In love and punting at the same time ?

[Morpheus]

so what you're saying Amber is we're all prostitutes :-)

No Rodders! She's calling you a man-whore! You stud!!

[Morpheus]

I'm not sure I quite understand but I think you mean it is different as an escort. It is just a job, just sex so you can still be in love with your partner. Well isn't this the same as punting kind off? If you are looking for just sex. The physical. You are not looking for a relationship etc.

Maybe it is different but isn't it all having sex with other people for personal gain?

I don't know Amber. I think it is very different for clients and escorts. I think it's a lot easier for an escort to compartmentalize this part of her life - "as her job" and stay emotionally detached. Particularly because the 'gain factor' is primarily financial.

For clients - it is more murky territory. Clealry the main part of the transaction on the clients perspective is pure physical pleasure. But it would be unrealistic to deny that sex can be a very emotional experience. Hence it's a lot easier for a client to get confused and get emotionally attached to an escort.

Either way, I doubt if the partners of escorts or punters alike will ever see this activity as acceptable if they found out!

[Morpheus]

Do you think that a client can be genuinely and fully in love with his civvy street partner and yet punt with escorts at the same time ?

Interesting question Steve. I suspect you're asking whether each of us thinks it's acceptable or not, rather than whether it's physically possible. Because clearly there are many men in relationships (and still 'in love') who visit escorts.

Again it depends on what you mean by 'in love'. Some posters have shared quite openly on previous threads that they still love their partners and are dedicated to them but the 'sex life' has ended a long time ago. I feel for men in this predicament and think that this is probably the best outlet for sexual frustration (provided you don't get found out!).

I am single and have pretty much given up on the whole long term relationship thing - hence visiting escorts is a wonderful haven for me.

However, I would be concerned if I found myself back in a loving relationship with an active sex life and was still punting. I think that would bode poorly on the long term prospects of the relationship.

Again to each his own. And until we've walked oin the shoes of another man, we shouldn't judge him.

[mellors]

I don't know Amber. I think it is very different for clients and escorts. I think it's a lot easier for an escort to compartmentalize this part of her life - "as her job" and stay emotionally detached. Particularly because the 'gain factor' is primarily financial.

For clients - it is more murky territory. Clealry the main part of the transaction on the clients perspective is pure physical pleasure. But it would be unrealistic to deny that sex can be a very emotional experience. Hence it's a lot easier for a client to get confused and get emotionally attached to an escort.

Either way, I doubt if the partners of escorts or punters alike will ever see this activity as acceptable if they found out!

Well done again Morph, exactly what I was trying to say before I gave up half way through. However, some partners seem to be happy enough with the other half working as an escort, whereas I doubt so many punters partners would feel the same that they were seeing escorts.