will be plenty of naysayers and setbacks along the way. Maintain faith and confidence in yourself and it will be rewarded in the end.

In the restaurant example you give, if one bank does not give you a loan, then ask them all. If the answer is still no, start saving then ask them all again and again.

How badly do you want that dream; are you willing to fight and spill blood and tears for it ? If the answer is no, all it ever will remain is a dream.

A good quotation from Christoper Reeves is: "So many of our dreams at first seem impossible, then they seem improbable, and then, when we summon the will, they soon become inevitable."

When i was younger i dreamed of becoming a winner of the tour de france; alas this did not come true but others have and more will continue to do so in the future. Ask nicely and i may tell you one of them some day soon

ohh I will ask very nicely when we met
But returning to the matter in hand, yes you acomplish them through faith and confidence and will but what happens after? after we acomplished our dream? are we ever really satisfied. I find human nature to not be satisfied. When you want a BMW and you get it you feel the joy at first but after you want an aston martin or in the case of a restaurant.. ok you did it but after you want 2 and after 3... we're does this lead us? a wholle life of trying to get what we want and realising at the end that it wasn't really what we needed?

Originally Posted by celticden

Hun I had a dream since I was 13-14 just to meet a girl that would love me and I her I'm nearly 30 I have had little to no female companionship I have resorted to paying to being with a women which I feel shit about all the time ,if you had little to none companionship with a man or men or no man was attracted to you how opptimistic would you be ??

Life is not being with a companion or not it's about the simple things in life like health, family and friends. I've learned that you can never met the perfect woman/man and you can't find love if you don't love yourself first

Originally Posted by Nicolle

Come on hun, you have to be more optimistic... they will eventually come true xxx

Sorry meant to reply to that comment

Originally Posted by Nicolle

But how can you know when it's a closer to fantasy or reality? (im not talking about somebody who wants to be a vampire haha)
Kids always dream that they will be presidents or balerinas, but in time society takes all the good from that dream and they crush it, isn't this what happens to adult dreams too?
Let's say that your dream is to open a restaurant but the bank crushes it because they will never give you loan...I think again society diminushes our dreams...

Hun I had a dream since I was 13-14 just to meet a girl that would love me and I her I'm nearly 30 I have had little to no female companionship I have resorted to paying to being with a women which I feel shit about all the time ,if you had little to none companionship with a man or men or no man was attracted to you how opptimistic would you be ??

yeah but society often makes women feel inferior:
" ohhh shes's angry because she on her period"
"that's a man job you can't do it"
"ohh you're a single mother who works? Poor children"

I think women don't really get confidence from the society, well neither do men but women tend to be more run down by society then men

Originally Posted by Patt113

While it's pretty easy to find people to do things with, the tricky bit is finding someone to do nothing with.
When you do find that person ... marry them.

thats what my mother used to say. when you find a person in which you find comfort even when they are silent marry them

Originally Posted by Mister Anderson

Don't be afraid to dream big but don't forget to plan accordingly.

wise words very wise ...

Originally Posted by Lerxst

Dreams are only dreams and will remain dreams unless you pursue them. Then they become an objective or goal. I think dreams and fantasy are often the same.

As for secret dream... I'll keep that to myself (unless you twist my arm)

ohhh good to know thats how I am going to get it out of you hun haha and I thought that the sad kitty eyes would do haha

Originally Posted by Patt113

If a dream is merely an ambition or aspiration, then why should it not come true?
If it is closer to fantasy, then it will surely remain just a dream.
Escorts are probably the nearest thing to fantasy being realised but, outside of that world, making dreams come true is hard work.
The dream of mine that I haven't told anybody ... that is my little secret ... well, a secret is a secret after all.

But how can you know when it's a closer to fantasy or reality? (im not talking about somebody who wants to be a vampire haha)
Kids always dream that they will be presidents or balerinas, but in time society takes all the good from that dream and they crush it, isn't this what happens to adult dreams too?
Let's say that your dream is to open a restaurant but the bank crushes it because they will never give you loan...I think again society diminushes our dreams...

Originally Posted by celticden

I have learned the hard way my dreams will never come true and this is it just to endure as long as I can or am able to

Come on hun, you have to be more optimistic... they will eventually come true xxx

Don't be afraid to dream big but don't forget to plan accordingly.

A dream is just a goal without a plan. Planning is what gets you there, failure to reach a target is often just the result of poor planning. NASA didn't just wish their way to the moon , Beethoven didn't just hope his 5th symphony would write itself ;)

My dreams have changed over the years. They use to be very immature, vague yearnings for money and success. Now they revolve around my skills and abilities and they are more tangible. I've made them concrete by making plans, setting targets and timelines. I thought it through and I decided my dream will be my reality. The alternative is to live in someone else's reality.

Dreams are only dreams and will remain dreams unless you pursue them. Then they become an objective or goal. I think dreams and fantasy are often the same.

As for secret dream... I'll keep that to myself (unless you twist my arm)

If a dream is merely an ambition or aspiration, then why should it not come true?
If it is closer to fantasy, then it will surely remain just a dream.
Escorts are probably the nearest thing to fantasy being realised but, outside of that world, making dreams come true is hard work.
The dream of mine that I haven't told anybody ... that is my little secret ... well, a secret is a secret after all.

I have learned the hard way my dreams will never come true and this is it just to endure as long as I can or am able to

Originally Posted by Patt113

The movie 'As Good as it Gets' includes the following quote from a writer who is asked about his ability to write about women in his books:
Q:How do you write women so well?
A: I think of a man, and I take away reason and accountability.

This is not wholly true but is rather funny.

haha it truly is funny... and let's be honest a bit true hahaha

The movie 'As Good as it Gets' includes the following quote from a writer who is asked about his ability to write about women in his books:
Q:How do you write women so well?
A: I think of a man, and I take away reason and accountability.

This is not wholly true but is rather funny.

I doubt that being 'real' depends on gender. It is surely as easy to be a woman lacking in confidence as a man.
Some societies make more demands on men than on women, such as being 'successful', 'strong', etc, which can cause crises of confidence in some, and this may express itself as an impression that "women are born with more confidence than men".
Women do sometimes have their confidence/status boosted by their friends, while men tend to be more likely to deal with 'issues' like confidence on their own. This, they believe, makes them 'real men'. An unwillingness to emote can be negative but in a society where everything is shared now, it may actually be sometimes refreshing.