What is Domination to You?

[Curvaceous Kate]

My first mild Domme session seemed to go well Happy days!

[Curvaceous Kate]

That's pretty much my take on it anyway.

I would add a few things.

I really love a lady who ties you up and really takes the time to tease you, practically get you off....but not quite. I've nearly tried to break free of the restraints a few times. Blindfold is excellent when used correctly. I find that changing pitch of voice, and focusing on different areas is best.

A little spanking never hurt anyone.

Strap on can be kinky as hell, but it can't be mechanical and must have the correct tempo for the mood. Smoothering is something I have tried recently, and I found it quite kinky.

Spitting can be okay, but you must be really able to do this well. Not everyone would like to get spat at in the face after handing over a few hundred quid.

And if you're a real expert, you may even try surprise the client. One lady in particular did this when she kneed me in the balls as I was leaving. Was not expecting it it at all. I was bent over outside the door and I found myself saying "you sexy, kinky bitch, I'm in love". Not saying that I want a smack in the balls every time.

My point is, you have to assess the mood, and adapt accordingly. Seduction is key for getting them to the right level in my opinion.

I personally could not to the knee balling thing or spitting in someones face. I do believe that it helps when you know someone a little and what makes them tick, where their sensitive areas are and what their pain threshold is like. The more you know, the better prepared you can be.

[Davidontour]

My first mild Domme session seemed to go well Happy days!

It went phenomenally well. As a submissive with a fair amount of experience, I can tell you that you have the attitude, the toys and the skills and I loved every minute of it. Blindfolds and nipple clamps really get me going, but it's those hidden little extras and unexpected humiliations that make a scene really special. I had a hell of a lot of fun today.

[Dr. Ivory]

Interesting to see the progression of this - mild domination is only a matter of confidence and paying a little attention. There is a massive stress in being the dominant, but you seem to have managed it well. This is a nice thread. So, tempted to try something a little serious ?

[Curvaceous Kate]

Interesting to see the progression of this - mild domination is only a matter of confidence and paying a little attention. There is a massive stress in being the dominant, but you seem to have managed it well. This is a nice thread. So, tempted to try something a little serious ?

Maybe send a pm to explain what serious really is?

[nickbarns]

I myself and currently looking to meet someone for mild domination.
I am not over experienced in these matters although I have seen a couple over the years.
I will expect her to take control from start to finish verbally and in a commanding manner. ie. Telling me exactly what to do and when to do it ie. Lick her feet, clean her ass with my tongue, and hopefully she will make me suck her strap on before she uses it on me .
I would class that s mild domination .
Spanking, clamps, whips, wax and so on I class as bdsm.
x x

[Anitafan]

I personally could not to the knee balling thing or spitting in someones face. I do believe that it helps when you know someone a little and what makes them tick, where their sensitive areas are and what their pain threshold is like. The more you know, the better prepared you can be.

Although I have had it done to me, I do not get spitting. I see it as degrading, which is not something I seek in a domination session. However, I find that Mistress letting her saliva drip slowly into my mouth very erotic, for some reason.

[slavetoyou]

Domination is many different things to different people.

To me it is my life, it is all I live for. The only purpose I feel is to serve my Mistress, to do whatever she wishes. It is how far I will go, what pain I will take, what disgusting acts I will do, what humiliation I will endure. It is handing over complete control to my Mistress. You cannot refuse to do anything that is asked of you, you hand over your soul.
All these acts are done to prove your devotion to your Mistress. Domination means to be dominated in every way.

[Davidontour]

Domination is many different things to different people.

To me it is my life, it is all I live for. The only purpose I feel is to serve my Mistress, to do whatever she wishes. It is how far I will go, what pain I will take, what disgusting acts I will do, what humiliation I will endure. It is handing over complete control to my Mistress. You cannot refuse to do anything that is asked of you, you hand over your soul.
All these acts are done to prove your devotion to your Mistress. Domination means to be dominated in every way.

Once again I hugely admire your dedication. For me, domination is a recreational activity which I enjoy once or twice a month. I'm always open to new scenarios and activities, but to completely live the lifestyle as you do is something I can only imagine.

[compak]

Although I have had it done to me, I do not get spitting. I see it as degrading, which is not something I seek in a domination session. However, I find that Mistress letting her saliva drip slowly into my mouth very erotic, for some reason.

Same boat re spitting.

I do not like to be dominated because I should be demeaned and treated in disgust, but because she should be exalted -if that makes sense. So being spat on is not for me, but the opportunity to taste her spit is cherished.

I do think a price/ punishment is to be paid to worship her and that her desires are obviously priority, but that is because she knows what she deserves, and that such opportunity comes at a price for appreciation - not that she is disgusted or repulsed by me.

I think it's quite nuanced.